Frustrated and Down in the Dumps

I haven't been around much lately and I apologize for that. Have been pretty busy with my "job search" but this is about the most frustrating project I've even undertaken aside from getting approved for WLS Anyway, for the past couple of months I have been spending hours everyday scouring the job boards, talking with recruiters and finally, finally going on some interviews. But so far nothing. It is so hard getting past the fact that I haven't worked in 4 years - even though I have over 15 years of experience in my field and a really great background, that seems to be the stumbling block - that and my salary. Sure I can get a job if I want to cut my expectations in half - but that would be selling myself short and I am worth more than that. But I am so frustrated and depressed, I want to tear my hair out of my head. I've been trying to stay active, literally walking it off (at least my doggie is happy with all the extra activity), but I find myself reaching for the wrong foods many times and I know that it's out of this frustration. This is playing havoc with my blood sugar too as I am very sensitive to carbs and that's what I always want, eg. pretzels or sesame sticks. Luckily I haven't gained any weight but I have stayed relatively stable for the past 2 months fluctuating between 192 and 195. That's not bad but I would like to get down to 185 before I see my surgeon again in October. So that's my story my friends. I will try and be around more often. I know that it will be helpful to me as well. Sending you all many hugs, Ronna

I'm sorry you're feeling down, Ronna. I hope that you find a job soon and things start looking up for you. Maybe the best job for you hasn't come along yet and will be here soon. Karla

Ronna, (((((((((hugs and kisses))))))))))))) I know that salaries have tanked since your last job (I have not worked in 3 years - the year I got laid off, salaries were dropping for executives). I would not cut your requirement in half but maybe you could be a little more flexible with the range depending on the job's requirements, location, commute expense, dress requirements etc.. I think about not having worked in so long too. If I ever want to go back to work I am fearful as to how to overcome that obstacle. Have you told all of your friends and more importantly, former colleagues that you are seeking employment? Sometimes you just need to know the right person. God Bless! Jen

thanks for the kind words Jen. I have been doing alot of networking and all my friends and collegues know that I'm on the hunt for a job. I have been very flexible with my salary requirements knowing that I need to get back into the game before I can play, but sometimes it's the company that's just in a dreamworld. I had one offer for $20 an hour. After taxes and other deductions I would end up taking home less pay than I'm getting now through disability. Bottom line is I have to be able to pay the mortgage and stuff. But things are starting to look up. I had an interview last Friday that I thought went pretty well and am hoping for a call back. And I have one scheduled for the 13th and another on the 21st. With any luck, I may have a job by the 4th of July Thanks again, Ronna

Sooooo Sorry ............... I am sure it will all work out. Tori

I think job hunting is one of the hardest things in the whole world and really only for those 'brave of heart'. It always seems that the 'rejection' is a tremendous blow to the 'self-esteem'. Ronna, you are absolutely correct - don't sell yourself short. Tell yourself it is THEIR LOSS not YOURS. You are a bright ray of sunshine who has LOTS to bring to an organization. You just haven't found the 'right one', yet.........but it is out there. I've given up the pretzels and the popcorn and have now gotten into wheat thins and apples. If I didn't know better, I'd think I was pregnant.....LOL Hang in there, Ronna.....and don't tear your hair out - you would just have to color it again - LOL Rose from PA

Hugs coming your way Ronna.

{{{RONNA}}} I am so sorry about your frustrating job search. But I have so much respect for you for not selling yourself short! I know how difficult it is to find a job...especially since there was a gap in your employment. But I just know that you will find something that will be right for you! You just have to keep on keepin' on... And BOY do I know about reaching for the carbs when things get depressing. I have spent the last several months like that. I am in love with Triscuits and graham crackers and these new Snyder's pretzels that have either cheese or peanut butter in them and I was pretty much not limiting the amount that I ate in the past couple of months. Wanna join our B2B bandwagon? I have to tell you...just being on it has improved my mood quite a bit. I think I just feel more successful when I am being good. It is hard but it is worth it! I wish I could make things all better for you because you mean the world to me and deserve the best! Love ya! Jersey

Thanks Sweetie! It helps just to know that you're in my corner. I'll get through it. My baby brother is coming in for the week-end, that in itself will help my mood. We are going to a double graduation party on Saturday for his Godson and his younger brother (Highschool and 8th grade graduations) Will be fun

Ronna, I am so sorry yu are feeling down. Hopefully things will improve for you! Hugs Chris