Hey you guys :o(

I am having a hard time and well I guess I just needed to let my fmaily here know so i can get your thoughts prays and wisdom. My husbands mother past away a week ago to day and I feel so bad for him and to see the hurt he is goin threw kinda breaks me down and it is really hard because his mom and I just as much as I tried or she did we did nto click she was sick and just was not a very nice person I loved her for him but I guess being married to him it was my job to protect him form her and she did hurt him all the time any how now she is gone and threw good or bad she was his mom and I just feel like oh :o( maybe I could have tried more!! On top of all of this I found a lump on my breast needed an ulltrasound and a Mamogram had them done on the 21st and now they say I need a surgeon I am so FREAKIN OUT!! I hope a can come and give me some dust and luck for me and my three children oh how I dont know what will happen to my poor hubby if something is wrong with me too how he will this I do not know!! I mean when it rains it FREAIN pours!!

Hey there. I know how you felt with your Mother-In-Law. I have one just the same. Unfortunately as you said, they are still the DH's mom. Just be there to comfort him in his time of need and maybe his comfort back will help you deal with your fear too. I hope and pray that all that they find is a cyst or benign mass. One of my best friends has had to have 3 lumpectomies and they have all been benign. Hang in there. My thoughts & prayers are with you. Cheri

Sorry to hear about your loss. My father-in-law was such a butt that when he died neither my kids nor I felt bad. I hurt because my husband hurt. That was it. Yesterday he told me it was his 4 year anniversary of his death. I again expressed my sympathy, but that was it. I am praying for a good outcome for your lump. I hope the doctor will come and it and it will be ok. It seems as if you are walking through a valley right now and remember what ps 23 says: He is with you. God bless. Linda

Thank you both for your thoughts and prayers I need them

Hi Victoria, God bless you, your husband and children. I'll be praying for you all. Take care, Syndi

You are in my thoughts and prayers. My mother-in-law could care less about me but I know that I love her because how could I not love someone who loves my D/H and kids soo much? I try to take the way she treats me with a grain of salt, sometimes it works sometimes it does not. I can also tell you from someone who has tried everything that it probably would not have mattered what you did. She was just the way she was. You are a great person and it is great that you put your family first. And the lump, I know that it is going to be nothing, most of them are nothing. THink bright and positive thoughts. You are just fine, I know it. I have sprinkled you with fairy dust and am praying for you. Hugs, Becki

I am sorry to hear of the loss of your mother-in-law. No matter what your relationship was with her, it is still a loss and can effect you tremendously. I hope when all is done, that the lump in your breast is benign. One of my sisters has had multiple suspicious lumps biopsied, and they were benign, but the waiting is very hard. I also have a sister who had breast cancer 6 years ago at a young age. She is doing wonderfully now and has had no recurrence and no problems. I will pray for you that you continue to be strong through this stressful time in your life. SueZ

Victoria, Just be there for your husband in his loss, that is all you can do for him. Please know that you and your family are in my prayers for his loss and also for you in the lump that you found. Please keep us updated on you and how you are doing. Take care, Becky P.

thank you all for your support!! I knew I would feel better after I spoke with you all! *SMILES* It is great to have friends to talk to.

OH Baby, I feel so bad for not coming to the boards for a month. OH man... BIG CYBER HUGS to you and your family! Right now it sounds like you both need each other. I wish I could offer some sage advice or kind words but I am at a loss for words. I will definitly light a candle for you and send you all the prayers I can! Brightest Blessings for a Wonderful Day~ Jamie M. aka Lady Autumn Weight- 257/158/146 BMI- 44.1/27.1/25 Height- 5'4" Total Weight Loss: -99 lbs. Surgery Date- 1/19/05 Visit my OH profile or stop by My Weight Loss Journey Website at: home.bellsouth.net/p/PWP-LadyAutumnsWLSjourney Visit my Live Journal at: livejournal.com/users/magickalmom