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Topic: RE: floundering, and so sad.......
Jen-
I really liked what Belle said...
I just wanted to add and reiterate a few things...
You are not a failure!!!! You've lost 80 pounds- go try and lift it- bet you can't!!! You will follow what you tell yourself. For every time you say or think I'm a failure- you HAVE to say I'm a woman who's lost 80 pounds. I STILL have to do this every time I look in the mirror and I really do think it helps. My mind says you still look fat and I have to say to myself you are NOT fat.
Now- on the multiples front- there's a bunch of us on here and we can all back you on this one- I don't care how many kids you have or how close together they are- Multiple children are tough. They require more. One of my triplets has mild CP, another one is SPED, and another one is so good at everything he's lazy... but I know the Dr appts and meetings and everything else they entail and it adds up. Add to that a little depression and you've got a problem. If you haven't tried an antidepressant- nows the time. I've been on them previously and they helped tremendously.
The other thing I wanted to say was I want you to know how much easier my life has gotten since the triplets entered Kindergarten this fall. They only go for 3 hours- but it is divine. It is MY time and I can do whatever I want. On MWF I usually go and exercise and T and Th run errands. I want you to look forward to that time coming...but in the meantime- do NOT hideaway. Not sure if that makes sense to you- but that's how i got fat. I literally was overwhelmed from the triplets, my husband, my 2 step-children and especially myself. I hid for years just eating away the time. This past spring when I had gained 12 pounds- I told my husband I didn't want to go to a party (and we NEVER go out) because I was too embarrassed about my weight. Can you believe it- at a freaking normal weight and I'm still acting like a nutjob? You have to hang in there, get out and be proud. 80 pounds- seriously- you lift it!!!
I just started tracking again- that's an easy way to start fresh. It shows me where I'm going awry and reinforces my good choices. I also stay active here on this forum- especially Mondays- keeps me on track and focused...
Sorry to ramble- but your post touched me...
Holly
I really liked what Belle said...
I just wanted to add and reiterate a few things...
You are not a failure!!!! You've lost 80 pounds- go try and lift it- bet you can't!!! You will follow what you tell yourself. For every time you say or think I'm a failure- you HAVE to say I'm a woman who's lost 80 pounds. I STILL have to do this every time I look in the mirror and I really do think it helps. My mind says you still look fat and I have to say to myself you are NOT fat.
Now- on the multiples front- there's a bunch of us on here and we can all back you on this one- I don't care how many kids you have or how close together they are- Multiple children are tough. They require more. One of my triplets has mild CP, another one is SPED, and another one is so good at everything he's lazy... but I know the Dr appts and meetings and everything else they entail and it adds up. Add to that a little depression and you've got a problem. If you haven't tried an antidepressant- nows the time. I've been on them previously and they helped tremendously.
The other thing I wanted to say was I want you to know how much easier my life has gotten since the triplets entered Kindergarten this fall. They only go for 3 hours- but it is divine. It is MY time and I can do whatever I want. On MWF I usually go and exercise and T and Th run errands. I want you to look forward to that time coming...but in the meantime- do NOT hideaway. Not sure if that makes sense to you- but that's how i got fat. I literally was overwhelmed from the triplets, my husband, my 2 step-children and especially myself. I hid for years just eating away the time. This past spring when I had gained 12 pounds- I told my husband I didn't want to go to a party (and we NEVER go out) because I was too embarrassed about my weight. Can you believe it- at a freaking normal weight and I'm still acting like a nutjob? You have to hang in there, get out and be proud. 80 pounds- seriously- you lift it!!!
I just started tracking again- that's an easy way to start fresh. It shows me where I'm going awry and reinforces my good choices. I also stay active here on this forum- especially Mondays- keeps me on track and focused...
Sorry to ramble- but your post touched me...
Holly
Topic: RE: floundering, and so sad.......
Jen-
Your doctor won't tell you that you are a failure, because YOU ARE NOT! 80 pounds is AWESOME, and you are re-gaining! Please give yourself some credit for your successes.
I can imagine your frustration at stalling when you haven't reached your goal, but I sincerely believe that it is not too late to get there. Have you tried the 5 Day pouch test? It is like a crash course back to the basics of post-surgery. I have done it twice, just to get back in touch with what I am eating and how much. Here is the link.
http://www.5daypouchtest.com/
Also, if you haven't talked with your doc about an anti-depressant, you might consider it. It is hard to make good choices sometimes even when life is great, but it is near impossible when life has you feeling beat down or exhausted. I have 4 kids, including 2 year old twins, and although my kids are all healthy and happy, they can really wear me out. I notice when I am tired or stress, I immediately find myself standing in front of the fridge. It is terrifying how easy those behaviors surface.
BUT every day IS a new day! Focus on what you HAVE done, not what you haven't. You can do it!
Your doctor won't tell you that you are a failure, because YOU ARE NOT! 80 pounds is AWESOME, and you are re-gaining! Please give yourself some credit for your successes.
I can imagine your frustration at stalling when you haven't reached your goal, but I sincerely believe that it is not too late to get there. Have you tried the 5 Day pouch test? It is like a crash course back to the basics of post-surgery. I have done it twice, just to get back in touch with what I am eating and how much. Here is the link.
http://www.5daypouchtest.com/
Also, if you haven't talked with your doc about an anti-depressant, you might consider it. It is hard to make good choices sometimes even when life is great, but it is near impossible when life has you feeling beat down or exhausted. I have 4 kids, including 2 year old twins, and although my kids are all healthy and happy, they can really wear me out. I notice when I am tired or stress, I immediately find myself standing in front of the fridge. It is terrifying how easy those behaviors surface.
BUT every day IS a new day! Focus on what you HAVE done, not what you haven't. You can do it!
