Hating WLS today!

Girl, thanks for your support and understanding. Kay

Oh Kay, I hate that you're feeling this way. You aren't too skinny. They're probably all just wishing you were fat again! You look great the way you are. If you don't get to goal, look how far you've come in less than 2 years and you are much healthier. When our looks change a lot, people are going to make a lot of comments. If you need to talk to a therapist, go for it. I do feel, too that I think about what I'm gonna eat or not eat way more than I should. That's why we had to have this surgery in the first place. Rejoice in your WLS, don't regret it. It WILL be okay. Karla

Thanks, Karla

Kay, Like everyone said you are perfect the way you are! When someone sees a fat person lose weight they automatically do not like us skinny. But if they never met us fat and then met us skinny they would think we were just fine....For awhile my face go really skinny and now it seems to have evened out. You will find a love of your life and it will be for you........for the right reasons. I struggle and think of food always and I hate the fact that food if sooooo important! Keep up the good work! Hugs, Chris

Thanks, Chris

Hey Kay: I am sorry about the day you had! I hope that today is much better for you... That being said...there is a fundamental truth here...some people suck. They just all-out suck. Even people who love us dearly sometimes suck! Jealousy is a huge, overwhelming emotion and it turns otherwise nice, normal people into green monsters. About your old pal not saying anything nice about how you look...can you imagine how crappy she must feel right now? As we all know, there is nothing worse than getting fat. She was probably very comforted in your relationship as "the thin one." Now you are the thin one and her comfort zone got turned on its ear! That is not YOUR fault...and I hope you do not feel responsible for her misery. Even though we KNOW she was shocked and bummed to be the "fat" one now, she should have fought her own feelings and told you that you looked good...because you DO. As for your SIL...the "waaay" too skinny comment is SOOOOO stupid. I have gotten this, too. I just don't understand the motivation of people sometimes. Do they honestly think we are going to take what they say to heart and then go gain weight because they think we should? Just another case of pure jealousy...it is a bummer it happened right after the incident with your friend. The "are you sick?" comment ****** me off most of all because that is pure passive-aggressive behavior...which I HATE! It was just another moment of jealousy. You know you don't look sick...everyone knows this...she was just trying to be hurtful. You went from 450 lbs to 182 lbs (wait...let me put some "!!!!!!!!!!!" after that). You have had major, major changes in your life recently. And, still, you are maintaining your weight and doing what you need to do. Try to focus on THOSE positive things...not the crap that everyone else tries to dump on you! It is so hard to lose people we care about and it bites that WLS seems to weed a lot of people out of our lives. But try to remember that, if they left us because of our success, they are SO NOT WORTH being in our lives, anyhow! You are gorgeous, strong, amazing! And you can cry on my shoulder anytime! Good luck finding a therapist...I swear...therapy should be mandatory for WLSers! Lots of love, Jersey Mom

Jersey mom, Thanks so much for your comments and support! I truly appreciate it!

Special Kay....I am so sorry you were feeling blue. You have achieved so much and look so amazing. WLS does force us to face the behind the scenes issues we have/had with our former physical being. When guys really started to look closely at me I was shocked...shocked that I was even a consideration. As Theresa said, how people respond is usually a reflection of how they feel about themselves, not a reflection of you. Try to let it roll and not take it personally, I have found that helpful. I have also had the 'sick and too skinny' comments. Whatever. I've not heard that said to other women who've been normal their entire lives. People can be so rude! Hope your spirits are soaring today and that you get some time to look in the mirror to really admire your accomplishments and how beautiful you are....inside and out!! We are here to love and support you..... Big hugs, ~Tiffany

Thanks Ms. Tiffers!!

Girl, you gotta just ignore those comments. Do you think you look sick? If you don't, then forget them! I, too, would get comments like that, but I would throw it to the left because I knew I wasn't too skinny and I knew I didn't look sick either. When people are used to seeing you fat, they really can't see past that. That's thier personal problem though. As far as your "friend" from school, you gotta just laugh at that. Because you should know deep down inside...she's jealous as hell! Once again, another personal problem! Keep doing what your doing and do it well! April