Are thereany post ops feeling emotional pain?

I am having allot of emotional pain. I feel very sad and alone. My Husband and kids are here with me but I somehow feel alone. I am having problems with not being able to eat. I am still on a clear liquid diet and tonight my husband calls me to the dinner table for my dinner broth and when I get to the dinning room I find Chile dogs at every ones plate and I have a cup of broth. I broke out into tears. And all I want to do is cry. Not for the food as much but just an emotional wreck. I am not in any physical pain. But I took a pain pill to calm myself down. Is there anyone else experiencing these feelings. It sure helps to get this off my chest I feel better already.

I am going through it, too. I watch those around me continue to eat as before, and how I would of ate as before. It's hard. Currently I just finished up the pureed diet part and beginning to start the soft foods diet. My friend who had this surgery a year prior to me told me that the first month is the hardest. I'm just hoping it'll pass soon.

I am also a wreck right now both physically and emotionally. The first few days I could not even stomach the clear liquids and they kept me in the hospital a few days longer because of complications. Even when I got home I felt so alone exactly as you described. But I do feel that it is getting a little easier every day. When are you going to move on to the next stage of your diet. You should be able to eat pureed food by now. Tomorrow I would really like to try an egg for breakfast. I have such a craving for one. I may even melt some cheese on an omelette and blend it all up. I think that will cheer me up a bit. Take care of yourself. We are all here for you. Hugs, Sharon

Alice, I'm going thru the same thing, but I know down the road it will get better.The liquid phase is extremley hard pre-op was more of a challange for me than post op.I have a family too and I choose not to eat at the same as they do. I have my liquids and broth or soup before they eat and this help. I know having dinner with family is very important but for the next week I will not be sitting at the dinner table.I wont you to know this will get better. Teona

I have cried at least every other day since I got home. I cried last week when I passed a donut shop because I love donuts and they are gone now. I know it sounds odd and a little lonely hun but maybe you should not eat with the family for a week or so. It will help you to not see or smell the other foods. Remember that we have spent our entire lives around food, social events, birthdays, celebrations etc. We have focused for so long on food that it is going to take a bit to let go. I had surgery 3 weeks and 2 days ago and I am just now able to see commercials without getting upset. It is gonna take time but hang in there. We are all here for each other and we know what you are going through. Message me anytime for anything hun and I will be there too. Don't forget that your diet will expand in a few months and there are so many things out there that are low carb/sugar free that replace the stuff we used to eat...... except donuts . lol Huggs Sabrina

Hi Alice, I'm sorry you are feeling down. I go in for my surgery on Wednesday and I feel very sure I will be going through what you are experiencing at that time. I'm one of these people that always wants to be one step ahead and I think it's to avoid the "pain" but this one is a toughy......how does one get one step ahead of breaking habits that have been created over one's lifetime? I don't think it's possible. I have made up my mind that I will be doing what one of these ladies suggested in here, I am going to step away from the table and let my family eat while I walk away at least for the first 2 weeks following my surgery when I am on non-chew foods only. I think by the time we get to advance to the next stage, we will feel a sense of a reward that may be a pick-me-up in a sense. I have already prepared my family that I will not be eating at the table with them for at least 2 weeks and would appreciate their understanding and when I feel ready, I will then rejoin them. They are being very supportive and understanding. What I am sure of is this, I know it will get better with time and when we have hope, it makes all things possible. In saying that, you have so much hope and health ahead. Enjoy what you have and know that the reward is within you. You will be getting slimmer and slimmer and start to feel better and better and realize how much this is worth. I'd wager to say you will be one of the majority that says they would do this all over again in a heartbeat. Thinking of you, Darla

Food has been my best friend for almost 43 years. You will grieve the loss of it like the loss of anything else. Stay strong Alice. This will pass. My first day home I ate at the table with my family. They had chili cheese dogs with chili cheese ore ida french fries(one of my favorite pig out meals next to sloppy joes) Now I either eat before or after them and they understand why. I couldn't put myself thru that. My highest weight 5 days before surgery was 362, more than my husband and 2 son put together. I can't do what they do anymore and I have come to terms with it. I explained to them that right now I can't eat with them. Maybe next month but not now. My problem is not so much the temptation from the food but the addiction to the food. Just wanting it because it is their. I hope you feel better soon

I'll be having my surgery (I'm lap-band)Friday, my husband had his early November. But after his surgery, even though I could still eat anything, I didn't do that in front of him. I had him eat his first and then I quietly ate whatever I was having. Since I really do not cook, he's the chef at our house, I ate simple things, soups, lean cuisine, and whatever was around the house that I didn't have to cook and drive him crazy with. One time about 2 weeks after his surgery we went somewhere, he could have the soup (he's also lap-band) and I had something with french fries on my plate. He said he wanted to reach across the table and grab one really bad, but he didn't. That kind of told me to not eat all the food he couldn't have in front of him was not a good idea. The first month is the sensitive time, now he's fine out in restaurants with other people and he just orders what he can eat and takes home the rest. You know going into this your life is changing, if you didn't have to do this you probably wouldn't, but it's necessary for your health. The people around you need to be more sensitive to your feelings while your going through this time. Try to keep talking to yourself that you are doing this for your health and the end result. You will be able to sit at the table with everyone again, just not now. Why put yourself through un-necessary trauma, you need to heal right now...they need to support that. Good luck, you'll be fine, just be nice to yourself.

Alice, I totally went thru this the first week. I was miserable and regretful and crying all the time. But I am 2 weeks out now and it is getting much better. My problem was that I am a HUGE carb person and to have to abruptly cut them out of my life has been a killer. The scale has been sobering for me. When I see the pounds going down, I feel a little better. Hang in there, it will get better. You should be on pureed foods soon and I hope you find some solace in expanding your horizons. Crystal 244/234/125

I totally understand and at times I am going through the same things. The first week out I was home alone and it wasnt all that hard. Except for all the TV commercials, I was in mourning. After my one week appt I went out of town, I was with my mom and grandparents. It was a wonderful trip but I wasnt alone and I had to see other people eat. There were a couple nights I went to be alone and cry. They werent even eating things I really liked, but it was just that they were eating. It got easier when I moved onto more solidish foods like cottage cheese and beans. I know things will get easier with time and you should know we are here for you!! Nikki