Question:
I drink with my meals is this really horrible will I fail?

I'm 6 weeks post-op and I've tried and tried, but I just can't eat w/o drinking. I always only drink water, and just little sips but I drink about a glass per meal and I know that's horrible. I've heard it can hurt the pouch, it can wash too much food down, etc.. I've lost 42 lbs and according to my doctor that's pretty good. I make the meals stretch real long (45 min to an hour) and I stop when I'm full... Has anyone made it to goal while still drinking with meals?    — Leah S. (posted on March 17, 2003)


March 16, 2003
There are two reasons that you should not drink with your meals. Number one it will push the food through your pouch faster, that will cause you to become hungry again faster and encourage grazing throught the day. The other reason is the food will move so fast that your body will not have enough time to absorb the vitamins and minerals in the food, which could lead to deficiencies. I am not saying that I have never done it, we probably all have. But I do try to limit it. Only one or two sips here and there.
   — Linda A.

March 16, 2003
Actually, you are probably doing some harm by eating over such a long period of time (45-60 minutes) along with drinking with your meals. I think that you should be taking 30 minutes tops for your meals. If you take too much longer, food will be leaving your pouch while you are still eating (especially if you are drinking while you are eating) - allowing you to eat more than you otherwise would be able to. Even at 8 months, I measure out my food and don't eat more than that (but I do drink while I eat though *G*). It hasn't seemed to have affected your weight-loss at this point - 42 pounds in 6 weeks *is* pretty good - but it might affect it later on...JR (open RNY 07/17 -157 lbs)
   — John Rushton

March 17, 2003
Hi Leah! Your profile doesn't give any information on how much you can eat at each meal, but I can only assume you can eat more with these eating habits than if you ate without drinking. <p> I agree with John, the amount of time you are taking per meal is way too much! What I've found is if you take longer to eat a meal, you can eat more.. sometimes twice as much, and if you are drinking with your meals, you are probably able to eat ALOT more than if you follow the pouch rules for dummies. Limit your meals to 10-15 minutes and try to drink up until the meal and not for 1 hour afterwards. I know the drinking part is hard to do (It is for me too!) but maybe you could make your food moister and not too spicy, that might help. By the way, you are losing weight great right now, but you don't have to do much to lose weight that early post-op. What if you could lose MORE? Good luck to you!!
   — thumpiez

March 17, 2003
I think it would be interesting for you to post why you can't stop drinking with your meals. You said that you "know that's horrible," and you listed some good reasons not to do it, but you didn't say why you can't stop. That may be somthing important to think about. I suspect that as the other posters mentioned, if you ate more quickly, you would fill up faster and perhaps not need to have the water to keep the food going in. In fact, I find that I can't drink with my meals, because it hurts, but I never take more than 20 minutes to eat.
   — Amber L.

March 17, 2003
Some things that may help you are to consume more water throughout the day so maybe you won't be as thirsty at meals. Also try sucking on some ice cubes with your meal instead of drinking liquid. (I am 10 months out and still have to do this sometimes.)
   — sheltie

March 17, 2003
Personally, I have drank with my meals from Day 1. It's been a little over 10 months since my surgery and I've lost over 155 pounds so far, so I don't think it has hampered my weight loss at all. I weigh around 165 now and I'm only 15 pounds from goal. I honestly could not get nearly enough down if I didn't wash everything down with water. I still occasionally have problems eating, and if I didn't drink with my meals, I'd be eating way too little, especially for my activity level. My labs have come back with excellent results too.
   — R. P.

March 17, 2003
The reason I follow the no-eating-and-drinking rule (at the same time, that is), is because I think it does help us feel fuller, longer, if we don't drink with meals. Also, in terms of long-term success, I think it helps to have developed a habit that necessary slows down, or interrupts, your ability to graze all day. If I feel like eating again, because of "head" hunger, I drink something instead -- which then means I have to wait 30 minutes to eat. Often, I really do find this eliminates the hunger (though this never worked before, when I was a pre-op). So, weight loss aside, I think it helps with maintenance, as one of many coping mechanism to help you avoid overeating and regaining in the years to come.<P>And as an aside, I don't believe it makes any difference whether you drink or not with meals in terms of vitamin and nutrient absorption. If that were true, people would be achieving weight loss by deliberately drinking a lot of liquids with their meals. Not even The National Enquirer has tried to sell *that* diet!.
   — Suzy C.

