reality moment

I was having a really bad day yesterday and was basicly feeling sorry for myself and just generally in a crummy mood. Well I found a bag of chetoes in the kitchen and was eating them when daughter came home. She had a fit when she saw me eating them I told her that I couldn't help it that I wanted them and was having a bad day. Well hear came the blast with hands on hips she looks at me and says "IF YOU CAN'T LOSE WEIGHT AFTER HAVING HALF YOUR INSIDES MOVED AROUND AND CUT UP THEN I AM JUST SCREWED." She has always had the few extra pounds 20>30 and I know that is because of the bad habits that she has learned from me. I realized for the first time that I really wasn't doing this just for me, that it was for my daughter also, she could see that it could be done and to learn better habits for the future. I rolled the bag up in a little ball and put it in the trash right then and told her that she was right I didn't need them and that I had gone through to much to through it away now. She is 21 and getting married in Oct. I will do this not just for me but for all that are looking to me for support and for my grand children that I want to spoil one day.

Sweetie, tell your daughter to be a little more tolerant. They operated on your tummy, not your head. That needs to be reeducated slowly and with encouragement. Now, having said that,.........CHEETOES!!!!!!!!!!!!! What the H#@& do you need those for? Puffed up little pieces of fat, artery clogging little ****s! Ban them from your home. If you must cheat, try trisquits or a piece of cheese. Hell, cheetoes aren't even real cheese. Sorry! I had to get that out. I went through my house before surgery and chucked everything on the banned list. My husband sneaked in some beers for him and some cookies for the kids, but they don't bother me. My weakness was eating too fast and too much. No problem with that anymore.

i read your post and at first i thought to myself that this surgery is a me thing..it is probadly the only thing i ever do that is just for me and me alone..if i falter in any way it only hurts me, if i eat things that have no nutrional value then i am eating wrong and it effects me, she should'nt be concerned with what others think wether she is doing right or wrong, then i walked outside at work and was still thinking about what you wrote, I see you make a very valid point if what you are doing effects someone else then you have to incorporate that into the total picture, i think we lose sight of our actions when we think it only matters to us what we do....it is like they say if you throw a rock into a creek you will see the splash and the ripples that go everywhere...i think you were able to see that ripple and that in itself is a good thing when it turns into a positive as it has. I still believe the largest motivator of this weight loss has to be for us but i also see the people that matter the most to us can and should be involved in our total overall success.

Thanks for sharing your story, I am so glad that I am not the only one who had a cheeto moment and then had my own kid call me in the carpet about it! MY son is only six, going on 30, and out of his mouth was... "MOM THAT'S FAT FOOD, BACK AWAY FROM THE CHEETOS! HAND THEM OVER AND YOU WON'T BE ARRESTED!" Brightest Blessings for a Wonderful Day~ Jamie M. aka Lady Autumn Weight- 257/186/146 BMI- 44.1/31.9/25 Height- 5'4" Total Weight Loss: -71 lbs. Surgery Date- 1/19/05 Visit my OH profile or stop by My Weight Loss Journey Website at: home.bellsouth.net/p/PWP-LadyAutumnsWLSjourney