Depressed

Hi All, Today I have been so sad and depressed feeling. My boyfriend who I have been seeing for over 2 years went home on Thursday. We live 1 1/2 hours apart...Not that much, but not close enough for him to just come over at the drop of a hat. He has been wonderful in supporting me through the decision to have WLS and has stayed with me for the last 3 weeks. But now he is back home, and I am feeling so low...I have 3 children, 8,12 and 15 and they are great...A handful at times, but treasures never the less! I know this post doesn't really have anything to do with my surgery, or problem I might be having....but I felt like I needed to get the feelings out. This is Lanie....hoping to be feeling cheerier soon!

Lanie, It is overwhelming to be alone at times. My husband works shift work and when he's at work during the night I tend to get depressed too. Everything is so new and unknown. It's good that your children are older and can help more than you realize. My three children are 15, 14 &11 and always ready to help. Hang in there we all get like that at times. Take Care and God bless you, Syndi

Lanie, I get depressed even when my husband is home! Depression occurs frequently in my family; two family members died as a result of depression. I take it VERY seriously. Reaching out to others is the way to go. You can email me anytime at [email protected] and I will give you my phone number. Night or day, call if it gets too bad. It is temporary. Unfortunately, our old ways of dealing with it (eating) no longer are an option. Best advice I can give is to exercise, which gets the brain chems balanced, or take a bubble bath while sipping hot tea. Or that oldie but goodie, sleep. Been there Girl, many times. Good Luck, Lou Ann

Hi Lanie, I know how you are feeling. I too have been going threw my blue moments as I call it. I have 3 children at home, 16, 10 & 6. My husband works 2 1/2 hours away so he is not home threw the week. I have found out that if I get out of the house for a while, just go for a walk or something that it does help. I hope that you are feeling better soon. It will get better each day. Take care and God Bless.

Syndi, Lou Ann and Julia, Thanks so much for all of your support! I think that I have also been trying to juggle too many things, too soon. I haven't really devoted the time to recovery that I deserve. But I was bound and determined to get back on my feet asap! Maybe not the best idea . On Saturday I took my 8 year old to a friends ice scating birthday party....and, yes you guess it, I went ice skating...not even 3 weeks post op. Then I spend 4 hours at Wal-mart getting some underwear and bra's for my 12 year old. Too much, too soon maybe?...LOL. I think a long bubble bath in in order. God Bless to all of you..........Lanie

Been there, done that.... At 3 weeks post up the Army sent my hubby overseas. My dad was here helping me but now he is gone too. Sometimes I find myself feeling so lonely and then my son (he is six) comes and crawls in my lap (it perks me up just to know he can do that again...lol) and hugs me and says that he will keep me company. At night he crawls in bed with me claiming that he want to "keep you safe mommy" although I know he misses his dad too! It will get better soon Hun. Your body has to have a chance to level out your hormone levels. Once they get balanced and your diet becomes more balanced and nutritious you will start to feel better. Have you tried to journal your feelings? Do you keep a food journal. If you do, write an entry about your feelings that day. Down the road you will be greatful that you did because you will be able to recognize eating patterns that you might have though you did not have or that you have beaten and be able to work on those patterns or get help for them. I have noticed that when I feel lonely I turn to "salty" carbs so I am trying to keep low carb things or nocarb things in the house when I know I might get lonely (like when hubby is deployed). HTH! Brightest Blessings for a Wonderful Day~ Jamie M. Weight- 257/225.5/146 BMI- 44.1/38.7/25 Height- 5' 4" Surgery Date: 1/19/05 My WLS Journey Site: http://home.bellsouth.net/p/PWP-LadyAutumnsWLSjourney No matter what size, we are all Goddesses inside!

I know the feeling Lanie - When I came home from the hospital, everyone still had their lives to attend to. Even 6 weeks (Oh, has it been that long), I'm back on my feet and doing very well as far as the surgery is going, but I am alone most of the time myself. I"m patiently waiting for spring . . hoping that the new season will lift my spirts. I'm also looking for work (which has not been going so well) . . . But I'll leave you with the wise words my friend keeps telling me . . "You have to be happy with the company you keep when your alone." And remember . . your not really alone . . You have us here at OH I am really addicted to the chat room. LOL Smile!! DeniseA aka DeniseNY