March 17, 2003
I agree with Rea, I am 20 months postop and have lost 215# and am at goal.I have drank with my meals from the start and it never hampered my weight loss..nor did it make me feel any less full..or for a shorter amount of time..I think it's different for everyone..my theory is..whatever works best for you! we're all different and make different choices but as long as we're losing, happy and healthy..thats all that counts :)
   — [Deactivated Member]

March 17, 2003
JMO----but I dont feel drinking water with your meals is soo bad, however, i wouldnt drink a glass with your meals cuz you want your body to be able to get full with the food and not the water, and also you want your body to get the vitamines it needs from the food, if your drinking alot of water you could be pushing what you need out before it settles. does that make sense? i sip water during meal time cuz i cant NOT do that, I dont do it all the time just when i need to sip..I have lost 135 pnds and so with that said, i dont feel it hampers with your weight loss. Just be carefull to not deprive your body of the vitamines it needs.
   — Deanna Wise

March 17, 2003
I take some sips with my meals...I am 3 months post op and down 65 lbs....so far doesn't seem to hurt anything. I do recommend you spend ALOT less time with your meals though...Eating that slow turns into grazing, and grazing is the main thing that can cause us to gain our weight back
   — thekatinthehat

March 17, 2003
At 6 weeks post-op, you are not getting in enough food/calories right now, nor do you probably have alot of hunger at this early stage for drinking to make a difference. The goal though is to develop good pouch habits early on so that later on you will have a routine down pat when you need it. Many months from now when hunger is an issue, and it is important to keep food in the pouch as long as possible without washing it away in order to keep that full feeling, you will have already developed this good pouch habit. Sips with meals is OK, a whole glass of water is not. Those who say they drink with meals, I'd like to see them at 3 years post-op to see if they have kept the weight off. The others are also right about shortening meal time. Again, not a big difference at 6 weeks, but important down the road-15 minutes max per meal.
   — Cindy R.

March 17, 2003
Cindy, I don't necessarily agree with that..I am almost 2 years postop..and am at goal..i've lost 215# and exercise 6 days a week..tyhe support group I attend which my doctor started has over 145 members and many of us have drank with our meals..our surgeon never told us we couldn't..and many are more than 5 years postop and have done just fine..I think it's a personal decision..you have to do what works for YOU..everyone is different..everyone's doctor gives different instructions..doesn't mean that any of our choices are wrong..just different..and we can always agree to disagree..have a great night :)
   — [Deactivated Member]

March 17, 2003
If I drink with my meals I get hungry MUCH faster. Do what works for you, but be aware that it could slow down your weight loss if it causes you to eat more often. It's probably too early for you to see the difference now, but after the honeymoon period is over and hunger returns it could affect you.
   — mom2jtx3

March 17, 2003
Hi all... first thanks for all of your answers/suggestions you guys are the best... Second as to why I drink the water even though I know this is wrong, honestly I have no clue. Lately, I like to chew my food up to a pulp before I swallow, and a little sip of water helps me mush it up real good (sounds kinda gross). I guess I'm kind of paranoid about swallowing something in too big a piece since I'm eating "real" food. As for the grazing (and taking way too long at meals) If I'm lucky I eat tiny bits of food three times a day... honestly I haven't had a hungry moment since surgery so I don't really think I'm grazing yet. But I can see that I may develop this habit when I do have the hungries. My biggest problem: I think in my head, I come from a big Italian family... and when I eat with them (almost all the time) a meal is a very long production... I feel kinda stupid eating up my little medallion of meat and tiny bit of salad then sit there looking at everyone (especially since I know they're watching me BECAUSE of the surgery). So I guess this leads to another question... If I shouldn't eat meals that go on for more than a half an hour what do I do at the table when everyone is still there? (Dancing and singing are out!!! LOL)
   — Leah S.




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