Fessing up your pre-op weight...

before surgery, how open were you about sharing it with other people? I ask because my dh tinks I'm being unreasonable, as I never told him how much I weighed before surgery (and I still won't). I was much too ashamed to admit to him, or anybody else. I'm tall, and have been told I carry my weight well (whatever that means!), so no one ever even came close to guessing I weighed as much as I did. When people ask now, I only tell them how much I have lost. I'll only fess up with the dr or on these boards (because there aren't any skinny, judgmental folks around here to make me feel uncomfortable). Is it normal to still be terrified to tell dh my number? I don't plan on ever telling him, being that I won't ever be that heavy again. I just think it's something very personal, and simply leave it at that. How open are you in real life with your "number"? Melissa 399/307/180 (see - I even typed it!)

I was so dismayed at reaching the 3s, I didn't tell anyone. Three years ago I did Atkins diligently and lost 85 pounds, down from 325 and thought I was on top of the world - little did I know that they were not really lost, just hiding and waiting to come back - LOL. Now that I've found out the "secret cure", I know that I'll never see the 3s again. On a 5'2" frame, I was as round as I was tall. Today i've lost another pound and a half and feeling GREAT... to answer your question -- since I'm confident that I'll never reach that number again, I did tell quite a few people my starting weight, even my dear DH and teenagers - WOW! That was a big step for me, as I don't think I'd really ever discussed the "numbers" with them. I may well have been justifying the surgery by publically anouncing my starting weight, but it felt kinda good to come "clean" Good QUESTION!!! (((skinny hugs))) wendyb -46.5

Weight is a very personal thing even now. I have told my family, hubby and daughter but would kill if they tell anyone else. I have told them how I feel and they understand. I think it is because we have been judged for so many years by our weight that we are unwilling to risk being judged again, even with people that love us. You were brave to share you numbers here so I will too. 386/363/200 or less Peggy

I'm a pretty open, candid person and would tell people my weight in discussion where other people were also 'coming out'. But since I had the surgery I have no problem disclosing where I started or where I'm going. I figure people judged me by appearance to begin with so associating a number to that isn't going to hurt any more. I'm short too! 5'0 and was nearly as wide as tall. I'm proud of myself and what I've accomplished today and find mostly that the people who know me are proud of me too. If they're not, bah...I can't do anything for them anyway! Have a great day! Deb 260/195/120

You know what before surgery I did not tell many folks but when I would get the comment, "you don't look fat," "You carry your weight well," or "You don't need the surgery" I would just blurt it out... HEY! I'm 260 lbs! And they usually shut up and looked comepletely suprised! LOL! I used to love to get up on those guess your weight scales (within 3 lbs) just because I knew I would win the prize! Now, it does not bother me in the least bit to admit how much I weighed before surgery, I actually use it as a tool for understanding. I have found that those same comments still linger among family and friends so it helps to remind them how heavy I really was and how bad my health got. THANKFULLY, I am married to a great man and he is a medical professional so he understands how much progress I have made more than most hubbies. The BEST validations I get from him are at night when we cuddle and he whispers... "I can reach all the way around you and overlap my arms, I like that!" Brightest Blessings for a Wonderful Day~ Jamie M. aka Lady Autumn Weight- 257/204/146 BMI- 44.1/35/25 Height- 5'4" Total Weight Loss: -53 lbs. Surgery Date- 1/19/05 Visit my OH profile or stop by My Weight Loss Journey Website at: home.bellsouth.net/p/PWP-LadyAutumnsWLSjourney