Not one to share such personal things...

Yesterday my son made a "stupid" comment and ended up not being able to come home....Let me fill you in on just a little information about him..... John is 15 but is immature for his age. He is a good boy and would never do drugs and is actually very sweet. He was diagnosed years ago with ADHD (not sure I agree) but there has always been something "wrong". For some reason he seems to be a target for kids picking on him. At one point we had him tested by a psychologist when he was 9 and we were told he was mildly retarded and to treat him that way....(Again I totally do not agree with this diagnosis and took him to another doctor for a different diagnosis) That is when they decided with the ADHD... Anyway he is in middle school and is in an 8:1:1 program and is with kids who are usually rougher than him...(not passing judment-broken homes, abuse, jail ect) John is desperate for friends and is very loyal to anyone who he considers to be a friend. He met a girl from the area on "myspace" supposedly they were "boyfriend/girlfriend" I did not discourage this because I felt it gave him some "hope" and some confidence to. Well he found out she "cheated" on him and he went to school yesterday and told his teacher how hurt he was and how he would consider suicide! Of course I do not believe he would ever do it but he threatened it and the school counselor asked him how serious he was and he said 50%....So they called me and he had to go for an evaluation to the local hospital..8.5 hours later(by then he was all apologetic and kept saying he wanted to go home ...Unfortuately they decided to keep him and it was absolutely the hardest thing I ever had to do, leaving him there but I do realize it was for the best....I was in so much pain emotionally and physically....I am not a cryer(not sure why... but I do really care) at all but I did get choked up a couple times..The phone call for me to come get him was at 9am and I did not eat all day and even drinking there was no water, I tried to buy some but pop came out and I do not drink pop....So my stomach was really hurting bad just below my rib cage and centered and to the left...Not sure if there is a problem or just really bad hunger pains.(HAS THIS happened to any of you) anyway hopefully after speaking with the doctor he will be able to come home...Please keep your fingers crossed for us.....Thanks for letting me share..... Being a parent is the hardest job I ever imagined! Hugs Chris

Hugs Chris, you & your family are in my thoughts.

Awww, Chris: I am SOOOOO sorry that you and your boy are going through this. YES...being a parent is the most difficult and emotionally painful job in the entire world! I feel terrible that you had to go through such an ordeal and I am so sad that your son is unhappy. I know that his stay in the hospital was tough for both of you but do you think there is any way that it might have benefitted him? Did he get a chance to talk to psychologists while he was there? Did he get to work through some of his pain? Sometimes events that seem completely horrific may end up having some benefit. I wish that to be the case for you. Please know that I am here for you ANYTIME you need someone to talk to. I am like you...I feel things very deeply but I am not a big cryer, myself. I have not experienced the physical pain you are feeling but, if it does not go away, call your surgeon so you can rule out an ulcer, etc. You need to keep YOU healthy so you can be there for your boy. I am sending good thoughts and a ton of love your way...please let us know when he is home! Hugs, Jersey

{{{Chris}}} You and your family are in my prayers. I hope everything is ok now. Parenting is the Hardest job you'll ever have. It doesn't stop when they turn 21 either! If you need anything CALL me! Hugs, Anna

Big hugs to you Chris!!! It must have been incredibly painful to leave him there, especially when he wanted to come home. Fifteen is a hard time anyway, I was so full of pain and confusion when I was there, too... and suicide was definatly on my mind more than once. I was such an outsider, no matter how or what I tried. It's tough when all you want is a friend. Just stand beside him and make sure to remind him he is loved. I'm sure he knows it, but remind him. I hope everything goes alright. Hope he comes home & can have a positive light on what has happened. My love to you & your family! Angela

Hey Chris, I'm just so heartbroken for your son, what a tough age to go through all of this, it's a very difficult age. I am sorry you as a parent are going through this, I cannot imagine being a parent as I have yet to have kids but this situation has to be the hardest to deal with. I wish you and your family all the best, you will be in my prayers. I hope that your son will find some happiness, kids can be so darn cruel nowadays, I work with Special Day Kids and it's just so heart wrenching to see how they get treated by others. The little guy I take care of is starting to like girls and well, he's slightly mentally challenged and is in a wheelchair due to his condition, so the girls he likes they don't like him back which he is starting to notice. I try to keep his spirit up, and let him know that God just doesn't allow "just anyone" to be with him, that when the right one comes along...it will just happen. It's working thus far, but my little guy is only 9 so I am sure by next year that won't fly. It's a very tough age, so my heart is there with your son...I'll say extra prayers for him!!! I am sure he is a very unique and caring and the girl that gets him, she will be the lucky one! Good Luck! Kelli

Hugs..... Teresa