I can't help but wonder...

I know we shouldn't weigh ourselves every day (but I always have) and we aren't supposed to compare ourselves to others (but...yea, I do that too).  I had RNY on 1-14-09 and have lost 41 lbs.  I know that is awesome and I never would have lost that much without having my surgery, but still, I thought it would be more by now.  I think what I am looking for is confirmation that I am not going to be THE ONE who has this major surgery and only loses 45 lbs.  I'm still afraid of failing because I always have before.  Some people say the weight is just melting off of them.  Well, not me.  I'm afraid that when I go for my 3 mo. post-op in April I will be mortified because I haven't lost enough.

Jane,
Everyone is different... I had surgery the same day as you and I have lost 56.5 pounds. I am not sure what your weight was on surgery. Have you checked your measurements??? When I think that I am not loosing weight I take my measurements and see some loss and that makes me feel better. I am very lucky that with my job I am up and walking around a lot and whenever I want to. We also have a gym on-site and I will use the treadmills for a few mins a couple times a day then go home and work out for about 30 mins or so. Make sure you are getting your protein and fluids in also.. I have noticed that when I don't get enough protein in I don't loose weight.
We are all different and our bodies react differently to the surgery and the change. For me a lot of the motivation is to be a in regular sizes. I have always been a big girl so I am so excited to get into "regular" sizes..

Keep on doing what you are doing!!
Chrissy

I thought i was the only one who felt like that!!!!
Sorry to hear that your going through the same stuff...glad you were brave enough to talk about it on here...makes me feel not so bad.

I am constantly worrying if i am losing enough or fast enough. I don't want to be the one that "didn't" lose or failed after being given this wonderful gift. I have lost weight but have struggled with everything. Getting in all my vitamin's, getting in all my water, doing ANY kind of exercises, following a super strict diet and the list goes on. If i have not followed directions so far and have still lost weight....what a dumb @$$ i am...if i were doing EVERYTHING i was suppose to be doing, then i would probably have lost more by now...then i beat myself up and get depressed and then all i want to do is snack and if you call 2 girl scout thin mint cookies "eating through your feelings" then there ya go. I cant eat a whole book so that's good...but i still turn to food....grrrrrrr.

Other days i just do my best to get in what i can...try not to be so hard on myself and just get through the day. I still don't put myself first...its always work, kids, husband, dogs everything else and then maybe me. That's something i MUST work on. I have to stop making so many excuses and do right by myself. No one else will do it for me. Its not a luxury....its a necessity. Going to the gym after work  is not selfish!!! No one has made me feel bad for wanting to go but i always feel like i should be doing something for someone else. Then when i am doing something for someone else...then i am like....what am i doing...i should be at the gym!!!!


Yes...I'm a mess....glad to hear that others are too!!

(((hugs)))

Well let's see I had mine about 14 days after yours it was open...which sucked...and then I've had gout...so I don't get all my protein in ..I avg. maybe 15 to 20 grams a day...I'm not allowed any supplements right now it's only from what I eat..and even that is generous because I don't think it's that much. I can't excercise and I can barely walk from my gout. I've lost 62lbs. by doing nothing....nope I don't feel different, I don't feel any better and yes I wish I could do some excercises...the whole thing is yes everyone is different and no matter how much we talk about our experiences...it's your own journey...

I do what I can and hopefully after almost 2 months of gout and not going anywhere but my bed and my couch and to work as of recent...I'm hanging in there...I don't get all my water and I too struggle wtih my vitamins...and obviously my protein....

Hang in there girl....I know I'm trying....Just think slower weight loss maybe less excess skin???


Keep the Faith....

I had surgery the same day as you, and I agree it is hard not to weigh in daily, and not to compare your weight loss to others,with that said I feel the same way you do, I eat what I should, and exercise 4-5 days a week, and I have lost a total of 51 pounds, 20 of them before surgery and the other 31 after,my surgeon thinks I am doing a great job, and to keep doing what I have been and he says the weight will come off, I do know that I am losing inches when the scale stalls, as I was wearing a size 22-24 pants and can now fit into a 18, with some of them fitting loosely. I guess we all want instant gratifacation, and it is actually better to loose it slowly then too fast. I have also been told that the less you weight before surgery the slower the weight comes off, I hope this is true, because I did not have a major surgery to loose this amount of weight. Lets stick to our programs abd hope for the best, at least we are losing and not gaining right? Good Luck to you!!