Constantly Changing Perceptions...

Good morning! I am just wondering if anyone else is experiencing the same thing that I am... It seems to be the case that, when I drop a size, I feel like I look fantastic and all is wonderful. Then, all of a sudden, I become accustomed to looking at myself this way and I start to feel as though I look hideously fat again. I have gone through this iteration many times now! Today happens to be one of those "I feel like a big, fat pig" days so I was wondering who else struggles with this! I just wish my perception of myself would stay positive, for pete's sake!! Love and hugs, Jersey Mom

I guess I feel the same way. One day I can like the way I look in something and the next minute I am thinking oh boy do I look fat or what.... I guess we will always feel that way.. ~~hugs and well wishes~~ Chris

I am right here with ya sista! I am having a big fat pig day as well. I just couldn't find anything to even wear that looked good this morning. I think it is going to be a struggle with us until our heads catch up with our bodies. Sometimes I wonder if that will be ever! Leeanne

Me too! In fact I am feeling that way right now since I am on a plateau. The other day a few people told me I am getting smaller but I refused to believe it thinking I was looking fat. Sheesh, our minds do play wicked tricks on us!!! Karen S.

I feel that way all the time!!! I still have a stomach and I think that's what I focus on because it's what I always needed to get rid of... It just doesn't feel like it's going anywhere!! I'm getting smaller and the stomach is getting smaller..but it's still a big belly that hangs over my jeans and pushes at my shirts. It is smaller and I know that..but I look at it and still see 250 lbs of fat there!! Hugs Anna

Me, me, me I still don't see any change in me when I look in the mirror. I see the scale going down and I can wear smaller clothes. But in the mirror staring back is still "Fat, old, Ronna." Although this morning, when I was brushing my teeth I noticed that I now have collar bones.....that's something I never saw before I think it is going to take some time till my brain catches up with my body.

Hey there JM...you could be reading my mind!! Just when I think I am looking fairly hot, and feeling rather justified in strutting my stuff, I will catch a reflection, or see a picture of myself, and just go YIKES!! Look at that waddle on the neck, or, JEESH! Look at those flabby arms! Recently, I have met a guy who makes me go a little weak in the knees. He looks at me like I am a goddess, and I have found myself feeling like one. Well, that was until I got pictures back from Halloween. I have a pic of me and him together, and all I can see is how BIG I look next to him. WTF? I don't know if it will ever end... Beth

THIS IS SO ME ............. My biggest mystake is trying to explain it to my HUsband he is a Psychotherapist and has so many answers its called Dysmorphia (spell) blaug blaugh blaugh Its so nice to have you guys *****ally know what it means to feel this way. TORI

Oh Yea, I get so annoyed that I can't se myself the way others see me!! Sometimes, and I mean sometimes, I get that rare glimpse of the new me in the mirror, but most of the time I still feel like I'm the old me. I feel like when someone is looking at me they still see the 300 pound Shannon. I really do think it's just going to take a lot more time than I thought! Oh Well, it's nice knowing that I'm not the only one. That's why I love this board of people!! Your Friend, Shannon

Jersey wow talk about hitting that nail on the head! I have been feeling the same way lately and I too look in the mirror and still see the "flaws" like my big belly (i can hide most of it) but if I wear some jeans it pushes up the excess skin and it bulges and is gross. I guess it goes to show us that this still is a battle and I think will be for the rest of our lives! ahhhh I just want it to go away and for my head to catch up to my body since I cant see what others see either! Suzette