My scale is like a drug to me....I gotta have it every day!!! My husband go so sick of me talking to it every morning he hid it....lol I get it on saturday mornings now...ha ha...  I had a 2 week stall recently and it drove me nuts...I would start taking all my clothes off then weigh myself....step forward and backwards on the damn scale...lol.... hopefully this saturday I'll see some loss!!! I bet my scales hopes so also....

The same thing happend to me the last two weeks, doctor said I wasn't getting enough calories in so my weight loss slowed down completely...It was so fustrating!!! I finally saw a 3 lb loss the other day and trying to up my intake with good foods, beans, meats, shakes, etc.

I am not allowed to eat snack either, I don't even eat bread or oatmeal. Afraid of not lossing fast enough.

Cat

I know we shouldn't weigh ourselves every day (but I always have) and we aren't supposed to compare ourselves to others (but...yea, I do that too).  I had RNY on 1-14-09 and have lost 41 lbs.  I know that is awesome and I never would have lost that much without having my surgery, but still, I thought it would be more by now.  I think what I am looking for is confirmation that I am not going to be THE ONE who has this major surgery and only loses 45 lbs.  I'm still afraid of failing because I always have before.  Some people say the weight is just melting off of them.  Well, not me.  I'm afraid that when I go for my 3 mo. post-op in April I will be mortified because I haven't lost enough.

So sorry you are going through this Sooner.  There is NOTHING wrong with you ... you just want that security feeling of being married.  My hubby and I have been together since August of 2000 ... we got engaged in December of 2002 & we just got married July 2007!  What is it that will be different if you guys get married tomorrow or in 2 years?  The only thing different will be the security measures.  You will still have your ups and downs and do everything the same.  I know you love your boyfriend and he loves you ... maybe you should sit down and talk about the future with him.  Ask him where he wants to be in 2 years and go from there.  Why would you ever call yourself a failure because you are not married???  ... it will happen if it is ment to be, this I promise luv!

I had my surgery on 1/19. I was taking meds before surgery for bipolar. I have had many days where i have been a total mess. I too have had a hard time with finding new "entertainment". That's what my hubby and i use to do. We joined the YMCA as a family and have only been 2 as a family. I just have to go on my own...this is something i HAVE to do for myself..with or without my family's support.

I had a had time for a while with the vitamins making me sick too. I quit taking them for about a week and was even more sick. My mom suggested taking them b4 i went to bed to avoid the ill effects. I take all of them b4 i g to bed and feel pretty good when i wake up. I think a lot of me feeling sick had to do with not getting in enough water. Dehydration has horrible side effects. I have lost weight but not as much/fast as i thought/think i should. I look in the mirror/pictures and still see a fat girl. I hope my mind catches up with my body soon.

Your not alone. I finally broke down and told my surgeon at my 6 week check up how i really felt and to my surprise he was sooooo caring and sympathetic. He hugged me and reassured me that i was normal and to hang in there. TALK to your surgeon or at the very least his nurse. You are totally normal in feeling this way. Especially if you are having complications.

It was good that you came here for support. That's what we are all here for.
Hang in there girl. It does get better!