Anxious

So, I am going to visit my old friends from college... I saw them all last year and was SMO then... now, I am not. Some know I had WLS, some do not. I am scared of their reactions. Has anyone delt with seeing ppl you have not seen since pre-wls? I just don't know what to say... how to act. Gah. I know, I should just be myself and not care what they think. But, lets be honest, it will come up and I am just not certain what to say. P.S. There is one friend in particular who struggles/obsesses over her weight and just told me (over the phone) that she has gained weight since college... I bet we are going to be the same size now and she is SUPER insecure, I know this is going to freak her out :/

Hey Mary! I so know what you're talking about. I refused to go out in my town on purpose for like the first 6 months. I didn't want anyone to know about the surgery, I wanted to show up one day at goal and people just gasp. LOL I know, impossible, but I could dream right? I first accepted everything through Myspace.... old friends requesting to be added to my friends list. It got easier to accept the comments. I didn't tell anyone about the surgery, until recently when I made a public blog about it for my 9 month surgiversary. With your friend, I think just go with the flow. Don't let it be the giant white elephant in the room... if it needs to be addressed, address it... Maybe offer some high protein low carb tips to your friend??? Sorry I can't be of more help.... have fun with your friends though!!!

I imagine you'll get lots of great compliments. If anyone doesn't, it's because their jealous of your beauty and skinniness. You'll have a wonderful time. You'll impress the heck out of them! Karla 337/201/150

I am not that close with anyone from my "school" days, but I have seen a few people, more of aquantances than anthing recently. Don't be surprised if you just get some stares. People don't know what to say sometimes. I'm sure most of what you will here will be compliments. Just remember if you here negative it's probably out of lack of knowledge about WLS or jealousy and that's there problem!! Enjoy your time with your friends. Leeanne

Awww...try not to be anxious, Chickie! Just focus on having a great time! Chances are...if you are hanging out in a large group, after they see you...the people who do not know will most likely be told by the people who do know. And that's okay. If people ask you about it you can say what I tell people (who know)..."I did what I needed to do to be healthy." It's funny...I have stopped telling new people about it. I am not ashamed but I do not feel like getting into the discussion. When people I have not seen in a long time say, "How did you do it?" I say, "I stopped eating!" (not a lie!). That usually ends the conversation! ;) And don't worry about your insecure friend. She will definitely be jealous but, I have seen your before picture and you were beautiful then, too, so she was probably also jealous of you pre-op! Have a great time!! Hugs, Jersey

I just went through the same thing on Saturday. It was my college homecoming, and I saw a lot of folks I hadn't seen in a year or 2. All I got were compliments. No one asked me how I lost the weight, and I'm sure most didn't know. But outside of that, when someone asks me how I lost the weight i just say I been working out and eating right. So you can always do that because it's true! April