Question:
DEC 4TH IS THE BIG DATE AND
ME AGAIN, LOL......DEC 4TH WILL BE THE DAY I HAVE THE BYPASS DONE AND IM JUST NOT EXCITIED ABOUT IT LIKE I WAS BEFORE I WAS APOPROVED FROM INS. I JUST FEEL LIKE ITS NOT GONNA HAPPEN STILL. KINDA LIKE COUNTING CHINKENS BEFORE BEING HATCHED I GUESSED. ALTHOUGH EVERYONE AROUND ME IS VERY HAPPY FOR ME AND EXCITIED, BUT I JUST DONT FEEL IT. MAYBE CAUSE IT TOOK SO LONG TO GET APPROVED AND EVERY TIME I TUREND A CORNER I RAN INTO A ROAD BLOCK. I STILL FEEL LIKE I HAVENT SEEN THE LAST OF THE HURDLES. ANY ONE FEEL LIKE THIS BETWEEN BEING APPROVED AND SURGERY DAY? ALSO HAS SURGERY CHANGED A PESSIMISTIC PERSON INTO AN OPTIMISTIC? — PHATBOY (posted on November 19, 2006)
November 19, 2006
The ONLY thing surgery changes is the size of your stomach...EVERYTHING
else is up to you to change..that is why many people end up having a
revision..they didnt change anything and ended up gaining all their weight
back.
— fishnrockport
November 19, 2006
I know exactly what you're talking about. Even though I'm pretty sure I'm
going to be approved for surgery, I have been fighting so long that I'm not
excited about it anymore. Actually it seems more like a chore or a job I
had. I had to contact this one or that one and fight and scratch my way for
almost 2 years and it's left me exhausted. I had the roadblocks and
hurdles... I had to jump them so often it's a wonder I'm not already
skinny.
But try to focus on what's coming, look at the before and after pics and
read some profiles and think about how you are going to look and most of
all how you are going to FEEL. You KNOW it's going to be wicked fun! But
then again, I'm a troublemaker so I look forward to that wicked kind of
stuff. LOL.
Best of luck of Dec 4th! Go for it! It's time for a change.
Sandy
— Sandy~Diamond
November 19, 2006
Hi there. I too had to fight the insurance company for a couple of years.
When I got the phone call it was total shock. But the very next day I set
up my surgery date for 2 weeks later. While I was fighting the insurance
company I thought long and hard about the what I was going to do if it
happened and then if it didn't happen and what I was going to do. I did it
and it has been the best thing that I could have done for myself. It
hasn't been as hard as for some people because I totally knew that I was
going to have to change things forever and not go back to what got me there
in the first place. The food part was easy it has been everything else
friends, co-workers, family responses to the weight loss that I now
struggle with day to day. Schedule your surgery for a month out and
continue to research it if you wait too long by the time you make the
decision it may be too late but remember how hard it was for you to get
approved and what if you never get this chance again. Those were the
things that topped my pros and cons list that far outweighed everything.
You'll make the right choice no matter what you choose to do. Best of
Luck.
— 1968 Loser
November 19, 2006
I know sort of what you are feeling. I didn't believe that I was actually
having the surgery until it happened. Even when I was in the operating
room, it was a surreal experience. To be nervous is normal, it shows that
you see the seriousness of the choice that you have made. However, don't
go through with it until you are absolutely sure this is what you really
want. It is a forever lifestyle change to be successful. Good Luck....
Dec 4th will be here before you know it. Start using some of the coping
mechanisms that you are going to use instead of turning to food to help the
time go by......
— Kari_K
November 19, 2006
By not getting too excited about it you are protecting yourself and using
defense mechanisms so that you don't get too disappointed if by some
strange reason you don't have it. It will happen... I got sick (vomiting)
on the night before I was supposed to have surg but you know what...1 week
later is happened and all is well. As far a pessimsm goes...I defeiitely
improved. Feeling "normal" went very far with me. Yes, the first
responder is correct that you have to work on it but losing the weight was
a HUGE help in that! Best wishes!!
— SteffieBear15
November 20, 2006
Hang in there! I am trying to get the final paperwork finished up to
submit to insurance. There are a great deal of hoops with fire to jump
through. I don't know what I will do if my insurance denies it. (prob
break down and cry), but I'm trying to stay positive! I have wanted this
surgery for over 2 yrs now. We gotta keep the faith! Keep yr chin up!!!
Good luck!
— crystalsno
November 20, 2006
THANKS YOU ALL FOR YOUR HELP. I MOST CERTAINLY AM GONNA HAVE THE SURGERY,
NO DOUBTS ABOUT IT. IM JUST SAYING I THOUGHT I WOULD BE A LITTLE MORE
EXCITED ABOUT IT.
— PHATBOY
November 21, 2006
I KNEW my surgery was going to happen because I was self-pay, but as the
date got closer, I too was not excited. I was scared, apprehensive and
afraid that I was just going to fail at weight loss once again. My biggest
fear was that I'd lose weight at first (like always) and then do something
to blow it and gain it all back. I approached my date with caution,
apprehension and fear. I still get scared that I'll gain it back, I don't
trust myself to follow through, but so far it's working and I feel
different about this change in my life more than I've ever felt before.
Mostly because it's so much easier now and I don't feel like I'm biting my
nails. It's OK not to be excited, the surgery will still happen and your
life is going to change for the better. Good luck to you.
— Debra R.
November 22, 2006
Hi, I hope this helps. I have been there done that, but would not change a
thing. Yesterday was my 1 year surgery anniversery. In one year I went from
349lbs to 173.5lbs! I don'tknow if I was ever really excited about the
surgery itself more so than the future it offfered me. Right now that
future has turned into today's reality. Good luck and God Bless.-Heather
— tazthewiz23
November 23, 2006
I do understand how you feel. First of all you are probably tired from all
the struggles involved in the approval department. I too feared I would get
to the hospital on my surgery date and be sent home for something,
anything... but cheer up!! Help is on the way. You are probably dreading
the actual surgery and the all the changes that come with the new
lifestyle. Trust me, you will love it!! Once the weight strarts to come off
all you will want to do is follow the program and lose,lose,lose!! Take a
deep breath, throw all the junk food out of your pantry and head for the
hospital. I am out 14 months and I have NEVER been happier. I look
fantastic, feel younger and have the energy of a 20 yr old. I even love my
job more, and enjoy being able to clean my house and help others whenever I
can. Do not back out of the surgery. It is a gift, for me a miracle.
CarolS
— carols
November 27, 2006
HELLO, I FEEL YOU COMPLETELY...I HAVE WAITED 2 YEARS TO HEAR MY SURGERY
DATE (DEC 5TH) AND NOW I JUST CAN'T GET EXCITED...EVERYONE AROUND ME AT
WORK AND HOME CAN'T STOP TALKING ABOUT IT. I HAVE MY PRE-OP TOMORROW AND I
HAVE THIS AWFUL FEELING THAT MY SURGEON IS GOING TO FIND SOME EXCUSE TO
CANCEL MY SURGERY...ISN'T THAT AWFUL? DOWN DEEP SOMEWHERE I KNOW IT'S GOING
TO HAPPEN AND I KNOW THAT IT WILL BE WORTH IT BUT I'M JUST NOT THERE
YET...I'M SORRY IF THIS DIDN'T HELP, I JUST WANTED TO LET YOU KNOW YOU'RE
NOT ALONE.
— msarcia2u
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