Have any of you encountered anybody that regretted having surgery?

I have a customer who had surgery about 6 weeks ago and she HATES it! I am not kidding! She went back to her surgeon and told him she wants it reversed. She is miserable not being able to eat. And she has been naseous. I told her to give it time and the surgeon also told her to wait 6 months but she wants it done now. She paid cash for her surgery and the surgeon went ahead with it even though she told him she thought she should wait because she was having second thoughts. Well, this surgeon didn't even require her to have a psych evaluation. I was worried about her because I know she didnt research it much. She just thought it sounded easy. I told her it isn't easy and that I researched it for 3 years before I did it. She was clueless about the whole procedure really. Anyway, anybody know of anybody else that absolutely hates the fact that they did this? Any advise? I don't know what else to say to her because I have no regrets at all. It's the best thing I ever did for myself. Any comments are greatly appreciated! Thanks Char

All you can tell her is to give it time hun............ It is hard at first I think for everyone! Just tell her to hang in there and take it one day at a time! Also give her the site address so she can do more research on the surgery and get more support...........

Char, Are there any support groups in your area? Maybe you can steer her toward one... seeing other individuals face to face might help. V.

I think you gave her the best advise possible by telling her to give it time. Some people just aren't going to be happy with anything. It's not surprising she isn't happy because she wasn't prepared for the recovery process. I don't personally know of anybody who is sorry they had the surgery. I read about new post-ops on the board sometimes but they settle down once their recovery progresses. Most of them appear not to have been prepared for the recovery process either.

I don't know anyone who has regretted doing the surgery, but my heart goes out to you, because you are celebrating the life you now have, yet part of you feels bad for your patient. It is obvious that she was not prepared for the life changes ahead of her...that is why the evaluations and preparations are so important. You are very much on the right track...telling her to give it time is the only advise that is sound...however, she might want to visit with a counselor or someone and talk about the the things that are bothering her most about the surgery...I feel that if she had had to wait like most of us had, for approvals or what ever, maybe the things that are bothering her would have been more evident.