Officially a year

It has officially been a year since my daughter has walked for taken care of herself or her children or her finances or anything else as far as that goes. It is also officially been a year that my life has been hell. I woke us at about five this morning with the thought that I have no life, all I have is resposiblities and work and expectations from everyone around me. The really scarey part was and is that I don't want to live this way anymore and I can find no way out of it, there fore I really don't want to live. I went through WLS and about died so I could have a life and I still don't have a life. Sure I am smaller and in better health, but I have no life. I had reached goal and now have put some of it back on. I know the cause, stress, insomnia and M and M's. You know that just somehow isn't right. I can't eat things that are good for me, but M and M's and Kissables go down slick as a whistle. Oh well, enough of my pity pot. Just had to vent to someone somewhere. Hazel

Hazel, please vent away. It's the least we can do for you. Now, what can you do for you? Have you contacted any social service organizations about getting some help for your daughter and for you? There is help out there. You may want to start with Catholic Charities, even if you aren't Catholic. They typically have really good resources. Also, is your daughter eligible for medicare yet? I know for me, once I was on SSD for 2 years, I got medicare - that's how I was able to get my WLS. Anyway, there are services she can get through your state if she is on medicare. Please feel free to come by and vent whenever. We will always be here for you. Sending support and hugs, Ronna

Thank-you for careing. This board is home for me, even though I don't manage to post often. I do check in daily. By the way, you are goergous. Hazel

Hazel We all care a great deal about you. You can vent to us anytime you want. I wish there was more we could do to help you. Perhaps there is something somewere that can be done to help you and your situation. Even if it is just a few hours off. Sending hugs and good vibes your way....and want you to know you are loved by us.....Hugs, Chris

So sorry you are going through this................ I will b praying for you Tori

Hazel, I am sorry you have to go through this STILL, and I can tell you I certainly relate....which is why I am going through a divorce. I just woke up one morning and realized even though I had lost so much weight and looked and felt great, my heart still ached inside and I wasn't truly happy. Now I know you can't "divorce" your daughter, but hopefully you can find a way to find happiness and get some help for all of you. Karyn

Hazel, I am so sorry that this is still going on. I can't believe that we live so close and can't seem to hook up with one another. Well we NEED to make the time to do just that. I love you very much and just want you to know I am here for you always!! I too have no life except for work and school and kids and now a Godson that is gonna make me bald with his problems. Anyway, if you ever need anything let me know please. By the way I am now working nights back in CICU so you know where to find me if I am not home. Steph

Hi Hazel I am sorry to hear that Frostie's woes continue to overrun your life. We are always here to listen and support you however possible. I will ask a question that Ronna asked and that we suggested awhile ago - what kind of support groups or services have you sought? They are out there, while you are a loving and kind mother, her challenges should not dominiate your life. There are resources to help you help her establish some sort of independence so YOU can enjoy YOUR life. Reach out....just like asking for anything, the first step is the hardest but the biggest and most beneficial. Please let us know how you and she are doing.... Lots of love and friendship. ~Tiffany