Important,but long.

It seems like for the last 8-9 months, the only time I post is when there is a crisis, but there has been so many these last months and the after math of them has been so consuming this I don't have much time for anything else. Well they have hit again. My mother fell about a month and a half ago and broke her pelvis, then when she was starting to get better, she fell again and broke a vertibrae in her back. She is the strongest, most independant woman I have ever know, but suddenly she was so insecure and unsure, so I stepped up to the plate and took care of her, and made the major decisions for her. Now she is back to herself and doing well, but I still worry. Most of you know about my daughter, (heart attack, stroke, triple bypass, open heart to remove tumor from heart, blood clot removed from leg, other leg amputated, diabetic and on and on and on.) Well, she quit taking her meds and started smoking again, you know all the things that she isn't suppose to do. I tried to make her resposnsible for herself, but she just wouldn't be. Now I feel so guilty. Last Thursday she died (briefly) in my arms. She hasn't been feeling well for some time and I took her to the emergency room here on Memorial Day. They diagnosed her with penmonia(sp). But on Thursday all hell broke loose once again. She had a blood clot (a big one) hit her lung. They kind you die from, and she did, briefly. The doctor said that my holding her and yelling for her to stay with me and not leave me and trying to keep her with me, was the only thing that saved her. Now I know that she is not competant to take care of herself and her three children. That is now my life until one of us dies. I have had to shut down my restraunt and everything. I feel like I have lost every thing. Don't take me wrong I will take care of my family but I do wi**** didn't fall to me to do so. I have no strength left so it is God's strength that I am relying on now. Pray for me and my family. Hazel

Oh Hazel, I don't know what to say? I just wish I could give you a giant hug and tell you that things will get better, but I can't cause I don't know that. The only thing I can recommend is to get in touch with a local social service organization to find out what services are available to both your mom and your daughter. You will need some relief and cant be a 24/7 caretaker. I'm sure there is help out there such as" - Visiting nurse - Home health aide I had to do this for my mom as well and they were very helpful. I was able to get help for her with bathing, dressing, laundry, cooking, grocery shoping and even house keeping. And for a very low cost as well - like $15 a month. You must reach out and get some help. It will be a blessing for all of you. Sending you a great big hug {{{{{{{{{{{{{HAZEL}}}}}}}}}}}, Ronna

So sorry to hear what you & your family are going through. I would take Ronna's suggestion and look into different people to care for your daughter. You'll all be in my thoughts.

so sorry to hear what has happened to you in the past mths. you and your fam will be in our prayers.

Hazel, I'm so sorry you have been going through so much. It's really hard to be a caregiver to others for extended periods of time. I hope that your mom and daughter get better. Please try to get you some help so you can take care of yourself, too! You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. Karla

Hazel: I am so sorry for what you are going through. It is just too much for anyone to have to deal with. Please know that you are in my thoughts...and I am hoping the very best for you and your family. All my love, Jersey Mom

Hazel, I am so sorry you are going through such a hard time and my heart goes out to you....You are one REMARKABLE women! I can only suggest you look into extra care as Ronna said. Hopefully someone can help you out. (I would if we lived near by) Some how there must be a lesson in all this. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers...Hugs Chris