Question:
3 days pre-op and feeling scared and a little depressed.. help?
I'm having lap rny on 2/24/09, I'm scared and just hoping I'm doing the right thing. I love reading all the other posts, they help so much, but I've been feeling sad, like I'm losing my best friend (food) anyone else have thoughts like this pre-op. I've been dieting for 6 weeks and have done really well, just kinda freakin out now! — princess111 (posted on February 21, 2009)
February 21, 2009
It's normal. I've described my experience and decision pre-op as filing for
divorce from my old relationship with food. It's going to be tough, you're
going to have weak moments, but you have to remind yourself that the old
relationship was unhealthy, you're a stronger person who deserves better,
and you'll be better off in the new relationship. Kick it to the curb! lol
— suezahn4me
February 21, 2009
Sara,
This is the time you need to think of your "future" in a
positive light and not cling to the past. Think about this... Food (what
you're calling your best friend) is what brought you to such an unhealthy
end, love! What you need to do is let go of past relationships with food
and start building new ones. Your surgery doesnt mean that you can never
eat again, it just means that you have to find new ways to enjoy the food
you do take in so that you can LIVE life again and ENJOY it this time
around. Start looking for new outlets for your happiness such as hobbies,
travel, new friendships, etc. I think you'll come to see that new doors
will be opening for you with this and that you'll forget about your past
addiction with eating. And don't forget that we are all here for you as
well to lift you up when you need lifting and spur you on!!
— Elizabeth J.
February 21, 2009
Don't be scared. You're giving up something wicked--bad habits. Be excited.
Just think how wohderful you'll feel. You are doing something for you
finally. Be a bit selfish and go for it with enthusiasm. I am 9 days post
op and lost 23lbs! God Bless. Jan
— janeen4947
February 21, 2009
I am having my surgery on 2/25 and have been very emotional since i started
the 5 day liquid only diet post op. i have doubts and am scared, but I am
going forward because there is a reason I got this far. God bless your
surgery and pray for peace and strength, I will!
luchay
— luchay
February 21, 2009
Hi...I'm pre op also...3/2 for lap RNY & I understand your feelings! I
have been freaking out also...having second thoughts, second guessing
myself & it has been increased since I started my liquid diet
yesterday. But I have made lots of contacts with people from the support
group, friends of mine who eat very healthy (vegan, organic, etc) &
have made plans with them to shop for food & cook better meals post
surgery. I just keep reminding myself how unhappy I am at this wt & I
know I will be healthier & happier after the surgery! If you'd like to
chat or continue emails thru out our journeys...please email me
([email protected]) Best of luck, Diane
— angel325
February 21, 2009
Sara, I had my Lap/RNY this past Monday & yes, I DO miss the foods I
used to it. What I keep reminding myself is that I am now Diabetes Free
& that is the price that I have paid. Eventually you'll be able to eat
normal foods, just little of it & just as long as they're healthy
choices. I've come to realize that in life nothing is free. One thing
must be sacrificed so it's either, have diabetes, have all the food you
want, don't fit into clothes, get hypertension, die younger or have little
food, fit into those jeans, no longer have diabetes, improve the quality of
your life and life longer. Now choose. You see what I mean? Our way of
thinking must change. We live in the fattest country in the world. USA is
obsessed w/food. Practially all of our commercials are about food. It's a
constant struggle. Change your mind and your world will change. If I can
help in any other way, advice, support, send me a message.
Warmly, Ruth
— Ruth M.
February 21, 2009
Hi! Don't feel bad. Mourning food is a normal feeling for most folks. Just
enjoy the you you will become! Think of food as a necessity and not a
pleasure and you will do great! Hugs, Kim
— gpcmist
February 21, 2009
You'll also be surprised that your feelings about food will actually change
- at least that happened to me. I honestly did not miss anything - and as
I started feeling better and better, I didn't want to go back to those old
'friends'! Best of luck...you're about to be given a wonderful gift; use
it as the tool it is intended and you'll be just fine.
— NJOY
February 21, 2009
It is totally normal. I described my sadness the week before exactly the
same way - it felt like my best friend had died and I was lost. You
definitely get over it. I now can sit and watch others eat my old favorite
foods, and I don't have the craving I had before. I'm happy with my
decision. I'm down 75 pounds and I'll be 6 months out next week. Try to
stay calm, and realize its normal to be upset and freaking out. I cried as
they wheeled me into the operating room, and I wanted to cancel the
surgery. Just try to stay calm.
— Ursie77
February 21, 2009
Sara, what your filling is normal. You can even ask the surgeon to give
you two or three xanax to help you get some rest. It's a major change.
It's scary. You are losing a best friend (food) because you won't eat the
way you once did. If you are to freaked out you could always postpone it a
month to be sure. of Course that's normally the reality check of no no no
I don't want to wait that long. Hugs Keep posting. We are here for you.
— Corina C
February 22, 2009
Hi Sara! I'm having mine the same day (Tuesday, "Fat Tuesday"
actually, too funny). Yesterday I swear I had what I call "food
panic" (and I've been dieting for this since LAST MAY). I made the
mistake of going to Walmart and it was like the food was talking to me..
"one last time, said the ice cream"... "you might never have
me again, said the potato chips..." "please, don't leave me! said
the frozen pizza" LOL Seriously, I calm myself with thinking there
really are not THAT many food we won't EVER be able to have again. Some
will be able to be reasonably replicated in forms that are agreeable and
are healthier for us OR maybe just a much smaller portion than we used to
have. Soy and veggies can make some pretty good chips, lots of sugar free
foods are absolutely amazing these days, etc. NO need to panic. Do you
know how many people get this surgery daily? Hundreds. There are so many
post-op people out there, and very few miserable ones. It's gonna be fine.
We're gonna be awesome. -- Karen
— opheliafl
February 22, 2009
I was scared too... it's normal. Be strong and love that fact that you're
doing something for yourself to better your life. I didn't get excited
about what I had done until after my surgery. I know it's hard because
everyone asks before hand, "aren't you excited?" My answer was
no, I'm scared. I have no regrets and I'm 1 month post op and back to work
and living my life. Keep me posted on your progress.
— BurghGirl35
February 23, 2009
Hi Sara, Good luck to you on your upcoming surgery. Just go by the rules
and you will do well. I freaked out up until they gave me the ansthesia
for the surgery. You always wonder - what if!? or should I do this? You
will definitely miss your old buddy - food - but not at first. And after
you are into the program of eating how you need to eat, you will miss it
but not enough to make you sick or undo what you have accomplished. Just
do what the doctor and nurse's say and you will do well. Good luck to you
and your success. Kathy Starling
— KathyStarling
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