Question:
Im 2wks pre-op, cant believe Im really doing this ? Am I crazy?
I keep thinking that I dont need it , I dont know whats wrong with me ,I kinda feel like Im cheating and taking advantage of the ins co. I just lost 38lbs and i feel like if I can loose weight b4 surgery than why go to this extreme.. yea I know I will gain it back but my mind keeps wondering in a different direction and making me feel like for some reason Im going to bail on this, I am scared to death and I thought surgery should be a last resort.. I dont even know if Im making any sense here.. I just cant believe Im having bypass surgery in 2 wks.. Anyone else ever feel this way? Am I going to regret it if Dont get surgery and be sorry if I do ? Whats wrong with me? — barry l. (posted on February 2, 2010)
February 2, 2010
Hello, I am not having surgery until April 5th and I have had the same
exact thoughts. I do know others have felt the same way. Only you have the
answers. You know your strengths and weaknesses. Take a good look at your
SODAS (AND I don't mean the POP). S- What is your Situation, O- What are
your Options D- What are your Disadvantages A- What are your Advantages and
S- what is your best Selection based on your total assessment? I am
ready, for me, I pondered this thought for many years. Only seriously
started to consider it a couple years ago. I then said I could do it on my
own. When my co-worker had her's done I watched her and I challenged
myself to loose with her... DID NOT WORK. Here I am a size 22 and her a
size 6. What I may suggest is to do some relaxation, meditation and some
guided imagery to minimize the anxieties that you have. I am doing this
daily. Best wishes.
— A. Me
February 2, 2010
Hi, I am 3 weeks post op from having a sleeve gastrectomy and alreday know
that I made the right decision. I lost 17 pounds before surgery, but I know
I would have gained it all back, since I have done that most of my life. As
of my two week follow up with the surgeon, I had lost another 13 pounds and
feel great. Do not let anyone tell you or make you think that WLS is the
"easy way out" because it is not. You know all of the preparation
that you had to go through and have made the decision to make a lifestyle
change. I cannot tell you to have surgery, but I wanted to let you know
that anxiety is normal and you have made a huge decision to get healthy
again. You are not crazy!! Good luck with your decision and follow your
heart. Keep us posted.
— kirbgo
February 2, 2010
Barry, insurance companies have read the stats... that for us morbidly
obese people, only 5% are able to lose weight and keep it off with diet and
exercise alone. They know that by approving you for this surgery, your
chances of losing weight and keeping it off go up into the 80% range. That
20% of people who don't keep it off after WLS are the ones who maybe didn't
worry... who did it on a lark... who didn't follow up with their surgeon...
who didn't follow the rules and the plan. So, good for you for worrying...
good for you for being proud of yourself for losing the 38 pounds... good
for you for your genuine concern that you might "bail." We've all
been there. My surgery is Tuesday, and I'm freaking out. I'll get through
it... my support group is helping tremendously, seeing all the good folks
live through the surgery and then shrink, shrink, shrink!!
Focus on the good things. Make a list if you like (I did). I'm going to be
able to tie my own shoes! I'm going to be able to walk with my skinny
siblings without getting winded! The list goes on, and everyone's is
different. Focus on the good stuff... maybe even visualize all the good
stuff. That's helping me get through the very natural "what if"
and "couldn't I just" phase.
— Greg K.
February 2, 2010
Hi Barry,
You're NOT crazy. You are taking the first steps on the greatest journey
you'll probably ever take and believe me...its scary!!!!! I'm right there
with ya. On January 22 I started the 2 week pre op diet for lap band.
Yesterday I got my notice from the surgeon's office that I've been approved
and my surgery is scheduled for Feb. 11. Ive been big my whole life and
nothing has had long term results. You have to do this for you, not your
family, not the doctor who is constantly saying " Lose weight!",
but YOU. The hardest part for me, was looking in the mirror at myself and
saying, "Kel, you are worth this. All the hoops to jump through, all
the dietary changes, everything, you are worth it." You are not
alone, we're all here too. Best wishes and if you would like to email
[email protected]....
— kchooker
February 2, 2010
Hello Berry.I have been where u r.I almost 6months out.I know that this is
the best thing for me.There is something insde of you that knows what u
should do.I believe in prayer.u have every right to question this.This will
affect u for the rest of ur life. Do it for the right reason. know that u
will have to work on this for the rest of your life.That is were alot of
people go wrong,thinking that once u have the surgery, thats it.No u have
to learn to maintain and stay within the guide lines given to. Congrats to
u for going this far.Failure is not an option for me. So what about U?
— kwatkins
February 2, 2010
Barry,
Take a deep breath and really think about what is your best plan of
attack...you will have naysayers from the moment you mention this surgery,
to well after they see the weightloss. I know this sounds cliche..BUT you
are the only one that matters right now! As obese people we are so used to
not trusting ourselves in many situations but now is your time no one
elses.Go with your gut, so to speak, and trust your decision!! I am 3
months post op and have lost 70 lbs and 10 points off my BMI. I made this
decision after several years of study and emotions and decided ...whether
it was the "easy way" or not that I still wanted and deserved to
stay alive and be healthier.All the smaller sizes,the compliments and the
little things that change because of the weightloss are miniscule compared
to the fact that you will live a longer, healthier and happier life. So in
a nutshell trust your decision, follow your surgeons stipulations to the
letter and be happy that we live in a time that there is help when we can't
do it on our own.I will get down from my soapbox now..lol please know that
you do have support from places you don't realise, I hope the best for you.
Keep us abreast of your progress!!
— dragonfly814
February 3, 2010
Barry, i am having WLS surgery 02/02/2010. i am also paying for it out of
my own pocket. my insurance co. has refused to pay even though i meet all
the criteria except 20% weight loss. take advantage of this opportunity
now. i use to be able to lose weight on demand but can not anymore.
— Gary123
February 3, 2010
Hey Barry, No Worries, I had the RNY January 6th, 2010 and I am doing real
well I am down from 304 to 264 just about 1 month out. Yes I am not going
to lie to you. It takes work and some big adjustments, but the long term
benifits are awesome. Just just have to learn to eat less since of course
you mind is still thinking you have a regular stomach and you don't. This
is because your nerve endings that were connected to your old stomach have
been cut and stictched shut now. You have to learn to eat with a little
pouch(stomach) but you are rarely hungry. And of course exercise it very
important also. I use my Wii Fit and the weight is dropping also. It's up
to you what you choose to do, but all I can say is it's your life. I know I
will be fine I am going back to work on Monday the 8th. Just eat small
bites and sip thru the day and you will learn what you can eat and what you
can't. The surgery is not bad I made it thru ok. I had RNY Lapro. How bad
do you want to keep the weight off. It is a lifestyle change for sure, but
you know I will adapt I am in for the long haul, but it will be worth it.
You gotta make up your mind and stick with it. Good Luck with your choice!
I have no regreats so far.
— smokeybonefan
February 3, 2010
I was so scared before surgery,but im now 6months out lost over 200lbs and
would do it all over again.I lost weight before surgery as well but i know
with my addictive personality it would have been gained back. WLS Is worth
it.
— Andy Lafferty
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