Question:
If all goes well, how will I feel 2 weeks after my Open RNY?

My surgery is scheduled for December 10th. I'm starting to get concerned about Christmas. I plan to have my shopping done before I go into the hospital, but my worry is Christmas Day itself. I have 3 young children and I don't want to ruin their day. Our usual tradition is to visit the homes of two of my sisters and one good friend. No one will expect me to do much of anything during these visits, but will I be up for them? I'm thinking it may be easier than staying home and feeling responsible for dinner, etc. I really would love to enjoy our traditions because they mean so much to us, but I also want to be realistic. Any thoughts? Thanks, guys.    — Donna L. (posted on September 27, 2001)

September 27, 2001
Well, everyone handles pain differently. My mom came to help me for 4 days when I came home...as I have a 3 yr old. On the forth day she went home and I had to do it all. When my husband came home I let him take over. Im not going to say you will feel 100% in 2 wks...however you will feel somewhat better...I feel you will be able to enjoy Christmas just dont lift anything....at all! Sit back and relax and let them dig into their presents and enjoy the moment. I am 6 wks out now and I am finally feeling perfect. So good luck and just take care of yourself and listen to what your body needs. All The Best! Melissa
   — Melissa S.

September 27, 2001
Donna, I am TEN days out and feeling great! I was in the hospital five days, and that was uneventful. I have a 20 month old and with special instruction from my doctor, have been lifting her since the second day I was home without a problem (she is 27 lbs). I think you will be fine, just don't set yourself up as the "hostess with the mostess" -- in fact, I would definitely plan to go to OTHER people's houses and let them know that YOU will not be eating much of anything (and bring something pureed in a 1/2 cup rubbermaid container to nuke while you're there). Make sure someone is there to help you with your kids, and get them home before they are too tired and whiney if possible. I bet you'll do fine!
   — Julia M.

September 27, 2001
I think you should tell everyone you may or may not be there. At two weeks I definitely was not ready to resume the social circuit, other than one on one or a couple people at most. I have visited family and friends and am now 4 weeks postop. I cannot each much of anything still, and have thrown up every time. I still feel tired after three hours. Don't overdo it. As far as holiday shopping, i wholeheartedly agree that being done well in advance is an excellent idea. Giftwrapping should be done in advance, as well.
   — michelle R.

September 27, 2001
I think that for me the turning point was about day 10 when I started to feel so much better. It is wise to go to others homes, if it is not for a very long visit, and to just sit and enjoy your time with your family. It is important to keep your traditions going with your family. You will be tired, won't be able to or want to eat much, but that is okay because it is all about sharing the special times, isn't it? Just take it easy the day of the event before you go and you will probably be just fine!
   — Molly S.