Just really need some support!

Hey Everyone, I have neglected the board in some time. Sorry! I am having some interpersonal issues and just really need some support. Seems lately that I have had more "I feel Fat" days than not. I think I am still on the right track. My weight loss has been slow this month. Only about 12 pounds for the whole month. I have a total loss of 88 pounds...I just don't see it when I look in the mirror. I think it will be many more pounds gone before I do see it... I feel so blue and down lately. I need a happy pill I think? IF anyone else out ther is having issues like this, please let me know. I would think that with all this weight loss, I would be a little happier? I am under a lot of financial stress right now. My husband and I are dealing with some difficult issues and I still have this back issue, which by the way, I need to get off of here and go to therapy! I look forward to hearing from you guys. Much blessings for all *****ad this! Kristal V.

Kristal-Keep your chin up and keep smiling ! I had surgery 1/21/04 and have only lost 52 lbs. (I lost 12 before surgery). So I've lost a total of 64 lbs. You're doing really good, with a total loss of 88 lbs. since January 14! I too have days that I feel fat! I'm just starting to see the results when I look in the mirror! I have been doing a journal since last fall, when I decided to have WLS, I write in it every day! I also have before and after pictures. I have these in my journal. The before picture is the night before my surgery and the after is 2 months post-op. When I look at these I can really see the difference. My doctor told me to do this. I'll be taking another one soon. To add to my journal. If you're anything like me you want results NOW! I have about 49 more pounds to get to my goal and it can't come soon enough! Just think of how much healthier you are now than before! Keep up the good work! Kimberley 248/184

Hi Kristal! I know exactly how you feel! I'm near your age (23) and I was 405 the day before my surgery so I'm also near your starting weight. I've lost 76lbs so far and a lot of the time I really can't see it. I notice that I have more energy but I still like fat old Monika a lot of the time. I also feel like I've lost sooo much weight already (114 lbs total) but it just doesn't seem like it makes a difference because I still have so far to go. More power to all of the people who started out at a lower bmi and are already halfway or more to goal, but I can't help but be a little jealous. I worry all the time that I won't be able to make it to my goal. I'm still mad at myself a lot of the time for ever letting it get so out of hand, but I guess that's life. I'm sure we'll get there in time, and in my support group everyone says it usually takes at least a couple of years for your brain to catch up with what you really look like. It's very common to look in the mirror and still see yourself how you used to be and not what's really there. My fiance and I are buying a house next month and getting married this summer, so we've been dealing with a lot of stressful issues too. Just try not to turn on eachother, we've started counseling and I think it has really helped a lot. We did something that will affect the rest of our lives so I'm sure it's completely normal to feel a little blue about it from time to time. Anyways, I hope you start to feel better soon! If you need anyone to talk to I'd be more than happy to chat with ya! Take care! -Monika

Hi Krystal, I'm sorry hon that you are feeling icky- I know when I'm that way it's just miserable. Sometimes there is nothing to do for it but give in momentarily, spend a day watching chic clicks, crying or sleeping or doing comfort things (NOT FOOD!) for you. On this day, don't do anything that you don't want to, don't hold stressful discussions or make important decisions. In other words - give yourself a time-out. Kids need them, adults need them. Then - after YOUR day - you'll be much more apt to jump back into life & will be happier again. Just like before wls, we had mood swings - these will continue after wls. We all have good days and bad days too. You are doing great ~ even if it doesn't feel like it 100% of the time. Take care of YOU! Barbie 1-21-04 281/230/150ish

Them old hormones are probably kicking in and are still lost on what to do...........I think it takes time to sink in that we lost to much weight at one time.........If you think about it look how long it took to take off........and 12 lbs that is great just think that is 3lbs a week.........And you already lost 88lbs whooooooooooo hooooooooooo You are doing great girl............ God Bless

You are doing great and will soon feel perky again. Our bodies are going thru soo much we can just expect the tough days. Stress is always a tough one to handle - you will make it thru !!! Best wishes. Dawn -64

Hi Kristal I'm sorry you are having a stressful time right now, however you are 88 pounds healthier than you were before your surgery. Did you take your measurements before your surgery, if not, do it now and then every couple of weeks remeasure, it is an uplifter!! You may not feel thinner, but the measuring tape don't lie!!! Did you have a piture taken of yourself before your surgery? If not, have one taken now so that you can see in a few weeks or months the difference those pounds lost make!! I am sure that with 88 pounds gone, you have alot of inches gone too. Try keeping a positive attitude and do things that will take your mind off your body. Rejoice in the pounds that are gone, and the rest will come in time. Rejoice in what you can do now that you couldn't a few months ago!! I wish you much happiness. My surgery was 1-5-04, I'm done 90 pounds and 99 inches, happier and healthier than I have been in twenty years. Keep up the great job!!

Hi Kristal, Everyone here is right, we all have the good days and the bad days. I think you have done absolutely AWESOME. You're way ahead of me in weight loss. The weight will continue to come off, I am sure of that. I still look in the mirror and see the old me sometimes. I'm sure we all do. But we are healthier than when we started the journey. Take some time for YOU. You deserve it. Blessings to you sweetie.

Hey Kristal, Keep your chin up. I know that i have seen people and I thought that they would notice that ive lost 60 lbs. but ive had several people not even notice. Keep plugging along. We didn't gain it overnight and unfortunatly it dosen't come off overnight. Michelle

Hi Kristal, I know how you feel. I had my surgery 1-27-04 and I have lost 91lbs and sometimes (most of the time) I feel so blue.... . I have even gone to see someone about this. I do not feel like doing anything. My husband and I are having a house built and I am excitied but I know there should be more emotion than I am having. You just need to know that what you did is the BEST thing you could have done for yourself. The days will be better and you won'e feel so down. Just keep saying to yourself "I FEEL GREAT TODAY" Michelle