I got "OUTED"!

Welllllll, went to a family function today with my stepdad's family and several people wanted to know how I was losing weight. I did my typical cop-out answers: low carb, portion control, no sugar, etc. Then as I was leaving my step-grandmother said "So did you have a gastric bypass or one of those band things?" I answered her question and she told me that she was happy for me and proud that I had done that. It was a surreal moment since I have told NONE of my family outside of my mom and husband. I just smiled at her and said thanks and that I am really happy, although it has been a lot of hard work... and left! To make it more awkward, I teach with my step-cousin, whose real aunt sees her every week at church and was there to witness the comment of my step-grandma! So, now I know that everyone at work will know too! LOL! I feel like I am back in high school!!! Belle

Aww mannnnn. I had to laugh when I read this because I'm sure it was an awkward moment. I mean, how do you answer a question like that??? Leave it to a Grandma to come out and point blank ask the question. Makes me miss my Grandma. You'll be fine...I look at it this way, everything that happens, happens for a reason. Lori

Awww bummer Belle!!! Leave it to Grandma's to put you on the spot huh? Well. I'm sure people will find out, but who cares? It's your body and you are looking good and so much more happier. If they judge you, forget them! You did this for yourself and obviously it's paying off already!!

I guess that is one of the great things about being in your 80's... you have earned the right to say whatever the hell you want! lol! It really does crack me up now... I was just caught SO off guard!

Oh Goodness, Grandma is up on the times, I will give her that. But it really stinks when you are put into a corner like that. She was well meaning I am sure, but still make it awkward for ya. My mom "outed" me. I told her that I wanted to keep it to myself and not share with people outside my immediate family, and then I was getting my hair cut by one of her close friends, and she mentions that I look really good, and how to I feel after the surgery. OOPS!! My mom doesn't even know who she told and who she hasn't, so now, I can't lie anymore. Hang in there, Crystal

Crystal - Too funny! My mom normally has a really big mouth, so I am so surprised that it was my stepdad who let the cat out of the bag! Oh well! Belle

There is a woman at my work who had the band done and she wouldn't tell anyone about it except everyone totally knows. A lot of people made fun of her for it so when I decided to do the surgery I was so honest and open about it. I had a last lunch with all of my good friends in the office. I am not a good fibber so I just "came out" myself. Good luck you have nothing to be ashamed of; you are doing great!

I have told most people who ask, but I know how you feel when you don't want certain people to know. Yesterday at church, our pastor came up to me (and his voice really carries) - "Marilyn you look great, how much weight have you lost?" I tried to tell him quietly about 55 pounds. He then proceeds to ask, "How did you do it?" Now I have told most of the people who see me everyday but what do you say when your pastor is asking you right there in church? So I said "I had surgery" then he said applogetically, "Oh, I didn't even know". I felt like maybe he misunderstood, so I said (again quietly) - weight loss surgery. I felt like everyone near by was listening. They probably were not, but it was a bit embarrassing. Later I asked my husband, what was I suppossed to say - he just put me on the spot and I was not ready for it. Anyway, I'm no one cares about what I do as much as I think they do

Maybe it's time you just tell people. I don't think it's something to be ashamed of. Just own it! LOL..join the Tyra Movement..."SO WHAT..." Don't sweat work, I am sure everyone will be supportive..