Question:
I know i made the right decision but.....
I am so bored with this whole gastric bypass thing. All the food i put in my mouth makes me depressed...like I am scared I am gonna just stay the way I am. I can never figure out what to eat...i feel like i have NO verity to my meals...i cant say diet becuase its not a diet....my dad yelled at me this morning becuase he said that i have been really miserable and pissy becuse of all of this...and alls i want to do is cry...i dont know what to do...its just very depressing to me! Like, my mom makes me feel bad if i order out from work but sometimes i dont want what she has at home and i have no idea what to ask her for at the food store and i think she thinks that this is a permanate diet and its not! I am never really hugry unless i dont eat for HOURS which i have a habbit of doing. I dont know waht to do.... — sandrac131 (posted on December 11, 2002)
December 10, 2002
Your really early on. It takes time to adjust. For the first few months I
was never hungry, and once went 3 days without eating a thing. Preety soon
you will be able to eat more and stuff will taste good. You will look back
and WISH you still had no appetite. If any of your family is overweight
they are likely jealous of your loss. Some are afraid they might get pushed
to get surgery themselves and their comments are more about themselves than
you. Look at the brite side, the HARD part os over, you got thru pre op
tests and the actual surgery. Fear of dying is past you. Your on the very
edge of saying like I do POST OP IS THE PLACE TO BE!
— bob-haller
December 10, 2002
I know you don't want to hear this, but you are not even a month out yet.
What you are feeling is normal. Your diet does not vary too much in the
begining. IT took me until about 6 months befoer I felt like I actually had
"choices". Your area also having significant hormone changes that
is making this all worse. It will get better. Just hang in there.
— Vicki L.
December 11, 2002
Sandra - as the other posters said, you are still very early post-op. Don't
panic yet! Please try to hang in there. I know for me the first 2 months
were extremely tough. It wasn't really food that depressed me so much, I
think it was hormonal more than anything. You REALLY will have more choices
at 5 or 6 months out. But your new tummy needs the first few months to
really heal, so don't push it. Do you attend support group meetings? If so,
you really should try to get one or both of your parents to go to a couple
of meetings with you. My DH has been incredibly supportive, even going to
most of my meetings with me. Of course sometimes having an educated non-WLS
person in the house can be a pain (he will occasionally nag a little or
second guess my choices, but I still love him). You need to do what you can
for YOU. YOU are the reason you had this surgery (I hope), not for anyone
else. If you can't go to a support group meeting, then sit here at AMOS and
read, read, read as many post-op profiles as you can. It really does get
better. Just don't push yourself in the beginning. But also remember why
you did this - for your health and your happiness. Good Luck to you. - Anna
LAP RNY 7/3/02 -93lbs.
— Anna L.
December 11, 2002
Sandra, Do you have a support group to talk about these things with? You
are going through a huge adjustment and need plenty of support. You might
even want to consider counseling so that you can really work on the food
issues. Just a thought. Robin
— rebalspirit
December 11, 2002
HONEY! My doc told me I'd be depressed & bitchy for about 3 months. So
be gentle with yourself. You just had MAJOR surgery, gee - I guess you knew
that. It takes a while for bodies to heal.
— LionGirl2k
December 11, 2002
Support for me was vital. My family is extremely jealous of me. They are
doing whatever they can to get me to eat wrongly. They bring sweets and
junk food to my place all the time. My mom says it's so when she stops
over it will be there for her. She does visit twice a wk but I had to put
my foot down and we got in a fight about the junk. They really are being
disrespectful of my new life. Try to stay focused on your new life. I don't
often hear people online talking about the mental changes that need to
happen. But I need to now think differently about myself & food. It's
like starting a new relationship. I try not to share my experience &
journey with all the negative friends & family any longer. I go to
support grp at the hospital and I am online here every single day. You'll
learn what you can and cannot talk about with certain people. You are the
one who has made a wonderful change in your life, a change that will now
result in your being healthier and happier. You deserve better than beating
yourself up like you are. And you deserve to be treated respectfully. I too
when first postop just got so tired of trying to figure out what I can eat,
protein amts, carb amts, cal's, fats, sugars so on and so on. Take a day at
a time, eat when you know you have to. What really helped me was to change
my ways of cooking too. I try not to treat myself like I had surgery and
now have to modify my eating. And I decided I'm going to learn how to do a
little gourmet cooking. Since I can only eat small amts of food, I can
afford to buy myself special things. I love fish so I buy small amts of
lobster, crab legs, crawfish, clams, salmon. And meats I'll buy filet
mignon, and keep them stored in little bags in small portions in the
freezer. Just pull one out and defrost it in the micro or throw it on the
grill still frozen. I bought myself a George Foreman grill and an ice
shaver machine too. I bought all new spices for my kitchen and things like
cooking wines, sherry, fancy vinegars and now try to make myself really
special tiny meals. I even started a windowsill herb garden. I am enjoying
my new hobby of gourmet cooking and I search the net for new easy &
quick recipes, or just create my own. Take care of yourself first and
formost, you are really worth it!!!!
— Karla K.
December 11, 2002
Hey there hon. I had my surgery November 14, and you know, it sounded
easier before the surgery, the lifestyle change. But you know..I think we
can do it. My surgeon put me on a pure meat diet. No pasta, veggies,
potatoes, nothing. Just meat, poultry, and fish. Its so very hard, I know,
and worse, I'm a slow loser, and then I hurt my back so its hard for me to
sit comfortably, much less do the walking i'm supposed to do (Its getting
better though). Hang in there and stick to it. I'm sure you and i will see
that it'll be worth it in the end. Oh..and restrict yourself to three meals
a day. always at the same time. eat very slowly, chew well, get your
liquids and protein in. Try not to snack. I know you can do it!
— Christina S.
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