Pain in my left side still & Depression

Kristal-From what I understand depression is normal, not that helps us any. I had lap-RNY 1/29/04 and last night was really bad for me. I am on the protein shakes for meals now per the doc and I am not hungry buttt my husband cooks fried pork chops, biscuits and gravy for his supper last night. I don't think I have smelt anything sooo good. I went in my room and cried and said I don't know why I had this done among other things. Of course one thing I said was "why didn't we have this BEFORE I had surgery". My husband is the cook. He felt so bad. I told him it wasn't his fault but I still cried. We have to remember we have lost a dear, dear friend. I wasn't hungry but I guess it was head hunger. I did remember last night I hadn't started back on my Paxil yet so I did take it last night. My sweet 28 year old daugther called while I was upset so she talked to me until my husband finished eating and cleaned up the kitchen. She gave me pep talks and told me this summer she was taking me to the amusement park and we were going to ride roller coasters all day long. I thought it was so sweet that she had thought of that because for probably 20 years I haven't been able to ride with her and her brother. Grown children are amazing. It sure helps to have people you can be honest with and not always put on a happy face. We all have to support each other because several people that I have met recently that are 2-3yrs out say they would do it again in a hearbeat. Pat L

Hi Krystal I was having pain in the left side also, It is the drain site, it takes longer to heal 6-8 wks, try not to do any bending of lifting as it is healing...hope this helps... Denise