My Appologies to All!

For the past year I have responded to a wide variety of posts related to WLS, as well as topics regarding sick family members, ill family pets and a wide variety of upsetting issues to many many people here. When we are up-set we, or at leat I tend to eat. Well a few days ago I went through a personal trauma and I was so upset that I made the mistake of posting my concern on the board seeking some much needed support and assurances. Unfortunatly, I was lambasted by a member who shall remain nameless. She made me feel less than human and certainly did not provide me with any support. Furthermore she made assumptions regarding my post and she was way off base with her opinion. Since she was so harsh I had OH remove the post, because the last thing I wanted to do was to offend anyone. If you were in fact offended I sincerly appologize. To be perfectly frank, I've felt somewhat like the unwanted step child on the NY board ever since I could not make the great Holiday Party. I made every effort to forward the silly SS gift but I never got any replies from any one. This board has been quite helpful to me over the past year but now I feel as if it's time to move on. In a moment of need and trauma I was slapped across the face and basically told how stupid I was. Too bad she did not take the time to be more understanding and not so quick to point the finger of blame. She had it all wrong. I wonder if she would have been so quick to judge had she still been morbidly obese? Again Appologies to all for seeking support! KB

Hey, I didn't see the post or anything but I feel it is too bad that you would leave because of one person saying terrible things. You have people here that are supportive and will help and come to your rescue. Don't give up. Hope everything is going better for you. Deana J.

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I did not see the post but if I did I would have given you my support one hundred percent! I am so sorry to hear that anyone would do that on here. We are here together to talk and listen. If you need someone to talk to ever please let me know. I can always lend an ear and potentially good advice. I hope you have a happy most spectacular week ever and things will always get better. Our lives are changing soon and we need to be here for each other. Best of luck and I really mean it anything I mean anything let me know. Bye bye for now

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Wow, someone really upset you! I too have been blasted by people on the board who come off like they are the absolute last word on whatever topic you've introduced. I stay off the board for awhile and then I realize I'm giving that person a lot of power to completely disconect from the board. Especially since you say it's been helpful to you over the last year. We can't control how these people respond to us, and as hard as it is sometimes, we need to work at not letting it hurt us. Good Luck in whatever you choose, remember there are a lot of good people on this board, just a few undesireables....

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Kenny, I am so sorry that you did not find the support when you really needed it. I really hate that one person could hurt another so badly when they are in need. While you are a year ahead of us we could sure use someone that has had some of the experiences that some of us will face and you are always welcome on this board. Please do not let this one person keep you away from this site altogether. Take care hon and don't let these people get to you!! Anna

Thank You and please read on. Just got more nasty mail from her. Apparently she is quite upset over my post. To be honest I had the post removed because it was so upsetting to her. Did what I wrote belong on the boards, in hind sight yes she is correct I was scared,upset and goofed. So for the last time to the regulars I am sorry if you were offended by my candid plea for support at a dark time. I'd only ask that she would stop being the marder by judging me as she continues to do. No one here knows Kenny and no one has walked in my shoes. Please end the childish banter , I have appologized and it's now time for me to move on.

I didn't see the post, but I can guess what it might have been like. I too have been blasted for goofing, and I agree with you 100%..we come here for support ,and to make confessions if necessary and get back on track. I wonder if the person who blasted you is free of mistakes or goofs.. what is the saying? "Let he without sin cast the first stone.".. Maybe these individuals feel that "tough love" is how to help, but sometimes its just not. Not everyone reacts to tough love in a positive way..I HATE it. It makes me so angry to see good people run off, or people forced to apologize for just asking for help.. Please disregard this individual..and in fact, you might pity them.. for perhaps they were having an incredibly bad week and for some odd reason you were the proverbial straw on the camels back... Regardless, meanness should not be allowed..and please do NOT let this unhappy individual drive you off, or silence you. If you have goofed, then come on here and let us steer you back on track.. and please do the same to us when we goof. Here's a huge hug for ya.. Please stay! jess