I will never understand......
Dawn sent this to me today and it really hit home:
Reality check: you can never, ever, use weight loss to solve problems that are not related to your weight. At your goal weight or not, you still have to live with yourself and deal with your problems. You will still have the same husband, the same job, the same kids, and the same life. Losing weight is not a cure for life. ~Phillip C. McGraw
I wish someone would have beat this into my head 3 years ago. But they didnt and I was left to figure it out for myself. It took me over two years and I nearly lost everything that meant somthing to me.
So my questions are:
Why is my weight so important? Why does it have so much control over me? Why is food controlling me?
This was me at my heaviest:
well over 320 pounds!
Even after gaining 21 pounds Ive still lost 111 pounds since surgery. Why cant I just be happy about what I have lost and not dwell on what Ive gained?!
Kristi
Reality check: you can never, ever, use weight loss to solve problems that are not related to your weight. At your goal weight or not, you still have to live with yourself and deal with your problems. You will still have the same husband, the same job, the same kids, and the same life. Losing weight is not a cure for life. ~Phillip C. McGraw
I wish someone would have beat this into my head 3 years ago. But they didnt and I was left to figure it out for myself. It took me over two years and I nearly lost everything that meant somthing to me.
So my questions are:
Why is my weight so important? Why does it have so much control over me? Why is food controlling me?
This was me at my heaviest:
well over 320 pounds!
Even after gaining 21 pounds Ive still lost 111 pounds since surgery. Why cant I just be happy about what I have lost and not dwell on what Ive gained?!
Kristi
KRISTI~
I am not sure what the answer is - I am still searching as well. I thought that thin people were happy, had wonderful relationships with their spouse/SO and that my life was going to be perfect if I could just be thin.
Well fast forward three years and really the only thing different about my life is that I weigh less.
After my surgery, I told my therapist that I put a sign on the fridge and on the door to the pantry that said "It is not in there!" I am not sure who but I think it was someone on this board that suggested it. However I have not figured out what the "it" is and he and I have explored it for over one year.
We gotta figure out what "it" is and it is not an easy road.
It is easy to say just be happy with where you are, but it is not easy to do that - I understand where you are coming from but I don't have an answer....sorry!
Hugs!
Rhonda
I am not sure what the answer is - I am still searching as well. I thought that thin people were happy, had wonderful relationships with their spouse/SO and that my life was going to be perfect if I could just be thin.
Well fast forward three years and really the only thing different about my life is that I weigh less.
After my surgery, I told my therapist that I put a sign on the fridge and on the door to the pantry that said "It is not in there!" I am not sure who but I think it was someone on this board that suggested it. However I have not figured out what the "it" is and he and I have explored it for over one year.
We gotta figure out what "it" is and it is not an easy road.
It is easy to say just be happy with where you are, but it is not easy to do that - I understand where you are coming from but I don't have an answer....sorry!
Hugs!
Rhonda
You are certainly right!!!
I thought that my biggest problem in life was my overweight. At the time I figured it out that I had lost over 130 pounds my problems were still there and I had other ones not invited. I had to worked really hard to accept myself even with my new look. I had to take out the best of me and to dig the worst past of me. As Rhonda said it really is a process wich it really hard to go through.
Today I am thankfull for the surgery, but now I know that the healing process is not just phisical, it comes with mind healing and even with your heart and feelings and relationships healings.
Alex
I thought that my biggest problem in life was my overweight. At the time I figured it out that I had lost over 130 pounds my problems were still there and I had other ones not invited. I had to worked really hard to accept myself even with my new look. I had to take out the best of me and to dig the worst past of me. As Rhonda said it really is a process wich it really hard to go through.
Today I am thankfull for the surgery, but now I know that the healing process is not just phisical, it comes with mind healing and even with your heart and feelings and relationships healings.
Alex
I totaly understand your question. I always wonder why am I so dissatisfied with myself? When I was almost 100 pounds heavier, I really thought that if only I could loose weight I would be happy, feel sexy, etc..now I think that if only I could have PS, but honestly, will that make me happy? Possibbly a little happier...but will I ever really be happy with the way I look? Now I feel as if food is taking over my life again. I find myself turning to food to sooth my senses. Maybe I need to look more into the way I act, the way I feel. I wish that I could sort it all out. 
CRAZY? Maybe! My husband (who by the way is really getting tired of my insecruities) seems to think so.....
Cathy
CRAZY? Maybe! My husband (who by the way is really getting tired of my insecruities) seems to think so.....Cathy
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