Question:
I have to go to Kobe Steakhouse with potential in-laws tonight. What do I order?
My future in-laws know I had wls six weeks ago yesteday. I have been invited to the first family event tonight so I have to go. I am scared. I have no idea what to order. I have not had red meat in 7 weeks. I want to be sociable and have the head of the family (who I have never met) really like me. I am leary of eating and possibly getting sick out in public. Anyone familar with this japanese steakhouse and what I might order? I would appreciate any answers if you are online on Friday. I wish I had thought to ask yall for advice yesterday. (Ann in TX, -45 lbs, 3/7/03 open rny) — Ann B. (posted on April 18, 2003)
April 18, 2003
try soup and salad or fruit and chew chew chew and eat slowly.
— Tammy P.
April 18, 2003
They know you had surgery so don't worry too much. Do NOT try anything you
haven't tried yet, you are asking for disaster. They will likely have a
broth like soup. Chicken or seafood, any meat just cut into nibblet size
pieces and go slow. Enjoy the company and don't focus on the food. Have
fun and good luck.
— Dana S.
April 18, 2003
Kobe also has seafood. Try a "light" fish dish or shrimp. They do
cook it "your way" if you ask. An appetizer would be best as an
entree, otherwise you'll be bringing food home. Good Luck!
— M B.
April 18, 2003
HI Ann. Hmmm.. what I would do since I have been in your shoes, I would
just order an appetizer, and cut in very small bites, and eat slowly. Or,
and I do this all the time, I just ask for another place setting, and have
a few bites from my hubby's plate. And do sit on the outside of seating
arrangements, if at all possible, for that quick exit to the bathroom!!
Your exit does not have to be grand to cause you to be the focus of
attention, but you can make a subtle exit if need be, to the bathroom. Give
no explanations when you get back. Relax and enjoy the evening. This is a
first of many evenings eating out, I am sure. Believe me, this all does get
better, and easier! Best of luck to you, and tell us when you get back, how
everything went. I will be checking for a report. LOL (((HUGS))) AWESOME
weight loss, too!!
— kd
April 18, 2003
We just went to the Japanese steak house here a few weeks ago and I was
thinking about how I wouldn't have to order anything next time we go
because I should be post op by then. So my suggestion is to order the broth
type soup, skip the salad(not very tasty anyway)and have your fiance order
a bigger meal than he would normally and eat the fish,shrimp or chicken off
of his plate. My husband ordered the Emperor's feast which had all of this
on it plus Filet Mignon, way too much for him to eat. Watch the sauces
that they put on it those might look ok but if you don't know the
ingrediants they could cause you to dump. I am still preop so these are
just my suggestions from trying to figure out for myslef which places will
be better for me to eat at after my surgery when hubby and I want to go out
for dinner. Have fun!
— S C.
April 18, 2003
Hi there! I have a suggestion that's not related to your food choice. Just
be honest with them! You don't have to have a giant family discussion
about wls and the food-choice rules and consequences behind it. Just be
causual and breezy! Ask your signif other before you go to kind of
"stick by your side" when it comes to ordering and help you by
maybe doing some of the previous suggestions (ordering more food that you
can eat off of his plate). You said that they know you had wls, so when
you get your menu, if the opportunity presents, just casually say as you
scan "Wow, this is the first time I've been to a restaurant since
surgery, I'm not sure what would be best for me to order", then when
you find something just say "Hmmm, I think I'm going to try just
ordering an appetizer (or soup or whatever) so I don't push it too
soon". Just treat it as an adventure for you since you're not really
sure what your pouch can handle yet. I know you want to make a good
impression, but if they are decent people, they will understand. Who
knows, maybe they'll want to know more information about your surgery.
Good luck!
— beeda
April 18, 2003
I would order the soup. I ate a lot of asian-style soups early on. I also
agree with the shrimp if you've tried it before. Most early postops do well
with that, too. Just don't get to talking and forget to chew!
— ctyst
April 18, 2003
i disagree with eating off your S O's plate in front of his family. My
daughter-in-law did this (not because of wls but just to make people look
at her, i think) while we were on vacation with some friends and some of
the friends family that we did not know very well. I could have died at
this girl's table manners. Stick to the soup or appetizer or something you
can take home.
— Delores S.
April 18, 2003
This is what I would do. Try the Less Is Best theory. Less food is best
anyway and SO IS LESS INFORMATION. I think it is becomming when a woman
doesn't eat a large amount and choses to eat healthy. Also, use that to
your advantage and spend your time talking and getting to know them instead
of eating! I wouldn't say anything at all about surgery to them. Have a
good time!
— Marcy G.
April 18, 2003
For the first couple of months post-op I would only got to Japanese
resturants and order the sashimi appetizer. GOD I love that stuff! And it's
like ALL protein!
— DrQ
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