Woe is me

Has anyone suffered from depression during this process? I have and just sit here thinking, well heck I got what I wanted, why am I so down? My therapist says that this is normal and that since I am changing so rapidly, physically that my mind can not keep up. She tells me that we are having to deal with the reasons we gained weight and that can be hard. I just wonder if I am the only one. Everyone seems so happy on this board with all there wonderful accomplishments (I am proud of all of us for these). I hope no one else is going through this, but experience says that if I am others may be as well. Jenn

HI Jennifer Must be the weather.....or the phase of the moon.......but just this evening I thought to myself...."what in the heck have I done? This is a lifelong thing I have done". This is the FIRST time I have even thought about questioning my WLS. But I am also having some other 'stressors' ($$$ issues) in my life. And without my 'drug' of choice (food) my mind punishes me. Plus I am having my 3 or 4 days of not being able to tolerate anything. The very thought of any food makes me ill. I have determined it to be a PMS thing. Only last 3-4 days but it is frustrating. I want to 'feed' the stress, yet can't even eat what I need to. And don't get me wrong, I follow the 'eating plan' 95% of the time. We are all human. When I feed my stress, it is protein. I am incredibly happy with my progress so far. And glad I had WLS. I think it is those fleeting frustrating moments that make us 2nd guess what we have done. I do take an antidepressant. Took it for a couple of years pre-op. Have tried to get off of it in the last couple of months, but life is just better with it. Is hard to explain..... Big hugs, and faith that no, you are not alone Sheila

I know exactly how you feel! I felt the same way! I got so very depressed right after surgery. My thought is this : we get depressed because after the long journey to get where we are and then blam it is over (surgery) it is such a let down...all the hype up to it and then the excitement is gone. But sweetie this will pass and then you will get excited about all the weight that you will be losing and then life is good! God bless. Deb S. 334/266/175

see this is what I am feeling right now, it may sound weird but it is what is going on: 1. I do not see my weight loss. I have lost 85lbs and I thought I would be able to notice, everyone else does. 2. I have had a hard time getting used to my new life. I mean I went into surgery with certian methods (food) of dealing with stuff. I felt safe behind my fat. Now my coping method is gone and I am not feeling as safe as I was. I have never regreted the surgery, I know it was the right thing to do, I just wish the emotional process would not be this hard. I know that some of this is diffrent for me then it may be for some, I mean especially 2, I used weight as a protection since I was a child, when I was abused. Now I have to deal with losing the one thing that made me feel safe all these years and that is very very scary. Thank you everyone for letting me know I am not alone. I thought I was the only one having the down sides. I am sure this will all turn around, and I will be my chipper self again soon Jenn

It must be the point in the ride that we all start to feel and question things. I have been so depressed lately that I made an appointment with a counsler. I have always had drepression but it has really taken hold of me as of late. I'm like you I just don't see the weight loss. I keep thinking that I should be changing sizes but not yet (guess my clothes were really tight before surgery) I'm like you I wouldn't for the world change the fact that I had the surgery but what in the h*ll do we do with the stress now and where do we hide when not in our comfort zone. I'm sure that we will both be just fine when we work this all out but for now it is nice to know that other feel as we do. If you need someone to listen and talk to just drop me a line love to talk. Peggy 386/304/200hopefully