Isn't it harder?

Anna, you're looking great! What I've learned is that so many people (including myself at one point) go by our goal weight. I weigh 163 and I'm wearing a size 6...if I lost 20 more lbs. I would expect my friends and family to call the appropriate authorities! Not only that my doc said I BETTER not lose another pound. I'm getting pretty toned (as much as a WLS pt. would get), so I certainly don't look like I'm 163...according to others. Not only that but I need some curves here and there. I love the curves I have now! I need to be curvaceous! The one thing I've learned through this wonderful process is that I'm going to happy with what I have...or have lost in this matter! I'm tired of stressing...did that enough when I was obese. Can I just enjoy life?! I'm trying...we all should, but also keep in mind our success and what we have to do to maintain our success. April

I haven't been hiding, but I am definatley struggling.... Just popped in today for a few minutes to check up on everyone, and I can't resist replying to this post. I am STUCK!!! I started going to the gym again after taking most of the winter off... I gained a few pounds when I started working out again, but now... I can't even get back to my low... I'm about 4 pounds from it, and it seems unattainable. I've upped my protien, been taking my vitamins better, working out 3-4 days a week... 2 of which are one hour cardio classes... I don't eat a ton of unhealthy stuff. I hardly eat that much at all... somedays. But when I am struggling and frustrated I fall away from the boards, because I feel like I am alone, even though I am not alone, I know I am not alone... I see that others are stuck just like me. But for me... within my own head... I feel like I still have so far to go, and that I got "cheated" out of my weightloss. Sure I did have a great loss, but I feel miles from my goals, and I think my goals were very conservative. The people in here are not the reason I don't visit more often... It is me fighting myself in my own head. Same old self esteem issues that were there before are still there now, and somedays I'm just too tired to fight with them. Hope everyone is doing well and that the struggles for you get easier. Much love, Angela

Hi Angela! I'm happy to see you posting! I've missed you and hope all is well. We are all struggling as you can see. You will start to lose weight again if you just keep doing what you're doing don't get stressed or depressed about it. You may not be losing weight right now..but you are probably losing inches with your workouts! Don't ever give up! You are worth it HUGS, Anna

Hi Everyone, Count me in as a member of the "I'm struggling club". I'm about the same as you Anna!! I've been about 140-142 since Thanksgiving. My goal is to be in the 130's but I just can't stay motivated enough. I''m 5'2" and between a size 4 and 6 in pants & a size 6 or 8 in jackets & tops. I haven't gained anything, but I also haven't lost anything. I've been eating sugar free fudgies like crazy---not only 1 or 2 in an evening, but more like an entire box--that's 12 fudgies. I just can't seem to stop myself. They give me diarrhea the next day, but it still hasn't stopped me. I haven't been to the gym since Thanksgiving either. I keep coming up with different excuses. I know I have to buckle down, but so far I haven't been able to. I haven't posted in such a long time, but I've been lurking alot. I just felt like I didn't have anything to offer to the boards. Hopefully things will change soon. Thanks for starting this thread--it got me out of lurking! Kathy R

At least all of you are at your goal and under 200. I was 304 at surgery day and now fluctuate between 211 and 219. I do admit though it is very very nice to have control now over everything and know that the tool is still working. Because of my knee issues I have been unable to get my cardio in the way I would like too. But, I will be getting in the pool soon at Balley's and get in some water aerobics. I do feel healthy physically now and that is a huge blessing. Denise