Update/I'm upset...

Well we went out shopping last night. She phoned me as I was walking out the door to go to Fashion Bug. She asked if she could join me and I told her that was fine... I needed to talk to her anyhow. So she meets me there and as we walk in, she makes the comment.... "Okay you go to the skinny side and I'll go to the fat side.". I grabbed her by the arm and led her right back outside and asked her why she had to make that comment, or why she always has to do that. She said she was doing it as a joke and poking fun at herself. I told her that comments like those really upset me because I feel she's not happy about my success. She told me that she was so proud of me and that she was sorry she made me feel like that. I also told her that it bothered me when she would make comments about her gaining the weight that I lost. She sorta admitted that she was jealous but made those comments because she figured she'd say what other people are thinking... again poking fun at herself. I told her that I don't see it as poking fun and that I wished she'd stop. I gave her a hug and a kiss and 15 mins later we went into the store. I feel better now that I have talked to her, but only time will tell how her reactions will be. Thanks for letting me vent to you'all. Susan

I'm glad you talked to her and it seems to have a good ending. Karla

Susan, I am glad you confronted her. Now, it's back in her court. She knows you love her and that she has hurt you, what she does with it is up to her. I hope she takes it all to heart and gives herself a break as well. Leeanne

Sounds like a passive aggressive way of her dealing with your success, but don't let that get under your skin. There are alot of people out there that are never happy for others because they are not happy with themselves. But, you handled it the right way by going to her directly and allowing her to understand how her comments make you feel. It's always best to clear the air to make things better between you two. Kudos on going to Fashion Bug, I have some coupons and I am going today!!! I love Fashion Bug, in fact I'm asking everyone to buy me a gift card for xmas.

Yeah Susan! I am so happy you talked with her. Hopefully something changes for ya!

You brought tears to my eyes. She is so proud of you and is doing what I use to do, make fun of myself so I could fool myself into like the way I was. I have friends who see me after the loss and make the same comment about finding what I have lost. But it isn't every time we meet or it is talked about. I just say, "no, not really, you are fine" Maybe she needs to hear that from you too. I am so glad you worked this out.

Susan! BRAVA for talking to your Mom! Hopefully she will realize (long-term) that her comments are hurtful and not at all humorous. I am really impressed that you told her how you are feeling! Good for you, Chickie! Have a great day! Hugs, Jersey

Good for you for letting Mom know how her behavior effects you. I hope this will help. Sending hugs, Ronna

Susan~ I am so glad you finally told her how you feel. Bet you feel alot better! So did you buy the velvet cami and jacket? Glad to hear that all worked out and wish you all the best that you and your mom can have a great relationship from here on out! Come and vent anytime! Suzette

Susan, Good for you I am so glad you had the self esteem to stand up for yourself! Thank is great. I have problems standing up to my mother most the time. So I just need some of your courage Hopefully time will tell she has changed and realizes how much what she was doing hurt you and affected you and certainly she wouldn't want to do that again!! Praying for you and your family! God Bless, Julie