Question:
What can my husband tell his boss?

   — Dawn T. (posted on June 19, 2001)

June 19, 2001
My Husband told one of customers that I was having abdominal surgery...a woman thing...They didn't ask anything else..He said woman thing..and people automatically consider that personal.
   — Angela A.

June 19, 2001
I would really encourage him not to lie or mislead his employer. You can leave it at abdominal surgery, or stomach surgery, and that should be more than enough information! If they're really pushy, he can tell them you need to have a partial removal to correct a long-standing problem! - Kate -
   — kateseidel

June 19, 2001
I feel if you're not comfortable having your husband's boss know what type of surgery you're having, then you shouldn't have to tell him. I told people I was having "women's surgery" and not one person asked for further details. Anyway, technically it's not a lie. You're a woman and you're having surgery. I feel if someone is comfortable telling people about their WLS then they should go for it, but if not, then don't tell because you are not obligated to tell anyone the personal details of your life. I'm sure your husband's boss doesn't tell you everything there is to know about his private life. It's a very personal decision and what's right for others may not be right for you. Go with your instincts and what feels right for you - and best of luck on your upcoming surgery.
   — [Anonymous]

June 19, 2001
You should have him be straight with his boss, you're having a medically necissary surgery. If they ask have your doctor or surgeon send them a letter. There "should be" no shame in having this procedure, like any other procedure it is a lifesaving procedure that insurance wouldn't cover unless it was medically necissary and that should be enough for them. Good luck with surgery =)
   — Elizabeth D.

June 20, 2001
Thank you for your ideas.. I don't know what I would do without this site.. There are so many wonderful people here.. Thank you again Dawn
   — Dawn T.

June 21, 2001
My husband was straight with his boss, and he was very supportive. It is nothing to be embarrassed about!
   — Jeanne P.