Question:
Is it normal to be so emotional?

I am three days away from my RNY. Since yesterday I haven't stopped crying. I am not having second thoughts but I just can't stop these tears. I feel like I have so much to do before hand with my two small children. My husband is supportive but I don't think he'll ever really understand what I am going through. I just wish that I could stop crying. Is this normal? Did anyone else go this this?    — Dorothy D. (posted on April 7, 2001)

April 7, 2001
Yes it is normal to be emotional. You are about to make the greatest change in your life. No your husband probably don't understand but he is probably just as worried as you are. So what you need to do is think positive. Everytime a negative comes in your mind counteract it with a postive statement. I don't know if you do a lot of meditating but I do and it helps me greatly. I use affirmations to calm my mind of negative thoughts. If you want them email me and I will send them to you.
   — Sharon T.

April 7, 2001
Boy can I relate! I didn't get that emotional until about 24 hours before my surgery though, but once it started I was a wreck. You're right about your husband not realy understanding, unless you've been there you can't really know what a person is going through. That's why I love this site so much, because we can relate to the experiences of others. My advise is to take some deep breaths and relax. Try to get out of the house and take your mind off of what you are going through. Have some fun with your husband and children. You will be just fine.
   — georgiacarol

April 7, 2001
4/7/01 i know just how you feel i am going through the same thing, i will be haveing mine(RNY open)in three days and i to am like that.good luck and let me know if you find any thing that helps. i hope we both make it to the other side before we fall apart.
   — Brenda M.

April 7, 2001
Call your doctor & explain what's going on. Most likely, unless it would affect your surgery, the doctor can prescribe something like Valium or Xantax(sp?) to help deal with the stress.
   — Lynn E.

April 7, 2001
It's Ok....it will soon be where you are thinking the thoughts I'm thinking "Wow I can't beleave it's been 11 weeks since my surgery and I've lost 50lbs..."...I didn't cry..I just sat trembled all over for a couple days. This too will pass.Hugs...
   — Debora H.

April 7, 2001
I am 2 days from surgery. April 10th 10:00am. I too am getting the emotional crazies. I started a few days ago and I was thinking i may be making a mistake. I keep looking for signs from God I am doing the right thing. I have 2 little girls and I want to see them grow up and i want to see my grandbabies....I keep having nightmares that I am standing and looking into a grave. Then I have moments of peace and calm where I know I will be ok. I want to be near my daughters and laugh every minute. Tuesday seems like its closing in so fast and in some ways i feel like I may not see Wednesday....My thought patterns are irrational and like a rollercoaster...I am not crying though...I did almost start tonight when i visited my mom and kissed her goodbye. I wont see her till after surgery. Yeah...I think what youre feeling is normal...LOL
   — Tracy L.