Question:
I have my surgery date now! Is it normal to think bad thoughts about the surgery now

morbid thoughts    — cambaydaw (posted on January 28, 2006)

January 28, 2006
It's normal. If you were'nt worried I'd wonder if you taking this serious enough.
   — Danmark

January 28, 2006
Some people might call this buyers remorse, but we are governed by self preservation. On the one hand you are doing this to change your life and become more healthy which you aren't if you are morbidly obese, and other hand surgery always has an element of concern. and of course the unknown. If you have a support group buddy or a friend who has had this surgery, you will probably find some reassurance there. On the other hand if you change your mind and do nothing, then your health risks could escalate. Go for broke, and get really mentally and physically prepared. get as much support as you can muster and keep non supportive people at arms length. All the best for 2006, this is a new year for you
   — Lise K.

January 28, 2006
I remember (after 6 months of working on getting approved) that once I actually got the call that said "your approved" I thought about how long I could keep going before I backed out. Working on it all that time did not make it real for me. It took that call and I instantly wanted to throw up. But this site helped alot and I got better with time. I will tell you like I told everyone I have spoke to that you should check out the January and December boards and read from people who recently went through the surgery and how well they are doing. You see a lot of scary stuff here. Remember that there are thousands of people on this site, so a response of 10 people who had the same bad experience does not mean it will happen to you. It's all just part of the risks associated. IE: I heard so much about the gas pain that people experienced and I thought it was a given that would happen to me. I had no problems with gas pain at all. (neither did my 3 co-workers, we are all within a month of each other with the same surgery) so know that everything you read is not necessarily going to happen to you. "o)
   — continuedmoon

January 28, 2006
HI Elaine, Yes, we have all been there. You work so hard at getting approved than when it really is a reality you kind of go into a little scared mode. know that this IS the right thing to do, yes, there is risks involved it is surgery & yes, it is possible to have some problems, but, all in all it is worth it all to have a more productive life than what you have now. Good luck & you will be just fine. Marilyn, the Bearlady
   — Marilyn C.

January 29, 2006
I felt guilty once I had the date, I suddenly felt"do I have to do this?, I can do it on my own". then reality hits, you have been on your own and your still obese. Morbid obesity is a disease, if you have cancer you get treatment, you have morbid obesity and this is the cure. You'll never regret being healthy in a few months.
   — 22dian

January 29, 2006
Hi Elaine! I totally understand what you are going through. I was a mess of emotions when I got my date. You spend so long waiting and then it becomes reality. I cried first. I was happy, I was sad, I was scared,terrified, I was just a mess! Don't worry it's very normal. Coming to this site and reading all the wonderful outcomes got me through the tough spots. As long as you've done your research and know this is what you want try to hang in there. I'm 18 days post op and feeling really good, down 23lbs. last I checked. Keep looking to your future and remember how much better you'll feel down the road.Hang in there, you'll do fine!!! Lisa
   — Lisa Michelle

January 30, 2006
Surgery is always a little scary, and it is normal to wonder if you are oding the right thing, since it is elective surgery. hang in there!
   — Novashannon