Question:
I'am considering having gastric bypass but my parents are vary worried
I'am considering having gastric bypass but my parent's are realy worried about the surgery I'am nineteen years old please help — marybeth weaver (posted on September 23, 2009)
September 23, 2009
i totally hear ya. my pops was CRAZY worried and i am 33!!! he came
barging into the recovery area looking for me and when he heard me b-tching
about how i was in pain he said, "thank GOD you're ok!!!!" i
think that maybe you might want to lay out some information and maybe
introduce them to your doc. i know that my aunt came with me to an
appointment one day and they spelled out all of the risks and benefits and
she felt a lot better. of course seeing me now all happy and active makes
them feel better too. :)
— greenpunchbuggie
September 23, 2009
That is definitely understandable. My husband had it done in Feb. and has
had nothing but problems since. From dehydration to PICC line, Gall
bladder, Malnutrition, Stomach pain, PICC line infection, stricture,
constant puking. ....in the hospital about 12 times in the last 6 months.
Be careful and learn about the bad stuff that could happen too, to be on
the safe side. You can read my profile for more details. Good luck if you
decide to do it. Hopefully you won't be one of the few that have problems
for the rest of your life. Too bad that can't be determined before the
surgery is performed. :)
— help_my_hubby
September 23, 2009
Hi Marybeth,
The best way for any one to understand the surgery is to attend a
infomation seminar on the surgery. If you have already chose your DR. does
he /she have a seminar? Take the family to the DR visit with you and aske
all the guestions you need. Also, find the different Support groups in your
area and take the family to several different meetings. Area Hospitals also
have info seminars. As for the things that can go wrong..that is with ALL
surgeries..not just weightloss. I have had my share..BUT..I'm 14 months
out..and lost 130 lbs so far...30 lbs yet to go. I would do it all AGAIN if
I had to! I had a wonderful DR.(Gordon) great Hospital(Morton Plant Mease
of Clearwater) and wonderful family & friends! Learn everything and
then make your mind up. Beat of luck..
— tootsie52
September 23, 2009
Marybeth, Julie hit it on the nose. I was 59 when I had RNY 2 1/2 years
ago. I've lost 140 pounds and am off all meds but Vesicare. I had no
problems postop. It's understandable that your parents are worried - that's
their job. Tell them that they should be more worried about the health
problems of being overweight. If you would like for me to send them an
email to reassure them I'll be happy to do it.
— Muggs
September 23, 2009
Oh my gosh its been the best thing that I could have done for myself. I've
had zero complications with the exception of some depression but that might
be due to other factors in my life. I feel so much better!
— cpainter5
September 23, 2009
I had the surgery 15 months ago and my daughter had it done in June 09. She
was 22. I looked at it this way. If she would feel better about herself,
feel better in general and be healthier, then let her do it. It was the
best thing I ever did. Have your mom and dad go with you to your doc's appt
and take them to support group...they will hear from real people ..and
perhaps it will change their minds! Best of luck and God Bless! hugs, Kim
— gpcmist
September 23, 2009
I agree with Dawn; this is not a decision to be taken lightly. This is an
invasive proceedure that can change your life for the better, or it can,
and has, caused horrible consequences. First, research to find the best
surgeon. Take your parents and listen carefully. Try to get all the
information you can on whatever the surgeon advises. Try to diet one more
time, and try to get yourself in as healthy a condition as you can before
you undergo any kind of surgery. Resist the temptation to rush the
process. I studied this for 6 years before I did it. It IS a huge help to
me, but it is still up to me. Make sure you are physically and mentally
ready, and that you have no other viable alternatives.
— jtoothman
September 24, 2009
When I was considering surgery I checked into the lap band and RNY and then
I started finding info on the vertical sleeve VSG. My mom went with me to
the initial doctors visit and they explained a lot more about the VSG and
that it has the least amount of complications and great results. I have
lost 80 lbs since March 25 and I am still losing. My mom and husband and
the rest of my family all agreed that the VSG was the safest surgery to go
with. Everyone was concerned about the RNY and though it to be too drastic
and were concerned about the long term affects. I suggest looking into the
VSG and keep your family posted on all the information you find. I also
looked up info on the death rate of people that had surgery as opposed to
people that hadn't and found out that the people that stayed obesse and
didn't have surgery had a much shorter life span. That was one of the
determining factors for me to decide to have surgery. I have more energy
and feel great and am happy to be down 5 sizes. I hope you have great
succes in whichever surgery you choose.
— Lisa von Wallmenich
September 24, 2009
I had the Gas Bypass back in May 2009 and it was the easiest thing I ever
did! Find a GOOD doctor with GREAT references and you will be fine! I wish
you the best and God Bless!
Larry
— StlX
September 24, 2009
Marybeth, I guess they wouldn't be normal if they weren't worried about
you(you are their baby) but, I can tell you, that it is far more dangerous
to stay obese. Since I've had surgery(and I was terrified!) I have given up
my C-pap, lost my diabetes, my acid reflux disease is gone and every day,
my legs and feet thank me. I feel so much better about myself, even my
upkeep has changed - got acrylic nails put on, new skin care routine ect.
because I feel so good about myself. I had my surgery in May of this year,
and have lost 73 lbs. - I've got about 30 to go to goal, but it has been an
easy transition - definately glad I did it.
— aliclaire
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