Thank You!!

Hi ladies I just wanted to say, "Thank you" to everyone that had such kind supportive words for me about my situation. I truly appreciate each and every one of you. I have good moments and bad moments but I know that's to be expected. Sometimes I feel like I'm gonna be alright then there are moments when I feel like I cant do this! Stephanie called me this morning crying and wanting me to come back to nc and work on us. I cant. I wanted to say yes so bad but I cant. Just a few days ago, I got hired as a substitute teacher in nc and was very excited about it. Stephanie wasn't as excited and she kept asking me if I was sure I wanted that job. So today when she called I asked her if she was getting insecure about me doing something with my life and she starting telling me how she hates the attention I get now, how she hates feeling like I was gonna leave her once I got on my feet. She said the quick change was hard for her.. Does that sound selfish or what??!!!! I have heard of relationships chaning after surgery but I never thought it would happen to us. She was so supportive about my decision to have wls. The biggest lesson learned in all this is... HAVE YOUR OWN STUFF! when I left, all i had was my clothes and personal items. Everything i had, was in her name including my car that i pay the monthly note for and cell phone. Anyway, i just wanted to say thank you! please continue to pray for me. I'm trying to stay strong and positive for myself and kristina (my daughter). Love you all, Kay

Kay, You are such a strong inspirating woman! You deserve a great life and perhaps it is without Stephanie! Only you can decide what is best for you and Kristina.....The answer will come eventually. Those are excuses as far as thinking you are gonna leave when you got thin, because in the end her telling you that she cheated caused just that. I think it was to ease her guilt and make it more about you. It was NOT about you but all about HER! Keep your chin up and know you have friends all over the country! Hugs Chris

Hey Kay, You're doing the right thing by living life on YOUR OWN TERMS!!! When we were obese we often catered to others in our lives, giving them the first of everything and allowing them to make decisions for us, but now that we have found our voice that was dying to come out, people are somehow surprised that we have an "opinion" or have a "life" or want something of "our own." Stephanie was probably used calling all the shots and now that you have come out of the shadow of obesity, you are now being noticed and you are now wanting things of your own. It's time to move on with life, those who are not with us have to step back and allow us to shine and to become what we dare to become. You sound so excited about becoming a sub teacher, don't allow anyone to take that away from you...this is YOUR moment!!! You have to do what is right for you and your daughter, everyone else has to take a seat behind you and either be on your cheering section or as a part of your past. I know there are friends that are having a hard time with me loosing so much weight, now they are the heavy ones and they make comments like, "When are you going to stop losing weight? or Aren't you skinny already???" I know they are having a difficult time and I guess if I was in their shoes I would be too, but I have told them that my life is for ME and ME ONLY!!! Either they are with me or they are against me...and if they are the latter, then they will be a part of my past not my future. One thing I would do, is try to get the car in your name as well as your cell phone...in case things get nasty, and they could if she doesnt get her way. Just be brave, know that we are here to help you out...take care and prayers are being sent ASAP...on Angel Express!! Kelli

What a wonderful gift you have been given! You have the opportunity to find YOURSELF!! and what you want out of life. Have you own stuff is right. Buy the book "Women and Money" by Suze Orman and get started on your future! Good Luck. Teresa

Special Kay, I am going through a difficult time as well in my relationship. As I sit here and type, I am crying. I just want you to know that I am thinking about you and I know that everything is going to be okay for you. I got the book "The Secret" this weekend and have started reading it. It is very good - you should get it. Have a great day! Rhonda -137 lbs...