Question:
Is this normal????? A little scared today....
I don't know what I feel today. I am happy there is no heart issue to hold me back. I am still anxious for the surgery so I can start my new life! I guess I am a little anxious and scared at the same time. I don't want to fail when I finally get the tool I need to help me. But one person close to me had the lap band and she admittedly does not do what she is supposed to do and has only lost about 30lbs in about a year and a half. One person I work with had the lap rny over 3 years ago and has lost alot of weight but she grazes all day and does not and did not exercise the way she was supposed to. So she has not lost what she thought she would and has alot of body issues. I have watched all this for over a year now and even though I say I have learned from watching them and I really want to succeed what if I end up like them and slip back into old habits? I don't want to put myself through this and then fail! I want so badly to be healthy and be able to do the things I use to. Is it normal to feel this way? I don't know...... — gonnabethinfinally (posted on February 28, 2009)
February 27, 2009
Don't worry yourself to deaf people fail this diet all the time, you no if
your ready. I have made a few bad choices myself you live and learn. If
you want something bad enough you will do it . Your mind doesn't change
over night it take time and real change some people think it a maracle
surgery and it is not it take a lot of you to change . Good luck and God
be with you on your new beginnng in life.
— rks106403
February 28, 2009
I can understand your feelings, but I think you are looking at the wrong
people for every 1 that fails to follow the program, 9 succeed in losing
weight and getting healthy. I would start to join your local boards on
line and talk to those how have been leading a successful and healthy life.
Call the hospital that you will be getting your surgery from and see if
they have a local support group and start attending and getting to know
people even before you have your surgery.
Although I have not lost a lot of weight,(27 lbs in 8 months) I had the lap
band done but I am so much more heather. I must say that I also have a
thyroid problem that they are trying to get under control, so it is harder
for me to lose. My friend who had her lap band done a month before me has
lost 80 lbs. My brother-in-law had his lap band done and before he was out
a year lost over 100 lbs. You have to understand that men lose weight
faster than women. I have lost lots of inches and people who have not seen
me in months are amazed. I consider myself a success story because without
the surgery, I would weigh even more than I do now. Good luck on your
weight loss journey. Susan
— susangielda06
February 28, 2009
Anxiety towards any surgery is understandable. Wt loss surgery is not the
"easy way out" as many people have said, but takes effort on a
daily basis. Yes the "tool" of the lapband or the RNY is very
helpful, as long as you follow a daily routine of some exercise, eating
wisely, portion control, taking vitamins and calcium citrate, and drinking
plenty of water. RNY is the better option if you have 100 pounds or more to
lose, and the wt loss is at a faster rate than the lapband. Which ever
surgery you chose, you have to realize that the process depends a great
deal on you too. The "tool" will only help you towards the wt
loss, and the success rate of your wt loss surgery will depend on how well
you do the proper things. You might find my profile story of interest, as
I've documented the process. DAVE
— Dave Chambers
February 28, 2009
I am having the lap rny and I do have over 100lbs to lose. I guess I
really need to stop looking at the 2 people I am close to and look at the
big picture and all the success stories. I guess I am a little anxious.
And its hard for me to even think I may be a 100 or more pounds lighter
next year. I do appreciate this board though and all of you who respond to
us newbies! My surgeons office does have a great support system but I
guess today for some reason I am just bummed. I don't really know why....
— gonnabethinfinally
February 28, 2009
Hi, Donna I had RNY July 08 i have lost 130 pounds a whole nother person I
no longer have on my back
Being a heavy person we seem to sabatoge ourselves a whole lot of what ifs
but you know what ifs never change anything, I feel that u have seen how
these other people have chose to not use their tool, this is no quik fix no
easy way out, we have to work everyday to succeed you want it bad enough it
will work out great u probiably will be one that lives a healthy life
loosing, I feel by u seeing these others grazing, and not doing what they
are suppose to do. You will do what u need to. It really helps to see what
could happen. Relax get into your journey of a lifetime
Bless you Tammi
— Tammi Sandoval
February 28, 2009
I still run across people who want to sabotage my success. Why? I have no
idea...but I am not one of those people who wants that for myself! I want
to succeed. Yes you can choose to be like the Jones' who had WLS and do not
have any respect for their surgery or their second chance at life. But
this is as PERSONAL as choosing a mate or lover. You are doing this for
YOUR health and happiness. It is easy to go back to some old habits...but
in moderation you can and will do fine if you avoid the old habits more
times than you indulge. It's not impossible but like Dave said, it is work!
