Please dont shoot me....but I need some advice

Hello everyone, I am just shy of being 14 months post op. I have been having a really hard time the last 4 to 5 months, but really bad this last month. I just cant seem to stop myself from eating. And its really bad food, not good healthy stuff. I know I might catch crud from people, but i really and truelly dont understand why I am craving so much of the bad stuff. Sweets, Oh my god they make me so sick if I eat too much of it, but I cant seem to stop trying to eat as much as I can. Especially chocolate. Its almost like my body knows Im gonna get sick off that one piece of chocolate but I will eat only one piece and wait and eat another one 15 minutes later. I KNOW REALLY BAD!!! But I honestly dont know why I'm craving sweets so much. High carb foods, like breads, cakes, doughnuts. WHATS WRONG WITH ME????? I honestly dont remember eating like this when I was 120 pounds heavier, why is it now I crave it sooo much. Not only is that a problem, the past couple of days, everytime I eat...my stomach has a burning sensaton in it. I really think I am one of the unlucky ones who will gain all the weight back. Is this all a will power thing...Im not just a looser of weight, I feel like a real LOOSER!!! Why can't I eat healthy? WHats wrong with me. And believe me, If you ask me if I am depressed, I am now. Just the thought of gaining back all that weight scares the crap out of me, but doesnt seem to stop me. OH GOD. I dont know. Maybe it is depression. Maybe I am just an emotional eater. So that means every emotion I feel I EAT! GREAT! I guess I just needed to talk to you all to see if I can get any advice. I understand the slams if you feel the need, just please be gentle. I feel I deserve it. Well thanks for listening. God Bless, Sandra Johnston

My guess is you are eating too many carbs. The more you eat of them the more you want. I know this sounds impossible but try to eat nothing but meat for 2-3 days to get the carbs out of your system. Hopefully you will see the insatiable desire for them decrease. We all have our demons on this journey so don't beat yourself up. If you can't get it under control see a behavioral psychologist for a while rather than take a chance on gaining the weight back. Hope this helps in some way. You can do this, you've been doing it for months. It gets harder as we get further out but that just means we have to dig in and work harder. Best of luck!

I totally understand where you are coming from. I recently have been dabbling with the sweets. And ya they make me feel gross, or I usually need a nap when I am coming down off the sugar high. I have tried to keep only the low sugar items around and gone back to popsicles. It helps sometimes. Chocolate is just a problem - period. It sounds like you know this is a problem and admitting it is step #1. Now we all have to take charge and change these things for good choices. You are not alone. Just keep your head up and you will be fine. You have done wonderful so far and I am sure you will keep doing great. We all have set-backs sometimes. Best of wishes. Dawn -119

Ok first off dont beat yourself up over this. We all have the same problems or we wouldnt have been overweight in the first place. I am one of the lucky ones I guess I can eat sugar and not get sick{i think of this is bad not lucky} however I have learned not too pu****Its willpower and friends that will get you through it. Also a little every now and then wont kill you just change what your eating. They make some good low sugar chocolates now. I buy the reese cups things that are good minutures is all i buy too and the hershey sugar free minatures are good too. Endulge on a little bar thats sugar free ...it does help and dont leave em in sight every day too...Put them in a place in your pantry you wont see everyday only when your craving it bad and you remember you have em. I keep alot of fruit around for when im craving sweets too..I eat the fruit first or some peanut butter or something and then if it doesnt work i find the chocolate. Usually after i have had snacks of all sorts i forgot bout the chocolate and im full...Keep up the good work and remember faith and your support system online thats what we are here for.Email me anytime if you need too Sherry Neiger 323/150/169

((((((Sandra)))))) I cant imagen anyone being rude but if so then they should just keep the saying if you cant be nice blah blah, ya know, My take on this is that you know what you are doing and when you are doing it right? so why not go back to the nutrionist and get some feed back, how about support groups? Its not an easy thing. I personally have never tried chocolate again, I think I would be sick because I have tried things that are "sugar free" like ice cream and I dump terrible so thats out. I do eat carbs but not alot, like pretzels etc but I also love nuts, planters mixed deluxe, try that instead of what you may be doing. also there is south beach to help you for awhile, excersing to get your mind clear, You went through sooooooo much to get here, dont let it back in, I am always here if you need an email or a boost of encouragement, its true we can go back but by the grace of God we dont have to and once you make that commitment you can and will strive to be all you can be and not let the demons win, AMEN?!!!! YES AMEN!!!!!

Hi Sandra, First off stop beating yourself up! That will do you no good! Your in a little slump that I think most of us have gone through. You have been through some major changes in the last year and it takes its toll on your mind and body. The problem with sugar is once you have it your body craves it. It wants more. So the more you eat it the more your body will crave it and your in that horrible cycle. My good friend actually went to a support group and found a great doctor who ended up putting her on Welbutrin (spelling) she's not depressed, but she had been eating for no reason. She was eating when she wasn't hungry. How her doctor put it was the surgery is a tool to help lose weight right, well the meds are also a tool to help you get control of your mind. Since she has been going to the support group, seeing the doctor and taking the meds she has lost seven more pounds and is making better choices! Her favorite part is she is now able to fight the head hunger and the sweets! I am so proud of her. When I read your post I thought of her, because you two seem like you have a lot of the same issues! It might be a good idea for you to get some extra help to figure out why your eating the way you are. Know that its okay too! Sandra look at how awesome you look! Look at how far you have come! You've done a great job! Keep it up and don't let this bring you down. Find the reason why. It very well could be you are an emotional eater and if that's the case get help so that you can work through it. You can do it Sandra you've come this far! Just look down and see how great you look! For me, I keep a pair of fat pants in my closet so that I never ever forget where I was! That seems to really help! Good luck to you and let us know how your doing! And please don't beat yourself up. Kasey