Question:
I have plateued and my mind tells me Im done losing and I have failed any help?
I am 10 mths post op, Ive lost90lbs and weight in at 164lbs. I haven't lost anymore weight in a month or so. I eat more then 4oz of course but never feel full. I dont drink with food and dont have soda ever. I still stick to meats, cheeses, veggies, yogurt and occasionally wheat thin, or quakers rice snacks. Which is alot better than anything I ever used to eat. I am an addict in recovery w/ 3 1/2 yrs clean from drugs and alcohol. I struggle w/ my disease telling me neg. stuff all the time. Im so worried Im not doing this right. I have been blessed with no complications at all, I can eat anything I want to but I choose to eat whats suggested w/ a few added things- no sugar by choice, but I am afraid I have failed and I know my mind right now is my worst enemie. Any suggestions?????? — Jenna21fl (posted on August 21, 2008)
August 21, 2008
How the world can you fanthom tha losing 90 pounds in 10 months is
failing........you might just need to try a few differnt types of
food...vary your foods and change your exercise program....if you are not
exercising then start....you are 90 lbs lighter and should have more energy
and feel better....we platue sometimes and that is called compacting...you
might be losing inches but not pounds.........you are only a failure if you
think that way...but what a waste of time and energy .....There are alot of
people out there that would like to lose 90 pounds........maybe you need to
visit with a nutrietionist (sp) personally I think you should be jumping up
and down doing a happy dance....not feeling sorry for yourself....Pam / Ft
Worth,,,Bandster Bites Silverware...
[email protected]
— pphillips4720aol.com
August 21, 2008
Reading your statement I cant see the failure. The rapid weight loss is
only in the begining. One you get closer to your goal weight it will come
off much slower.
Keep up the good work
— urbrat2
August 21, 2008
Just remember, we do THIS
— azreggie
August 21, 2008
Just remember, we do THIS "One Day At A Time" too. IOne MEAL at
a time if it boils down to it. Hang in there, this too shall pass.
— azreggie
August 21, 2008
You are one brave wonderful strong person. Do you have a therapist to help
you feel better about yourself? It is hard to do everything you have done;
you are amazing. I hope I do as well. I had to quit smoking, oxycontin, and
coffee (all by myself) - luckily for me I don't have alcoholism disease.
Can you join a gym? Do you want to talk to me everyday? I would love to!
Except I have surgery Monday but after that. I think you are wonderful.
Rise
— nofrogs29
August 21, 2008
— .Anita R.
August 21, 2008
You have to remember that 10 pounds now means a lot more than it did when
you first started this journed. What you're doing is just another version
of "stinkin' thinkin'" and you're smart to recognize it. You
don't mention exercise. Is this the missing part that could help you off
your plateau? Try switching things up a little and I'll bet you'll start
losing again, but remember, it's going to be SLOWER FROM HERE. PATIENCE,
IT'S A MARATHON NOT A SPRINT. Good Luck!
— Shirley D.
August 22, 2008
I would LOVE to weigh 164! I would be so close to goal. You are a
tremendous success and are doing all the right things. You should continue
to lose. Might consider your current exercise routine and see if you need
to mix it up!
— GlitterGal
August 22, 2008
Im in recivery too. sounds like your doing great. I know how it feels to
feel like your playing with your food but keep trying.
— cecilie
August 22, 2008
Girl you have done GREAT in so many aspects of your life!!!!!!!! You should
be proud of yourself, you are a wonderful person and deserve that 90 pound
weight loss, wow! Just go easy on the Wheat thins and rice cakes; too many
carbohydrates, but the meats and cheeses and veggies are perfect choices! I
look forward to the day that I am 164 pounds like you!!
Best wishes and keep up the good work!
— Gina S.
August 22, 2008
I have felt similarly----I am 8 months p/o and have lost 81 pounds and have
19 more to go to be at my goal and am also at a plateau. It is so normal
to see a slow down of the weight loss the closer to our goal we get but it
can also happen when we are on cruise control so sometimes we need to shake
things up a little. Are you exercising? Are you sure you are getting all
the protein you need? What about all the water? Are you eating 3 meals a
day or 5 or 6 small ones? I find that I do better if I eat more meals but
make them smaller. If you are not keeping a food log you could try that
too---it really does help me. I have to keep reminding myself that I am
one of the lucky ones----I was able to be approved for the WLS---as others
have said, there are so many obese people out there who are trapped inside
their fat and unhealthy bodies that have not had the wonderful opportunity
that we have had. Just think of all the people out there who would be
junping for joy if they could have realized such a substantial weight loss
in so short of a time period! You are blessed and YOU ARE A SUCCESS. I am
not sure why we try to sabotage ourselves with negative thinking---I do it
too. It seems like one day I am doing a happy dance and the next I am
telling myself I should be farther ahead or that I am not doing a good
enough job. I am also overwhelmed with fearfullness about regaining the
weight. You are so right------we are our own worst enemies---since we know
we are we MUST focus on our successes and be kinder and gentler to
ourselves. I think we get so used to seeing ourselves in the mirror
everyday so we do not see the physical changes as readily as others do. I
have been so accustomed to thinking of myself as fat that even though I
know I am wearing a much smaller size and the scale says 144 (as opposed to
225) I still have the fat mind set. We really need to remind ourselves
daily of where we were and how far we have come. Looking at our before and
after pictures help. Maybe you could post them side by side on your mirror
or fridge. It sounds to me like you are a HUGE success and that you are
doing many things right. I have an addictive personality as well.
ALthough I am not in recovery from drugs and alcohol, I am trying to
recover from the self-loathing (and emotional eating) that I have done for
so many years. We each have to FIGHT the fight every single day. I like
what one member said about one day at a time and one meal at a time.
Celebrate every single tiny success. Stay connected here and rely on your
OH friends to encourage you. I am here if you ever want to talk. I know I
need encouragement from others too. There are always gonna be ups and
downs on this journey and we need each other. Michele [email protected]
Best Wishes and Be Nice to Yourself!!!
— ChelleBelle
August 22, 2008
NO WAY have you failed!! From what I've read, a slowdown in the rate of
weight loss is normal 10 mo. out, and we can expect plateaus now &
then. Don't be so hard on yourself. 3-1/2 yrs. clean from drugs/alcohol
is nothing to sneeze at either - it takes a lot of determination to get
there. Put a rubber band on your wrist and snap it every time you catch
yourself putting yourself down; replace that negative self-talk with
POSITIVE self-talk. Reward yourself for the progress you have made &
get your mind off the fact that you're at a plateau (for now) - just keep
making healthy choices. Good luck & stay strong...
— sem51
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