You will have to wake every morning and decide to make good choices and
eat for the love of health and not for the love of food! You will have to
set your own rules and limitations. They don't have to be as strict as
NEVER and ALWAYS, but RARELY and SOMETIMES! I decided long ago that I
would not be able to do anything that had the word "never" in
it...That wod is not a common word in my vocabulary as far as ANYTHING
goes. But I can do moderation and did learn that quality over quantity is
far more rewarding than just grabbing any old bad habits. The first years
you are losing rapidly...you have to follow the rules and get that weight
off! You have to! After that, you HAVE to adjust your diet and exercise to
maintain weight loss or you can and will gain back! Don't allow yourself to
become too lax...or so strict that you cannot possibly do it forever! The
rapid weight loss only lasts a year...some a little longer...after
that...you have the rest of your life to maintain what you lost as well as
your health. YOU MUST remember that from the beginning! Don't do what your
friends did...You can do this!
Many of us do succeed regardless of what others do or don't do!
— .Anita R.
February 28, 2009
Me too Donna!!
I have all of them fears. I am intelligent, I can do as I am told, I know
how to listen,read, write, and I know right from wrong. But......I fear
that no matter how many nerves or what ever they cut I WILL BE HUNGRY! But
I FEAR the way I am now more that even that! And what lies ahead if I do
not succeed!
And so...I will. And you know what else?.....SO WILL YOU!
I will be thinking bout ya and I'll keep you in my prayers!
Renee
— 1stReneeMarie
March 1, 2009
Donna... congrats on your decision for a healthier you. I think you are
looking at the wrong people for inspiration. You can look at them to learn
that these are the consequences of not using your tool properly. But, find
people who are successful at it, we are all around. And, you are not them.
Just because they are not doing what they are supposed to be doing doesn't
mean that you will follow in their footsteps. You are your own person. We
ALL have eaten something post op that we weren't supposed to. Most of us
have learned that we won't do that again. The only thing that the surgery
TOOL is going to allow you to do is 1) eat less 2) impose a limit on what
you eat. It doesn't monitor what you put in your mouth. Now, having said
that you may notice, like others, that after surgery you can't eat certain
foods and you will avoid them like the plague. But you may find that you
can still eat dangerous foods. I say dangerous in that they are empty
nutritionally. What the surgery doesn't fix is the "Head
hunger". It doesn't fix the reasons why you overeat or seek certain
comfort foods, or graze, etc. You have to do some work on that. I
recommend that people seek some help.. whether it is support groups,
counseling, self help whatever it is that will get your through this
portion of it. It is a very slippery slope to not do what you are supposed
to do. You can get lulled into a false sense of security that you can eat
whatever you want to eat and still lose weight. But, it will eventually
catch up to as you have witnessed on the sidelines. It is normal to be
scared or at least apprehensive, but just know that if you use your tool
properly and keep focused you will lose and keep the weight off. Most
post-ops that are successful will either keep in the forefront of their
minds what they are supposed to be doing or give themselves
"check-ups" periodically and keep a food diary to be sure they
are doing what they should be. Take care and remember you are you...
— Kari_K
March 1, 2009
Congratulations on your decision to take care of yourself. There is only
one person who make you successful or not and that person is YOU. It is
not an easy path. I had RNY in October and have become healthy enough to
throw away my insulin, blood pressure pills and CPAP, but it is always in
the center of my thoughts that only I can keep them away. I am sure you
will do just fine as long as you want to and you follow all directions to
the letter. Good Luck PAM
— psrd370
March 1, 2009
You can truly succeed if you allow yourself to do so. The time and effort
that you invest into this life changing process will definately carry you
through even the toughest times. This is only the beginning of the
journey, NOT THE SOLUTION. The journey will continue even after you have
reached your goal. Allow yourself to go on this journey and discover how
to become the "best" you that you can become. Old habits are
just that, old. Bury them and create new ones. Don't look back!!! Good
lucck.
— bariatricdivalatina
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