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Hi Girls!!! I came to say hi to all of you. I have read some of the posts here and I just couldn't leave without leaving a note here. I realize that after WLS we are still struggling with our own issues in life. I would like to tell you that I am now a happy man. I have gone through a lot since my surgery. I have done good and bad things. I am celebrating one year with the same weight (well sort of). I have had my "accidents" too. Few months ago I realized that my pants were tighter than usual and went to the scale after few months getting dust. When I realized that I was 15 pounds up to my weight I took hands to the problem immediately and made an appointment with my nutritionist. She changed my diet and after many weeks I was at my goal again. I am proud to say that I am capable to keep my weight again, and as a result for the experience I am using the scale in a daily basis again. I have changed my habits to feed me and my family. I have changed the diet an have restricted the food that is not healthy for us. We eat vegetables and fruits in a regular basis and we cook with low fat and using natural ingridients. I also am trying not to skip meals. If I feel hungry I eat but usually I look for something healthy for me. I started therapy few months ago (8 or 9 months). It was a release to my life. I was really agresive with me and the people around me. I discovered that I had issues with anxiety and some level of depression. After few weeks of treatment I started to feel able to take care of me and my family again. I did not realized how disabled I was due to these issues. Right now I am living with my family with the same problems I had one year ago (financial problems mainly). Out of that, I am living a happy life with my family and going slowly but steady in the right way to recover my finnacial life. Right now I am having some kind of offers that if they come to reality it would be a huge step to recover my profetional carreer. I am supporting a group of obese people (all of them women so far), we are meeting weekly and doing a wonderfull job. So far we have supported a teenager (15 years old) who had serious business with boulimia and overweight; she was at the verge of cancer in her esofagus due to their habit to vomit, and after six months she is out of the boulimia and with 40 pounds off. Enjoying her life going out of depression and self difficulties. We are supporting another 14 women to get ready to the surgery before it is time for them. We are taking care of their anxiety and depression. So far I have made a habit to stare at my dish before I start to eat. I have to analize my feelings to the food I am going to ingest. If I feel anger of guilty I take the plate out of me and change my food. If I feel satisfaction and the certaintity that I am doing right feeding my body properly, then I start to eat. I would like to write everything it has happened to me in the las few months but I would need to write a book here. I just want the opportunity to say that all of you have been deep in my heart. I would like to ask for your forgiveness if I made something to disappoint you. I sincerely care for all of you and wish you success, harmony, peace and love in your lifes. Sincerly Alejandro from Guadalajara Mexico

Alex, no disappointment here. I am proud of you and all you stand for. I agree we all have issues and am beginning to think we are all a little bit "desperate Housewife---ish" meaning we may not share everything but it doesn't mean we don't have problems. It is good to see you! I think we can all learn something from each other! Hugs, Chris

There was a time that I thought that having my overweight off of me, my problems in life would disappear instanously. I used to feel like my overweight was the cause of my unhappyness in life. It certainly was part of the problem but sadly I have found that I had deeper issues to deal with out of my feeding habits. It is a challenge to brake the vicious cycle of missfeeding my body due to my problems within but once it is made life can have anothe angle to be viewed. I do not feel out of trouble but certainly I feel capable now to live a healthy life out of overfeeding and not being affected seriously with anxiety or depression. Love Alejandro from Guadalajara Mexico

Alex, So nice to see you and I am so happy you are back with your family, the love from your family and you being near them for support is a far better fortune than money. I am happy for you that you are giving back the knowledge and support to the people in your community. That must be very rewarding. HAVE A GREATREST OF THE WEEK AND WEEKEND TORI

Yes indeed it is rewarding. It makes you feel worthy if you know what I mean. Some times you need to reinforce your value to the community to feel worthy of the good stuff happening to you. God Bless you Alejandro from Guadalajara Mexico

Hey Alex! I had posted a message a few weeks ago and, in it, I mentioned your name...wondering how you were. I am so happy to hear that you are doing well! You do not need to ask our forgiveness...you did nothing to disappoint us! Congratulations on your success...I hope you visit our board more often. Love and hugs, Jersey Mom

Hey Jersey!!! Look at you!!! You look stunning!!!... I have seen the physical changes of almost every body here, most of them have been for the good at least in the image. It has been quiet an adventure for all of us. The most painful changes have been in the mind and spirit. I have seen people going up and people going down. People standing up and recovering their lifes and people getting lost, not just in this forum but in other places too. WOW!!! what a voyage!!! Thank you so much for being such a good friend and remember me. I wrote you few times but I never got answer. Perhaps you changed your email adress? Congratulations. I am soooo happy to see you so beautiful... I hope you are well and happy with your life. Hugs Alejandro from Guadalajara Mexico

Hey Alex: I did not get any emails from you.... My email address is: [email protected]. Hugs, JerseyMom

Hello Alex! It's lovely to see you posting with us, you have been missed. Congratulations on your continued successes and finding strength to manage and conquer life's challenges. You offer great insight about how to find your feelings towards food before you eat. Right now I dont even organize a plate, I eat in the kitchen standing up. I will take your suggestion to help me with this. Best wishes for continued happiness, Tiffany

Great to know from yout Tiff!!! Analizing my feelings related to food has been a great deal of help for me... It's not easy to say no to a dish that is saying EAT ME! EAT ME!, but when I FEEL that is is not going to be beneficial for my body I have found strength to say NO WAY!!!. So for example when I am asking for beef in a restaurant I have seen my self asking to the waiter to take my plate back and replace the french fryes with steammed vegetables... asking for non fat cuts, etc. I hope you will find the way to organize your meals... it is a matter of discipline and self commitment... Regards... Alejandro from Guadalajara Mexico