BEL
Topic: floundering, and so sad.......
I am beautiful, no matter what they say, words cant bring me down
I am beautiful, in every single way, words cant bring me down.
Hi ladies-
Its been forever since I have posted here,mostly because I have stayed away, because I am afraid to show my face. I am almost 2 years out. I have lost 80 lbs, but havent lost anything in around 6 months. I am still 70 lbs from my goal. On the plus side, I have made permanent life changes, decaf coffee, lots of water, protein shakes and bars, on the minus, way too much carbs. I have 3 sons, including almost 4 year old twins.. One of them has Asbergers syndrome (a form of autism) Needless to say, life with him is hard. I struggle with depression on my best days. I see everyone who had surgery when I did who have lost so much more than me. I want to get back on track, I just dont know how... I want to get to goal and have my body lifted, or at the least, I dont want to go for my 2 year in Jan, and have the Dr tell me what a failure I am... Thanks for listening.
Jen
Roux-en-Y Jan 7, 2007
SW 299
CW 219
Its been forever since I have posted here,mostly because I have stayed away, because I am afraid to show my face. I am almost 2 years out. I have lost 80 lbs, but havent lost anything in around 6 months. I am still 70 lbs from my goal. On the plus side, I have made permanent life changes, decaf coffee, lots of water, protein shakes and bars, on the minus, way too much carbs. I have 3 sons, including almost 4 year old twins.. One of them has Asbergers syndrome (a form of autism) Needless to say, life with him is hard. I struggle with depression on my best days. I see everyone who had surgery when I did who have lost so much more than me. I want to get back on track, I just dont know how... I want to get to goal and have my body lifted, or at the least, I dont want to go for my 2 year in Jan, and have the Dr tell me what a failure I am... Thanks for listening.
Jen
Roux-en-Y Jan 7, 2007
SW 299
CW 219
I am beautiful, no matter what they say, words cant bring me down
I am beautiful, in every single way, words cant bring me down.
Topic: RE: Monday Morning Weigh Ins
Wow Steph that is a huge jump I bet not all of it was water. Congrats hon. Keep up the great work we are all proud of you and continue praying.
HW 270
SW 255
LW 138.5
CW 136.8
Yay down 1.7 lbs. Ugh this maintaining stuff is hard 
Topic: RE: UGH!!!!!
High Wt. 251.5/Goal 150/Current 145 39 yrs. old, 5' 6" tall, Size 1
December 22, 2009~~ BA, Fleur de Lis Tummy Tuck, Sm. Thigh lift
Dr. Francisco Sauceda, Monterrey, Mexico
Well, the only advice (lame as it is) that I have to give is what you already know....don't give up asking for what you need and want, and always be your own health advocate. I don't think that you are being a hypochondriac if you are having both physical and chemical symptoms. I guess you'll have to just keep pushing and educating your providers on the importance of post-op vitamin/mineral levels. Low levels for too long could literally kill us, or at the very least lead to irreversible damage.
Are they going to order a seperate Vit. D test for you soon?
Are they going to order a seperate Vit. D test for you soon?
High Wt. 251.5/Goal 150/Current 145 39 yrs. old, 5' 6" tall, Size 1
December 22, 2009~~ BA, Fleur de Lis Tummy Tuck, Sm. Thigh lift
Dr. Francisco Sauceda, Monterrey, Mexico
Topic: RE: Monday Morning Weigh Ins
High Wt. 251.5/Goal 150/Current 145 39 yrs. old, 5' 6" tall, Size 1
December 22, 2009~~ BA, Fleur de Lis Tummy Tuck, Sm. Thigh lift
Dr. Francisco Sauceda, Monterrey, Mexico
Aww, thanks for the hugs...I need 'em since I'm not getting any lovin' from the man. Sadly, he has never been the hands-on type of father or husband for that matter, but is always a good provider...that's the part he's really good at. It's taken many years for me to accept being mostly responsible for the kids, with a little back-up form him here and there. But, to have that little bit taken away is brutal! I can only imagine that it is really going to be rough when/if I get into nursing school since I will be so busy myself. I wonder how he will handle being the one who must take care of the kids, no matter what, no excuses. All these years he thought he actually had a choice in the matter because I was always here. Silly boy...he's in for a huge shock!!
High Wt. 251.5/Goal 150/Current 145 39 yrs. old, 5' 6" tall, Size 1
December 22, 2009~~ BA, Fleur de Lis Tummy Tuck, Sm. Thigh lift
Dr. Francisco Sauceda, Monterrey, Mexico
Topic: RE: UGH!!!!!
Brit - nope you're not going crazy. Sounds like no one is clear on what you should take and when. If I were you I would call your doctor's office and ask for the doctor to call you back personally. THis is your health we're talking about here. Make sure and mention how tired you are. Good luck. Keep us posted.
highest 239/Day of surgery 225/Current 119 TT and Breast Lift 3/08
Topic: RE: Monday Morning Weigh Ins
Awww Suz, I know it gets hard when we lose our help for a little while. I know that when Dave is working and not home to help put the kids to bed for one night I feel a little resentment. I know I shouldn't but I can't help it. Of course it goes away mostly. It's hard being a Mom, especially a single one. He'll be back to ya soon!! (((hugs))))
highest 239/Day of surgery 225/Current 119 TT and Breast Lift 3/08
Topic: RE: Monday Morning Weigh Ins
Steph!!! I don't care where the 7 lbs came from, if I were you I'd grab them quick and claim them. lol!
HW 238
SW 225
LW118
Current 119
Have a great week ladies!
HW 238
SW 225
LW118
Current 119
Have a great week ladies!
highest 239/Day of surgery 225/Current 119 TT and Breast Lift 3/08
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