So maybe I don't look as good as I think!

I saw family this last weekend that I hadn't seen in a long time and got tons of compliments from everyone except an aunt, who never compliments anyone (seriously... it is kind of a running joke between my mother and I about how unkind she is to everyone.) I did not worry about it at all, though, and my mom and I laughed about it afterward that my aunt had behaved exactly how we expected. BUT THEN she calls my mom tonight and wants to know if I am anorexic and what is wrong with me and what is wrong with my hair!!! UHG! I am so annoyed. I finally am feeling good about myself, and even sexy again occasionally, and now I am wondering if I am deluded, and in fact look horrible but just don't realize it?! Double UGH! Oh, and I am mad that I am letting this negative person have control over the way I feel about myself. And then of course I feel helpless that I could not even respond to her ignorant remarks because they weren't made to me. TRIPLE UGH! Just had to vent... Thanks for listing.

Hey! I hate dealing with people like this. You've already put to much into it by venting... She should be laughed at instead. She sounds petty and unhappy. Don't let her take it away from you... You do look awesome! I just have NO time for people like her... sorry family or not! I'm sure everyone on here has or will deal with someone like her someday! I've just told myself there is NO ONE out there that is going to burst my bubble!!! Hope you have a better day tommorow! Stace

Yup - I've been told that and it does bother me. I honestly think people are so used to us being heavy, when we get to goal weight, well they don't recognize us and aren't used to us this way, so then we become anorexic to them! But seriously, I look in the mirror and don't see anorexic. I have some meat to me. You are sexy and don't let one person get you down. Keep doing your thing!! Is it possible that she's jelous?

At one of my mom's meetings I left my chair and came back and there was a note on it telling me to watch 20/20- this was last friday. The note was anonymous. So my husband and i watched it- I never watch TV. The first section was on Tom Cruise and I figured that was why I was supposed to watch it cuz I don't like him- Brooke Shields and i had post-partum at about the same time... but the last section was on older women getting anorexia. My husband said- that was why I was told to watch it and I disagreed... anyways... my point is- I'm getting those comments too- so I point blank asked my therapist and he LAUGHED!!!! He has some anorexics and he said when I was 100 pounds then he'd worry. Seriously we discussed how I am WELL within a normal BMI range and that some of these people that make these comments either never knew me before i was fat or have some jealousy-type issues of their own. We discussed my previous role in the family- jolly, fat and laid-back, easy to laugh... well- people get wierd when you start changing any family dynamics and they don't like it cuz it's change and that can be scary... so ignore her!!! You look great and you deserve to feel proud for all of your hard work!!! Just my 2 cents... Holly

Thanks ladies. At least I am not alone. This is my first experience with this. My aunt is super vain, and this is the first time EVER that I have beenthinner than her. I don't weigh less because she is short and I am amazonian, but I definitely think I look better and it is probably killing her. Rrrrr... I just wish I did not let it hurt my feelings. I woke up this morning and kept running my fingers through my hair and wondering how bad it really looks. Maybe I cannot see it myself. Rogaine maybe? lol!

OMG unbelievable, I can not believe someone would do that. How many women in your Mom's group? Wonder were they all in on it. Gosh, at least have the nerve to talk to you, how childish. 'They knew you when you were heavy and I'm sure this is just so shocking to them and there could be some jealously. I know that my best friend never talks about my weight loss, didn't tell me happy surgiversary, never tells me that she checked out my website, nothing. It hurts my feelings. I honestly think she keeps her mouth shut because she thinks I should have stopped at 150ish. She's not used to me being thin, so to her I'm anorexic. Give me a break! I love to eat and I am only 5'2 at 123 lbs?? Also, what about the doctors goal? What about a healthy BMI??? I am in the normal range. I am still in shock over what someone did to you!! UGH!

OMGosh you are absolutely stunning. I know it is hard but just think of it this way. She has been used to being able to be ugly about how big you were and now she is faced with a new beautiful you and has to come up with something. Try not to let it bother you. I am getting the "you aren't going to lose anymore weight are you". I just say why yes I am, my doc has set a new goal for me which is 135 my goal is 132 so very close to what I think I should weigh. If my hubby says I think you are losing too much weight I will reconsider. He is the only one I trust to tell me the absolute truth. Anna

and btw, from the pics I've seen your hair looks great!!! And you do look as good as you think you do!!!

You are all totally right. She is jealous and I just need to ignore her. Thanks for all the support. Everyone has just been so supportive, I was just caught off guard by this unkindness. I had decided to chop all my hair off Friday, but resisted the urge and just got a trim. Janie- I would be really sad about your best friend's attitude. Makes me feel soooo blessed at how my closest girlfriends have all been so wonderful. Your story puts my aunt's bad behavior in perspective.