what was the worst thing ever said to you?

we all have our moments of remarks made about us, but being overweight my whole life or being on a diet all the time too, i have heard things that hurt me and as i grew older i became immune to them, i built walls up but their's always that one time where you never forget it. i was thinking maybe we could share those moments. mine was about 10 years ago i was jogging and a car passed and 2 guys scream out the window hey!!!!!!!!!!! mcdonalds is the other way. i never forgot that moment, i think of it when i am at the gym and it gives me that kick i need...i fuel off of that moment but on the other hand i have never forgotten it..it is not the worse thing ever said to me but it caused the most pain...i think we become a rock and stop feeling things when we are just fat and feeling we have no way out...i am starting to feel again.....i really do have emotions and it is a great feeling, i have walled them so long it is a nice feeling to see the walls coming down one by one

Well this is not the worst but it did make me think the most, because it came from my five year old neice and there was no maile meant by it, it was just and honest question. She says to me one day when we were folding clothes "Jenny why are your underwear so big?" Well I guess it was a good question. I know she did not mean it bad, when she heard I was going to surgery and her mom explained I would lose alot of weight, she got upset and said she like her aunt Jenny the way she is and did not want me to change. I always treid to let the mean comments run off. Though as we all know somethimes you can not, and it can really hurt. Jenn

I guess I have two that hit me pretty hard that I have not been able to forget. The one I heard several time from family was you have such a pretty face its just to bad you cant drop a few pounds. And the other came 8 years ago from a boyfriend about a year after I had his son. He said if I would have known you were going to get this fat we would have never gotten together. And these remarks were made before I even got to my highest weight of 276. I just want to say look at me now. LOL This is not the worst but it is what hurts the most. Stephanie -89

Where were that little brats parents? If a kid of mine ever did that, I would paddle his little tale first THEN explain why that was very hurtful to the persons feelings. OOOOOO, that one made me mad!! I know only too well how that hurt. Good luck on your weigh in!!!

I have too many to enumerate, and most of them were NOT about being fat, just about being a nerd. It took me years of therapy to figure out that kids in a blue collar neighborhood are not going to take to their heart a girl who listens to Stravinsky and Renaissance music, and reads English History for fun in 2nd grade. Their loss. LOL I can laugh now, but I was so angry then, that If I had had the opportunity, I probably would have done a "columbine" on some of them. Yes, sick, I know. Good thing I never got the chance.LOL!! Seriously, this is a BIG problem in the schools and it just isn't being addressed. I wish I could go in and talk about hazing, teasing overweight and obese kids, and suicide. Especially the suicide. I lost two family members to suicide. I believe the problems they suffered went far back to childhood school teasing. My Dad stuttered, and my sister was teased as a nerd. Maybe after I lose more weight, I will have the confidence to do something. BTW, those teasing incidents are very fresh even today because I work in public schools as a teacher. When I see kids teasing another, I have to go get another teacher, because I would bash their f@#king heads in and stomp on them! Gee,....maybe time for more therapy? Whaddaya think?

Hi Everyone, Isn't it amazing how as the weight comes off, we have no problem rehashing our "obese youths". I had 2 that come to mind. 1) In Freshman year of HS (I believe Freshman). I went to my locker in the morning & found "WHALE" written in pencil on my locker. I'm not sure how long it lasted (but it was definitly more than once), but I know it got to the point where I would carry hairspray & paper towel in my purse to wipe it off. Never found out who it was though. Which is odd, I had loads of friends and no enemies in HS. 2) I was about 17 or 18. Was visiting my cousin @ college. Not sure where he went. But maybe 2 of 3 guys walked past me & said "Whole Lotta Lovin Going on". At that point, I was strong & Said. "to much for you to handle" and walked away. Ohhh, if they could only see me now!

I think this is the worst thing. I can remember being wighted in gym class and the teacher calling out everyones weight as it was taken, then as she got to mine she looked at me and then walked over and told the person writing it down the scale wasn't working. I wanted to die. So to have to be wiegthed for each report card has got to put some young person on the edge.

oh were to begin the list: *you have a very pretty face if you'd just lose a few pound. * oh its just baby fat she will out grow it *tubby tubby 2X4 can't fit through the door * if you would just stop eating you would lose weigh/or if you would just move you would lose weight *i like having a fat girl as a friend (coment by guy) * nick named by a friend TANK * hey stop walking before you start a fire between your legs * haveing a women look at me on a plane and say can I please have another set there isn't room for me next to her * I'm sorry all our rides have weight limits * oh your just like your grand mother ( she died at 45 from heart failure and very obese) * just a week before my surgery grand nephew looked at me and said you have a big butt. (we won't talk about what his daddy did to his butt) I have to stop now but I could go on.