body and mind not in sameplace

WOW what a year. My date is coming up on the 31 and though I sometimes am unhappy with where I am I do know that I have come a long way. My surgery was one year ago but I started really working hard at dieting about a year before that when I was at my highest weight of 450+ was at 386 day of surgery. I now am at 260 wanted to be at 200 by now but will take what I have. Don't get me wrong I know that I have come a long way and am in a much better place than I was it is just that I am hard on myself. I just can't see it. Logic and the scale tell me that I have lost but emotionally I am still a fat person. Does that make any sense at all. All in all it has been a great year and yes would do it all again. I need to come back more you all were a really big help to me in the beginning and I miss you. Peg

Peg I think you have done awesome so far! What an accomplishment for you. I know it is hard to see some people on here already having reached their goals, or even surpassed their goals. I have not hit my goal as of yet either. I am however only 7 pounds away but I still see some of these women that are into a size 3 and knock myself up a bit because I am into a size 12. I think a lot of the time our minds definately play tricks on us. We need to focus on how much we have accomplished within ourselves and not focus on what the others are doing. Remember when we were extremely fat and all we wanted to beb was a size 16 or 14 whatever it was in your head. I hit that and said OMG I want to be a size 8 now. It is really a constant struggle. Keep your chin up and remember tat we are always here for you. Keep coming back and vent to us anytime. Feel free to email me off the list if you need too. Suzanne 300/157/150

Peg, I can so relate to what you are saying. Being a heavier weight than most it is just going to take us a little longer. I too have been hard on myself, and thought I should have lost more in my first year, but my surgeon told me I was in the acceptable range and to keep doing what I am doing, and the weight will come off. That did make me feel better. It is so hard not to compare ourselves. I still have 40 more lbs to go, and I am determined to get there. When I feel down, I come to the boards, and it usually helps. E-mail any time or post. It does help. And, by the way, you have done an amazing job! Margo 334/313/202/160?

Peg, You've done a fantastic job!! You should be so proud of yourself!! I also understand when the mind and the body aren't making the connection. I still feel like the fat old me from before even when I look in the mirror. It's a strange thing. I wish you continued success! Hugs, Tracy B 328/162/150