Can I do roll call today?
Hey everybody, as I am trying to be more active and supportive, I thought I would do roll call today, I hope nobody minds or thinks I am stepping on toes
1) What is the one most difficult thing you still struggle with every day as a result of WLS?
2) Do you ever get scared that your weight will get out of control again(too heavy OR too skinny) and what makes you feel better if you do?
3) Is there something personal going on in your life right now that is really stressing you out?
4) If given the opportunity to approach another obese person to discuss WLS how would you do it?
5) How do you talk to people about things that make you feel uncomfortable, or do you just stay quiet rather than be uncomfortable?
6) Who is the one single most important influence on your life and who you are today?
7) If you could go anywhere and take anyone with you on vacation tomorrow(no strings attached, money not an issue) where would you go and with who?
Hope you all have a great day!!
Karyn
1) What is the one most difficult thing you still struggle with every day as a result of WLS?
2) Do you ever get scared that your weight will get out of control again(too heavy OR too skinny) and what makes you feel better if you do?
3) Is there something personal going on in your life right now that is really stressing you out?
4) If given the opportunity to approach another obese person to discuss WLS how would you do it?
5) How do you talk to people about things that make you feel uncomfortable, or do you just stay quiet rather than be uncomfortable?
6) Who is the one single most important influence on your life and who you are today?
7) If you could go anywhere and take anyone with you on vacation tomorrow(no strings attached, money not an issue) where would you go and with who?
Hope you all have a great day!!
Karyn K, here's my answers!
1) What is the one most difficult thing you still struggle with every day as a result of WLS? I am still terribly insecure and have super low self esteem, I thought my looks would give that back, but I almost think it is worse now than it was before surgery. I still feel like I don't deserve to be happy or treated nicely, and have a really hard time accepting compliments.
2) Do you ever get scared that your weight will get out of control again(too heavy OR too skinny) and what makes you feel better if you do?
I have recently begun to get scared that the numbers on the scale have yet to stop going down, and although I JUST reached my goal 2 weeks ago, I have now passed it and feel like I am beginning to look TOO skinny. I don't want to gain weight, but would like to stop losing at this point.
3) Is there something personal going on in your life right now that is really stressing you out?
yes, I am stressing about school, money, my love life, and Hanna. I have a very hard time talking about my feelings and it usually leads to terrible amounts of stress. I need to work on that....
4) If given the opportunity to approach another obese person to discuss WLS how would you do it?
I would probably start by telling them my experience, showing them a before picture, and explaining WHY I made the decision to have WLS, while reminding them that it is a very personal decision and only they know what is right for them.
5) How do you talk to people about things that make you feel uncomfortable, or do you just stay quiet rather than be uncomfortable?
I am REALLY good at writing letters
or emails, not so good about face to face talks especially when it comes to things I am uncomfortable talking about. I asked this question in particular because I have some things I want to talk about with my boyfriend and would love to hear some ways you all deal with this issue. Sometimes I don't bring things up at all and then I get really upset because I let it go to long.
6) Who is the one single most important influence on your life and who you are today?
definitely my dad....most of you already know why, he is just a super amazing man.
7) If you could go anywhere and take anyone with you on vacation tomorrow(no strings attached, money not an issue) where would you go and with who?
well, assuming I would be divorced tomorrow(not likely, but let's pretend
), I would go to Hawaii with Chris , Hanna and a few close family and friends and marry the love of my life on the beach.
or emails, not so good about face to face talks especially when it comes to things I am uncomfortable talking about. I asked this question in particular because I have some things I want to talk about with my boyfriend and would love to hear some ways you all deal with this issue. Sometimes I don't bring things up at all and then I get really upset because I let it go to long.
6) Who is the one single most important influence on your life and who you are today?
definitely my dad....most of you already know why, he is just a super amazing man.
7) If you could go anywhere and take anyone with you on vacation tomorrow(no strings attached, money not an issue) where would you go and with who?
well, assuming I would be divorced tomorrow(not likely, but let's pretend ), I would go to Hawaii with Chris , Hanna and a few close family and friends and marry the love of my life on the beach. 
Hi Karyn thanks for doing this. I don't think anyone would feel like you are stepping on toes and if you do, you won't hurt anyone because you are so small now! 
1) What is the one most difficult thing you still struggle with every day as a result of WLS?
My eating habits. I need something to help me shew away stress and I just realized I eat from boredom and stress. I was never a believer before about eating for comfort but I am a believer now!
2) Do you ever get scared that your weight will get out of control again(too heavy OR too skinny) and what makes you feel better if you do? Every day I think about it and weigh myself.....
3) Is there something personal going on in your life right now that is really stressing you out?
I personally am going through loads with my son and being bullied in school and now he is having medical problems. They are sending him for a ct of his head because he is passing out in school and complains of severe headaches that last a couple minutes prior to passing out.(my sister died of a brain anuerysm in Feb 05 and John is SURE he has that and is dying from that) They have done a cardiac work up and will be hooking him up to a heart machine for 21 days and we hope and pray things come out well. So far the cardiac is good. I think he is having these episodes as a form of anxiety.
4) If given the opportunity to approach another obese person to discuss WLS how would you do it?
Absolutely and my advice would be stay away from the sugars candy and bad stuff because once you try it, it is so easy to go back.....
5) How do you talk to people about things that make you feel uncomfortable, or do you just stay quiet rather than be uncomfortable?
Normally I bite my tongue but lately I just come out and say it. Why hide your feelings. I do not believe anyone is wrong for expressing thier feelings as long as no one gets hurt and you give the other person a chance to respond respectfully.....
6) Who is the one single most important influence on your life and who you are today?
