" You don't need to loose anymore weight"

Has anyone been told this?? It's driving me crazy! This is why I always say. " You can't please everyone that's why you just gotta please yourself" Anyway, I'm suprised at the amount of times I have been told this. I guess it's because I was so big and people are not use to seeing me this size. I'm short.. 5'4 1/2 (yes, that 1/2 counts) so 224 is still big for my height. I've NEVER been small and I'm not trying to be a size 5 but my goal is to be 175 lbs. My surgeon wants me at 160 but I think that's too small. I don't know, I'll see when I get there. When I was over 400 lbs, I'm sure they talked about how fat I was. Now I'm smaller, they say to stop loosing?? WTF! So has anyone been told to stop loosing weight? Are you suprised to hear this? Kay.. The lady that's NOT gonna stop loosing weight

I am 5'5 and am down to 139 from 276 and EVERYONE I know is telling me that I am skinny-I am a stick-I am going to start looking sick if I lose anymore-and YES I am sick of hearing it too-granted I dont see myself 100% like those around me see me mainly because I see whats under my clothes and they dont-My surgeons goal for me is 137 and according to my height and frame I can go as low as 118 and still be normal weight so I want to lose about 10-15 more pounds maybe-I wish everyone would understand that I will stop losing when I like where I am at!!!!!

I so know how you feel! I think i get told this atleast 5 times a day. I was suprised and sometimes still am but its to the point I almost have to blow it off or I will get angry and may say something I regret! Then again these are the same ppl that had no problem telling how much better I would look if I lost the weight. Go figure Sorry had to vent also! Suzette

My mother and family tell me that all the time. I think your right about them not seeing you skinny in such a long time they think your fine now. I had people tell be before the surgery that I didn't need to loose that much. LOL I lost 110 and feel great now. Now they say.........Oh I didn't relize how big you really were or you carry your weight well. Everyone will know when they feel comfortable and at what weight. Hugs, Debbie

I havn't had that yet, but one of my sisters hadn't seen me in a couple months and she went on and on about how thin my hair is and how bad I look. I just wanted to slap her. I am the healthiest I have been in years. Yes, I have lost some hair, but I don't think I look that bad. It's like everyone focuses on the surgery and they think the worst!!! Leeanne

I get this alot too. And I am far from skinny. People who haven't seen me in awhile wil say, "Oh my God, you're so thin are you OK?" Hell yes, I'm OK, in fact I'm better than OK. You idiots. I don't need your help to get up out of a chair or to walk 10 feet. I can shower and get dressed without having to lay down and rest after. Hell yes I'm OK. Besides just being ignorant, I think they are just startled to see me 120lbs lighter. I haven't been this thin in over 20 years. But really people, Twiggy I ain't

Kay, I just don't tell people anymore. If someone asks how much more I want to lose, I just say "why? do you think I need to lose more?" They have to stop and think twice about what I said..then of course, they're embarrased by my question...touche.. I try to change the subject & if they keep on about my weight I just ignore it. Kay

Man I hear that all the time too and like Debbie, people didn't think I was that big before. Little did they know? I am now down 107lbs and still need to drop more to reach my goal and more to reach the goal of my physicians. My mom and brother say I look fine where I am. My wife says the same thing but I think her motivations are not in my best interests. Now that I have lost a few, she has found a renewed attracting towards me and she also realized others are looking too. Because of all of this, I stopped and lost motivation. I have not done anything right for the past 4 months.. Well, to hell with it...! I am getting back on track dang it..! A quote from the show Good Times, "Love Me Or Leave Me Baby...!"

Great topic!!! I am 5-5, at 135. I secretely want to get to 125. But I don't tell anyone!!! (only you guys). I hear it all the time, "don't lose anymore weight. I tell everyone "I am happy with my weight loss" and try and leave it at that. I have my TT, BL, BA, arm and thigh lift surgeries in the next couple of months along with an oral surgery so I expect to drop a few more. The whole point is people are used to seeing us big and it seems unnerving for them as we get close to goal. I know my hair has thinned out, luckily no one mentions that to me. God bless your journey, enjoy your new body, your improved health and don't let people annoy you. I just love touching my ribs and hip bones. The funny thing is I feel like I am still me, that I haven't changed, just my body. I am not my body, my body belongs to me, does that make sense? it's my house, my temple and I am enjoying the renovation. I tell everyone if you had a 1956 Mustang, (that runs great) wouldn't you restore it so that you could just love driving down the street with the tope down and your hair flowing (what's left of it) in the wind. God grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change The courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference. Don't let anyone steal away the pure JOY of our new lease on life. The hope that we have now to maintain a healthy body, the bounce in our step and the gratitude we have for the miracle of this surgery. Blessings to you, J.Marie