Question:
How do I help my supportive hubby be realistic!

My husband is a terrific guy and is very supportive, but he's also the type of guy that thinks nothing bad ever happens then when it does, he completely loses it. I'm worried about how he'll be when he sees me after surgery, with all the tubes, etc. hanging out of me. He's never personally had to deal with something like this. Any suggestions?    — Jan B. (posted on August 21, 1999)

August 20, 1999
Hello :) Just an idea.. what about taking him out here to the web and showing him some of the pictures that people have posted up? The ones from right after surgery? Maybe have him read some of the information about what tubes will be in you and why? Good Luck! :)
   — TaraLong

August 21, 1999
I have found that having your husband with you while you are on the net is a great start. Let him read the good and the bad. If he is up to it have him watch the slide show. I have even had my husband talk with some of my contacts that I have gotten from this site. Like yours, my husband is very supportive. I found out that he is just as interested in learning all of the information about this as I am. http://samaritanaz.com is the site for the slide show. Good Luck!
   — Heather A.

August 21, 1999
I suggest you have him view the sildeshow. You can find the web site in the data bank on this web site. :o)
   — [Anonymous]

August 22, 1999
My husband is the same way. He does not see how his life will be altered after my surgery. All I do is talk and talk and talk. I tell him it is help me to go through it again and again. So he thinks he is being very supportive listening to me, and I hope that all the conversations we have had with the nurse and the doctor has prepared him. I think that is all you can do. Is to do try to prepare our loveable husbands for what is to come and hope that the strength within them is strong. Keep talking and letting him know what to expect, I bet he will surprise you.
   — sue ann A.