I'm lost and trying to find my way back

Hello to all!!!!! I've been reading some of the Message board, haven't been on in a while . Seems for the most part a lot of people are doing good or on their way back to getting on track. Well I am not and have not been on track for some time now and am sooo nervous where my road is leading. I am hungry all the time and instead of eating things that are good for me, I lean more towards breads and sugar..just like prior to surgery . I don't dump or have any repercussion for my poor eating selection and my willpower has almost left me . My hair is continually falling out, I thought that would have stopped by now.. but guess I thought wrong. I have no hair around the baseline of my head. On the flip side, I am happy with the current me and am so glad I had RNY!!!! I just fear returning to the old me. I keep telling myself evey morning this is a new day and you can do it... then I fail..

Sonya, I think maybe your hair is still falling out because you are not getting enough protein. How long have you been off the wagon so to speak. I know you say you are making poor choices but are you eating the things you need to as well? That is very important even as far out as we are. I find if I eat what I am supposed to I just don't have room for anything else. Also are you exercising? That too is important. Please tell me you are still taking all your suppliments. Drink lots of water...that too helps in the feeling full department. Hope this helps...you can do it!!! Anna

Anna, thanks for your reply. I now believe I've not been getting enough protein either. Today I had a shake for the first time in a while and I forgot how filling they are!!!! I've been off the wagon for a couple of months now (my ceiling on the first floor of my apartment fell in due to the 2nd floor bathroom sink overflowing and it was downhill for me every since). I may have said a lot there, admitting that stress has triggered my poor eating habits and benging... Well, hopfully I'll continue to take the shakes or getting more protein in everyday and my hair will stop falling out in the clumps that it is and I won't continue to eat everything in the house!!!! Thanks for the encouragement!!!!! Sonya

You are so right....every day is a new beginning. But, it only matters if you take advantage of that gift of a new day. You can turn this around any time that you are really ready to...you just need to decide to be ready. It is so hard to get back to protein first, and healthy carb choices last...but it is essential to our success. Also...supplements are forever...I hope that you aren't skipping those!! We can't do without the protein...ever! Your hair, and muscles, may be paying the price for your choices of breads and sugars instead of more filling options...for your health you must change that! I know what a slippery slope our poor food choices can be...it's so easy to eat the "good" stuff...it goes down so easy and tastes so good! But, that's also what made us into the people that needed WLS to begin with...none of us want to go back there. Perhaps with some extra support here, you can get back on track and borrow some "willpower" until you are able to find your own again. I am here to help you in any way that I can or that you need...just say the word! I will pass along any tips or advice that I am able. I'm certainly not perfect...I make poor choices on a frequent basis...but I continually try to make better ones the next time around. I think that's all we can ask of ourselves...to continually strive to do better. I wish you the best, Sonya...and look forward to hearing from you soon. ~Suz

Sonya - both Anna and Suz make great points about the protein, supplements and exercise. Don't forget the water also - water is a great way to drive away a craving for a bit. Down an 8 oz glass instead of reaching for a snack and see if that will help. I am struggling as well and know exactly how you feel when it comes to will power. It is so easy to slip back into those old comfy habits. Grabbing carbs that are quick when we feel hunger and for me even eating when I know I'm not really hungry. I feel the most guilty for that because that is such a huge blessing from this surgery - not to feel the intense hunger - I do best when I eat small portions frequently. Never give up - coming this far is such a great feeling - you can make it to the finish line! Marilyn

Hi Sonya: I don't have any good advice for you right now because I am in the same place as you are. I say every day that I am going to get back on track but I have done so yet....But I do still have faith that I will eventually and the sooner the better. If we don't try we will not make it but knowing we need to make changes is the first step to getting things back in line. And you have also made the proper steps such as starting your protein back..so lets both practice making a least one positive change each day until we are back where we know we should be. Good luck to you! Steph

Ok, It must be something in the water.. OH WAIT!! Cant be because we arent drinking it I too have slipped into my old ways.. Snacking on crackers and m&m's and everything else i can get my hands on.. OMG!!! I soooooo dont wanna go back, but I cant seem to push myself into going the right way!!