My husband has made me the person I am. I have been with him since I was 15 and his advice and unconditional love has made me become a better person....
7) If you could go anywhere and take anyone with you on vacation tomorrow(no strings attached, money not an issue) where would you go and with who?
I would go with my husband some where warm.....If you mean other than a spouse I would take several friends.
Hugs, Chris
1) What is the one most difficult thing you still struggle with every day as a result of WLS?
My eating habits. I need something to help me shew away stress and I just realized I eat from boredom and stress. I was never a believer before about eating for comfort but I am a believer now!
2) Do you ever get scared that your weight will get out of control again(too heavy OR too skinny) and what makes you feel better if you do? Every day I think about it and weigh myself.....
3) Is there something personal going on in your life right now that is really stressing you out?
I personally am going through loads with my son and being bullied in school and now he is having medical problems. They are sending him for a ct of his head because he is passing out in school and complains of severe headaches that last a couple minutes prior to passing out.(my sister died of a brain anuerysm in Feb 05 and John is SURE he has that and is dying from that) They have done a cardiac work up and will be hooking him up to a heart machine for 21 days and we hope and pray things come out well. So far the cardiac is good. I think he is having these episodes as a form of anxiety.
4) If given the opportunity to approach another obese person to discuss WLS how would you do it?
Absolutely and my advice would be stay away from the sugars candy and bad stuff because once you try it, it is so easy to go back.....
5) How do you talk to people about things that make you feel uncomfortable, or do you just stay quiet rather than be uncomfortable?
Normally I bite my tongue but lately I just come out and say it. Why hide your feelings. I do not believe anyone is wrong for expressing thier feelings as long as no one gets hurt and you give the other person a chance to respond respectfully.....
6) Who is the one single most important influence on your life and who you are today?
My husband has made me the person I am. I have been with him since I was 15 and his advice and unconditional love has made me become a better person....
7) If you could go anywhere and take anyone with you on vacation tomorrow(no strings attached, money not an issue) where would you go and with who?
I would go with my husband some where warm.....If you mean other than a spouse I would take several friends.
Hugs, Chris 
Hey Karyn. After many months I came here to check out on the status of all of the good friends I have here. I would like to answer your roll call. It will describe much of my life right now. I am sure it is not as different as yours is...
1) What is the one most difficult thing you still struggle with every day as a result of WLS?
Well my life has changed a lot. I feel much healthier. I still have back pain. I am strugguling with it. I still need to make a habit on working out. I also have to be aware of the scale every day keeping an eye on my weight.
2) Do you ever get scared that your weight will get out of control again(too heavy OR too skinny) and what makes you feel better if you do?
This month I am celebrating one year with the same weight. I have had my "accidents" through this time. I recoverd 15 pounds five months ago. When I realized it I went to my nutritionist and took a new regime. Since then I use the scale daiy again. It took me several weeks (8 or 9) to loose the extra weight, but I am proud to say that I had the discipline and good sense to ratake the good path and go back to my proper weight.
3) Is there something personal going on in your life right now that is really stressing you out?
YES!!! As all of us... I am still struggling with my life every single day. The last time I posted here I had my family far from me for financial problems I had. I still have the same problem but at least I have my family with me. I am scared every single day to lose control of my life again and get separated from my wife and children once more. I am doing my part and looking for new paths to recover my profetional stability. I have a light at the end of the tunnel right now. I am recovering stabily verly slowly but I am going in the right way.
4) If given the opportunity to approach another obese person to discuss WLS how would you do it?
I do it very often. I am supporting a group of obese people here at my comunity I am with all of them weekly and supporting them individually once or twice in a week. I am doing it with the support of a therapist and a nutriologist. I stress out the need to do it with the right process. What I mean is doing it having the support of a therapist due to the fact that ALMOST ALL of us (obese people) have problems with anxiety and depression. WLS is an answer to the overweight but it is not a way out of ourselves. We have to touch earth and face up our problems and go out of depression and anxiety out of the support of food.
5) How do you talk to people about things that make you feel uncomfortable, or do you just stay quiet rather than be uncomfortable?
Well I am rather direct to answer the uncomfortable questions. Much of them have to do with sexual performance after WLS. Due to the fact that all the time the people asking are women it makes it unconfortable but I do it very candidly and go out of trouble easily.
6) Who is the one single most important influence on your life and who you are today?
Well that is hard to answer. I am a happy man out of my daily struggling due to the support of many people (you included). I would say that my family is my main stimulant to keep walking, and mantaining myself in a good level. I have needed the proffetional support of my therapist and my nutritionist. My parents have been a huge support too. My parents in law too. My brother and sisters have done their way to me at the time needed. But my wife is the person who had supported me ALL the time. I have done huge mistakes that have put us in deep trouble but her love, comprehention, support and forgiveness have mantained the peace and harmony I have needed to become a succesfull man again. Without the support of my family I would have gone out of the way easily. I feel really happy having my family with me struggling together with life. Yes I am not a rich man financially talking but I am rich in love and values and other stuff that money can't buy. I feel really greatful to have them with me again.
7) If you could go anywhere and take anyone with you on vacation tomorrow(no strings attached, money not an issue) where would you go and with who?
I would love to take my family to Orlando and enjoy all the amusement parks there for several weeks!!!!
I would like to thank you for this roll call. It puts everything in an interesting perspective...
I love you all!!!
your trully friend
Alejandro from Guadalajara Mexico
Alex it is good to see....It great to hear you are with your family again and getting your life together. It is also good to hear you are a supporter for the obese people in your community and can answer questions honestly even if sexual in nature. Congrats on your weight loss. Hope to see you more often!
Hugs, Chris
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