brief mental meltdown??

Hi all I don't know if I have a question, or just need to talk about this or what. I am a little confused. Maybe I am just 'hormonal'. I went out to Famous Daves with my family for supper. If you have never been there, just imagine an entire side of beef on your plate. I have been out to eat several times since WLS and have never encountered what I did tonight. I did not order off the kids menu (nor have I ever tried to). I ordered rib tips and brisket, without the BBQ sauce. The meat they pile on 3 slices of texas toast (which I didn't know, and of course didn't eat). It comes with a cornbread muffin and a 1/2 ear of corn, and a choice of 2 sides. I chose baked beans and fries. Now, I know that is a LOT of food. But it was my reaction that I had when she sat it down in front of me that I am not understanding. I almost cried, but I haven't figured out why. I was a huge mix of emotions. I was sad, ashamed, embarassed, mad, I don't know what all. And I know it showed on my face, because my brother asked me if I was all right. Of course I slapped a smile on my face and said yes. The waitress, who was a peach, mentioned that I was overwhelmed. OHHH if she only knew!!!. I gave my ear of corn to my neice and just nibbled the muffin. I ate some of the beans, cautiously. I ate one fry. The rib tips and the brisket were devine. Moist and tender. I ate more than I thought I would be able too (but still not very much!!) And I did so without drinking (which has been an issue for me). Of course I brought home the leftover meat (and I confess, the rest of the muffin ). Not sure where all the emotion came from, as I have had such positive experiences previously. I do know that I didn't like it. Thanks for listening to my babble....... Sheila

I can relate. I used to love dining out, and now it's no fun. It is very overwhelming to see the big plate of food know we can only eat a few bites. Sometimes it is sad because we know it tastes good, and can't eat it. I some times order appetizers or child or senior plates so I won't have to look at so much food. But, if you are like me you don't want to feel cheated, and end up ordering the real deal. Then that's when it gets hard. I guess what I am saying is that what you experienced is normal. I never thought I would miss food so much, but as they say..."Nothing tastes as good as thin feels!" Margo

I've learned to either share something with someone or if I order a regular meal, I immediately ask for a to-go box and put all of it in there except for what I'll be able to eat. That way I don't feel so overwhelmed with the leftover food and I won't push myself to eat more than I should. Food has been a close friend to us for years and we are learning to let go and not rely on it so much, and that can be difficult. I'm told it gets easier as time goes by. Deanna

I understand exactly how you feel, but I think it is a little different with me. We eat out a lot and I do miss the enjoyment of the food. It is not the same anymore. I try and not order a whole meal; I would rather save the money than waste the food. It just isn't the same as leftovers. But I do order what I like best, usually soup and then just a little meat off my husband's plate. One regular small restaurant lets me order just the protein (like haddock without the potato, veggie or salad) and charges me less. I must say those first few bites of the protein (meat) really taste good but after just a few bites, I usually stop because I know that I will get queasy if I overeat. I just said to a friend today that I hope that "if I eat one more bite I know I will get queasy" feeling NEVER goes away. It is my safeguard to overeating. It was what I hoped would happen with this surgery. The option of overeating has been taken out of my hands. I have never thrown up and never want to, so I just stop because I know I will feel crummy if I eat a few more bites. Making correct choices is not too hard for me; have never been much on bread, sweets, etc. (not that I don't try bread once in a while). I have always liked protein and high fat foods like M&C, fried foods, etc, but have little problem with choosing the proper foods. With me, the problem is NO EXERCISE! Lynne 01/14/05 262/205/162?

Oh girl, I have been there... I am passionate about food and even more passionate about eating out. So the first time that I had to see a normal meals, I broke down in the bathroom. It was a mixture of morn and loss and joy and confusion and feelings of being wasteful all rolled into one. It was crazy. These days I ask that at least half of my meal to be boxed in the kitchen before they bring me my plate. I ask that they use a smaller plate too. If they are unwilling to meet my requests, I never go back. When they do meet my requests, they get huge tips! I also do they whole ordering lunch portions, senior menu items and stuff too. Although I rarely order from the kids meals. Have you ever stopped and realized how horribly unhealthy most of the kid's menus have become in the US? OYE! Brightest Blessings~ Jamie M. aka Lady Autumn Weight- 257/168/146 BMI- 44.1/28.8/25 Height- 5'4" Total Weight Loss: -89 lbs. Surgery Date- 1/19/05 Visit my OH profile or stop by My Weight Loss Journey Website at: home.bellsouth.net/p/PWP-LadyAutumnsWLSjourney Visit my Live Journal at: livejournal.com/users/magickalmom