Dissapointed?

Ok this may sound a little strange and ungrateful... I want to start by saying that I have been sooooooo happy with my surgery and weight-loss. But I went to the doctor last week for a check-up/progress report. So far I have lost 135 lbs and weigh 238lbs. My dissapointment came when I realized that I am only 8lbs away from my surgeon's target for me and that he seemed very pleased with where I am now with my weight and body frame, he just didn't seem concerned at all with my losing any more weight. My ideal weight would be 158lbs and I don't fell like I "have" to be there but I would like to be in the 180's. I would like to know what it feels like. So that means another 50-60lbs. I am still losing weight and don't feel like it is "over" yet. Also my mother recently asked me if I was ready to stop losing - I'm just not and I am not ready to start hearing that I look great now and don't need to lose any more. It feels almost like an anti-compliment to me. Anyone else feel this way?

Try to remember that you were soooo large than now you seem small so to some they may say you should stop. You will know when you are comfortable and at what weight you can actually maintain without constant worry. Being younger (much) than I you are losing faster than myself, I am at 130 althought I seem to be up and down 3 lbs these last few days, so maybe now it is only 127 lbs. But in anycase it is in that area. I cannot believe you ideal weight is 158 you are tall I believe and large frame. I think those charts are misleading. I am 5'10" and large fram and my ideal weight is 175-185. So My personal goal is 200lbs which puts me about 15-20 lbs overwieght (so what). I imagine you should be looking at something like 185 to 190 I bet once you are there you will see that it will be just fine for you. I have not lost anything in a few weeks, and I am up and down 3 lbs or so here lately which is a pain too. I actually hopped to be at 200 for Xmas but I doubt that will happen at this rate. I am at 236 or 235 or 234 depending upon the day... I goal is 200 if I get below that great otherwise I think that will work out fine for me but I am a older lady. We have reached the 75% statistic for the RNY so that maybe why the doctor said why he did, but many go on to loose 85-100% of their excess weight. We have about another 5 mths of 'window' after that it will become much harder. Hang in there, you are doing great, and just remember you are out to please yourself not everyone else.

Jenny, My doctor did not set a goal weight for me but I wanted to have a normal BMI so I decided (my nutritionist agreed) that 155lbs would be good for me. I am 5'8" and have a medium frame. My highest weight was 333lbs and surgery day weight was 316lb. I am now 171lbs (-145lbs since 1/12/05 or 90% of my excess weight). In my opinion, you should aim for a weight that you want, even if it is only a "psychological weight". If you feel that it is important to say you weight 180lbs (and it sounds like you do or you would not be mentioning it here) then I think it is super important for you to reach that goal. Don't worry what others think, whether it be the doctor or your family or friends, this is all about you. I decided when I was laying in the hospital the day of my surgery that I was not going to give up until I reached my goal weight. I did not care if the statistics said that I would only lose 75% of my excess weight, I was determined to lose 100% of the 161lbs of excess weight I was carrying. If it is true that we really only have 12-18 months of prime losing time then I think you should take advantage of every day of this. I am determined to be at my goal at or on my 1 year anniversary. I have 16lbs to go and 2 months and 10 days to do it. I guess I am lucky in that I don't have anyone telling me I can't do it or even telling me that I look great now. I am down from a 26/28 to a 10/12 and yes, I feel great but that is not the point. I want to weight 155lbs, at least for a day. If my body decides to level off at 160-165lbs, I think I will be ok with that but I truly don't think that will happen. Sorry, this note has turned into tooting my own horn but the people I see in everyday life have no idea the struggle I have undergone to get this weight off and even though they are impressed with my success, they really have no clue. I have not cheated once since my surgery and since March 19th, I have exercised religiously. This journey to my goal weight has become so important to me and I am not going to give in until the goal has been reached. I may have a heart attack from the pressure I am putting on myself but since I am doing it of my own free will, I think I will survive. Enough about me and back to you. I read in your note that you are not happy with being in the 230lbs, since that is clear, then change it and keep going until you reach 180lbs, you have come this far, don't settle for something you are not happy with. Take care and thanks for listening to my rambling. Kathy 333/316/171/155

Hi Jenny! We share the same surgery date January 10, 2005 Don't feel bad, I saw my surgeon about 3 weeks ago and this is what he told me. He said that I had another 4 month "window" in which I could lose weight. After that he said it would be pretty hard. Can you believe that? I thought we could still lose up to 18-24 months!!! I started out at 261 pounds and have lost 103 pounds. I have approximately 33 more pounds to lose. This would depend on my goal which actually started out at 115 pounds and has changed to 120-125 pounds. By the way, I am only 5 feet tall. How tall are you? He told me that if I got down to 140 pounds he would be really happy. Well, I wouldn't!!! When I think of all my hard work, not to mention the supplements and protein powder that I have purchased!!! That would simply be not acceptable to me. I asked him what I could do, and all he could tell me was to step up my exercising. I wasn't happy at all that day. I actually became very depressed and thought I can't believe that it's almost over!!! After thinking it over I told myself that I was not going to give up!! Now I'm even more determined to get down to 120-125 pounds. Jenny, let's stick together and support each other for the next months. Let's not give up!!! E-mail me whenever you feel like it!!! I'll be here for you!!! Have wonderful week and the upcoming weekend. Keep up the awesome work, you have done just great!!!! Aloha, Pat 261/158/120-125