Question:
Has anyone felt scared of this surgery that you where not going to make it.

I am feeling scared right now. I know that surgery is my only hope now. There is no other way for me I have tried everything else. Just wanted to know if anyone has ever felt the way that I am feeling now. PLEASE HELP!!!!!    — Erma D. (posted on January 13, 2003)

January 13, 2003
I felt scared before my surgery, 10/22/02. I even thought about my own funeral. I was thinking it was because of my age, 53, but then I thought back to all the other surgerys I have had in the last 20 years and I remember having the same worries before each one of them. I had no complications and by the end of the first week hardly a bit of pain. You will be fine.
   — Tawnda C.

January 13, 2003
I think everyone must feel this way. I just had my surgery last Tuesday and I was having some worries. I am home now and doing fine. Think about all the things that could happen if you don't have the surgery.
   — Amy E.

January 13, 2003
Yes, most everyone feels this way. My last words to my husband and best friend before wheeling off to the OR were, "If I don't make it, remember how much I love you BOTH." I'm sure my husband would have liked a few last words that were different than those to my best friend, but dang it, I was NERVOUS! LOL! Anyway, after you wake up, you'll realize your fears were unfounded. You'll be fine! :)
   — Diana L.

January 13, 2003
I understand how you are feeling. I was so nervous! I couldn't get the thought out of my mind that I might not make it through the surgery. I prayed, I cried, I worried, wrote letters to my kids (just in case), updated my will, etc.,...but I KNEW I was doing the right thing for myself and my family. Even the morning of my surgery, I was prepared for the worst. But, as I've told people many times after the surgery, having faced the possibility of death, I now know how much I appreciate being alive and how much I really want to live life to the fullest every day. Like the previous response, when I woke up from the surgery, I knew how much I'd worried for nothing. God bless you and good luck! RNY 10/30/02 down 51 lbs.
   — lezawomack

January 14, 2003
Erma, I am in the same boat! I have not had the surgery yet (but I am anxiously awaiting approval) and one half of me knows that after 10+ years of dieting without sucess that this surgery is my only hope and the 2nd half of me says why if you are healthy reasonably healthy now risk death? The way I deal with it is, yes I am reasonably happy now, but I don't have the family and love that I want and what about 10 or even 20 years from now, how healthy can a morbidly obese person be at 40, 50, or 60 if we make it to that age. I may be somewhat healthy now, but I won't be for long, not at my weight. Think of it as preventative medicine like a vaccine! Contact me if you ever want to talk. [email protected]
   — mdjacobs